Who is raising their child Pagan?

Amy - posted on 09/28/2010 ( 25 moms have responded )

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I'm becoming depressed. Where are all the other Pagan children? All of the conversations I have come across is Pagan Moms allowing their children to be raised Christian, even when the Christian experience was unpleasant in their own childhood! I'm not exactly against Christianity, I just find it irritating that even our own children are conditioned to believe that Paganism is not "mainstream" and really the one true religion is Christianity because we would teach Paganism if were real.

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Timo - posted on 08/25/2014

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I'm looking for help raising a child in pagan ways myself, My gf is pagan, but doesnt know to much, and she wants her daughter to learn. Her daughter is 3 and asking questions, and i was hoping someone might know a way to teach children.

Lexi - posted on 03/14/2014

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Me and my love are planning on raising our son pagan/wicca. it is what we follow and believe and i an dearly excited to start

Raven - posted on 09/22/2013

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We have 3 kids being brought up Pagan. There is a UU church nearby where we can gather for esbats. We always have sabbats at home. It is my dream to go to Edinburgh where the University is celebrating fire rituals especially Beltane on Fire Hill. I have one kid off to college now, and she's proud we're Pagan. It's hard for her sometimes. We don't eat food with pesticides etc. and her roommates are having a hard time with her. Back in the day, some kids weren't allowed over to my house anymore because they saw me throwing tarot. She was bullied and called a dyke, because she did a project on civil rights for LGBT. My son was invited to "Easter" by the neighbors. He told them about Ostara being much older, and asked them why they "fear" God. He has not been invited back. His teacher is openly Catholic, as is his baby sitter. We have taught him who he is, but also how not to get swatted. How not to invite reprisal. It's much better for him than my oldest, maybe my baby will be allowed to take our holidays off at school and nobody will bat an eye. Blessed Be.

Samyeking20 - posted on 07/15/2013

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I'm a mother of a six month old son. He is being raised in the Wiccan faith (I'm an eclectic) and as my husband is agnostic he's okay with this. My inlaws are Catholic and they are having a seriously hard time with my beliefs and my son being raised in them. I don't want my son to have to deal with the same thing his daddy did-being forced to every church event and every sacrament regardless if he wanted to or not. I want my son to have a mature understanding of religion and that everyone chooses the path that is right to him or her.
It's going to be fine til he starts school. Then I'm going to have to teach him that there are people who would rather tear him down for the things he believes in rather than bring him up and let him be himself. It's a struggle in this world to stay true to your own self. I hope he can. And if he gets older and chooses another path, I will be okay with that. My son can follow his heart and I will respect that.

Jillian - posted on 03/15/2013

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I am raising my two children pagan. My son's father (my ex) is catholic and his family is very catholic. So when my son is with his dad he learns about that religion as well. I would hope they would follow in a similar path to mine. But whatever my children choose I will be okay with (as long as it hurts no one).

App+7mnejhu - posted on 02/11/2013

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My fiancée doesn't have a religion
Particular religion he believes there is a kind of higher power. I an wiccan. Our son is two. I plan on raising wiccan bite I'm not going up force it upon him. he will be exposed to christianity add well since both our families are.

WolfMoon - posted on 01/07/2013

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I am. We're Pagan, this is a Pagan household. Being parents, I feel that it's only natural to want to share the joys and wonder our path (whatever it may be) with our children. But we're also going to educate them on other paths and religions, then if they wish to follow another, it'll be encouraged for them to follow their hearts, not what society expects of them. ~)O(~

Donna - posted on 12/25/2012

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I personally am going to raise my baby as a Pagan, but he/she is going to be brought up with other beliefs as well. Right now I am fighting with my parents who are saying that the baby needs to be Christened as a Protestant, as I was, and that I have no choice in the matter. I told my parents that he/she will be blessed my belief system as a protection, and when the High Priestess says Lord and Lady, they can think of their God and the Virgin Mary (My dad and stepmom are Catholic). I told my parents that I will not force any one religion on them. They will be raised mostly in my belief system, as I will be a single mother, will learn Buddhism by the father, and Christianity from both sides of my family, as well as the father's family. I have already had the talk with my parents telling them not to force their beliefs down my child's throat and tell them that I am going to Hell, and so are they for following Paganism.

