Erica - posted on 11/26/2010 ( 9 moms have responded )
Yup, I'm a lurker here, and I'm finally going a little more public on this one, just because it's something that's been bugging me as of late.
I know a lot of Pagan families have problems with family members trying to force other religions on their children (like a good Catholic upbringing). Has anyone had the same problem with Pagans and their family? Am I the only one who is having Paganism pushed on my children?
I'm not saying I don't want my children exposed to Paganism. They've been to ritual before. They went to a festival (that no one warned me was clothing optional!) though we only stayed one day because I got sick. We listen to chants in the car and my daughter loves to sing them. My daughter wants to set up her own altar once she's no longer sharing a room. It seems like she's really coming into choosing Paganism for herself, which isn't surprising since it's my spiritual path, as well as my boyfriend's. I would mention her father, but she's never really seen her father involved in spirituality in any way.
Unfortunately, I'm getting a lot of pressure in the community to be specifically raise my children to be Pagan. I'm finding that other parents think I should be teaching my children about the Goddess (or God and Goddess) and forsaking all other spiritual paths. Personally, I find that more of an unbalanced education than singing only chants with my children, and the occasional song from Disney. I want my children to have a well rounded education once we start discussing spirituality and religion so they can choose for themselves. Since the country I live in was founded on Christian based religions, I feel it's almost vital to understand those religions, and all mainstream religions that affect our culture in order to better understand the way the world works, and not to look down on them. I don't want my children to be one of those Pagans that can tell any Christian at least fifteen ways that their Bible is wrong because that's what I've taught my children. I want them to figure it out for themselves and choose what they believe in.
I guess I'm really asking if I'm the only parent that feels pressured to raise their children in as Pagan, or more accurately, in a particular tradition of Paganism? Am I the only one receiving pressure to raise my children in a Pagan spiritual path that isn't my own? If anyone else has gone through that, how have you handled it? What's worked for you?