Alison - posted on 12/04/2012

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Many Pagan parents feel that their religion isn't the only path and that it is better for the child to choose their own faith when they are able to have a mature understanding of their spiritual beliefs. These parents will often educate their children about many different religions. Christians, on the other hand, believe that you must teach children early what it means to be Christian and how to stay Christianly because it prevents them from straying to an "untrue" religion. So, this naturally puts stress on Pagan families whenever their children come in contact with Christian parents and their children who will have no problem telling a Pagan child that they are wrong in their beliefs. Children are very impressionable and may believe what they are told, especially if it happens often through school events, prayers, other parents... etc. I'm raising my child Pagan. I'm letting her know that this is her mother's and father's religion and that there are many other Pagans out there. This is what she'll follow until she's able to understand the differences between religious beliefs. She will know that they are wrong to bully her, and that if Christians were acting in her best interest, they would not make her feel bad or use fear to turn her away from her family's religious beliefs.

Nicole - posted on 09/09/2011

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I am raising my daughter Pagan during my parenting time and she is exposed to Christianity during her dad's parenting time. I take her to a Metaphysical church, which is interfaith and celebrates Pagan holidays in addition to the other holidays. :)

Denikka - posted on 09/09/2011

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I will be raising my children on a pagan path. My son is now 2.5 (oldest, daughter is only 7.5mo) and until now, I have kept my active practices to a minimum. I mostly deal with meditation and the like, and that usually occurs AFTER he's already asleep.
I'm excitedly waiting the day that he turns 7 and I start to involve him in what I do. (the age of 7 is involved in my personal beliefs) As he starts getting a little older and understanding a little more, like 4 or 5, I'll start introducing little things, like the holidays and herb lore etc into his schooling. I intend on homeschooling, so right along with learning his ABC's and his 123's, he'll be learning plant identification, constellations, and a myriad of other things.

I do wish more people would actively raise their children on the Path, partially to be able to have a wider peer group, but to each their own.

Leanne - posted on 06/21/2011

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i'm raising my son to be spiritual, though i am teaching him about my religious beliefs. he should be able to follow his own path....in that, he needs support and knowledge. that's what i can give him :)

Jessica - posted on 06/20/2011

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I wouldn't say I am raising them pagan... just that they are growing up in a pagan home and that I will facilitate them in whatever path (religion) they choose. I am a proud wiccan... solitary... kinda (my best friend is wiccan and Buddhist but I am not sure if, by modern standards you can call us a coven). I must also confess that I was taught with very OLD teachings and by the code that it goes by I can't very well brainwash them like I have seen many christian kids done to. For now, I will teach them to respect nature and be good people. I leave the religious stuff alone until they are old enough to start choosing (different for each kid.... though usually when they begin to decide that just cuz an adult says it doesn't mean its true... like the tooth fairy or Santa clause...). Just saying. I was brought up by a pagan mother (until she died) and I picked rather early (4 or 5). My brother on the other hand was not ready till ten or eleven. Depends on the kid... and My mother rotated what kind of religious temple or church we went to weekly to teach us about different paths (though I told her I was QUITE sure). The values are the most important part to me. I will raise them with the values and code of Wicca but I will not consider them "pagan"... because that is their choice. My greatest hurdle in attempting to wait for the religious exposure is that our neighbors (die-hard Christians) keep preaching to my oldest son... who is only sixteen months old. So its a hard conversation when I turn around and have to answer his questions when he asks what it means... I just find a way to explain that mommy believes something different than they do and that they believe what they told him... but other people believe different things. I just want him to be able to choose what his heart chooses... not what some neighbors (in laws, or church) try to brainwash him into.

Sara - posted on 06/19/2011

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I am raising my children Pagan. But also sharing with them when they ask questions about other faiths. I believe in the end they will choose the path that is right for them, as I have. Just as I don't want to be told how to worship, neither do I want to force that on my children. As of right now they are definitely choosing Paganism. :)

User - posted on 06/02/2011

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I am raising my two children (6 and 2) in my pagan path and also my 11 yro neice and nephew (with parent apporval). however, my in-laws are entirely Christian and I work for my mother-in-law's church in their nursery so my two children go to church every week and my 6 yro does go to Sunday school. I have taught her that everyone beilves what feels right to them and she seems to understand this. I would prefer, to keep from confusing her, to keep her out of the church until she was a little older before exposing her to other religions, but I also believe that she has the right to learn about other religions so she may make an informed choice later on. My husband, an athiest, agrees with this.
Yes, I am raising my children to be pagan, but mainly I am raising them to be good, honest, loving, and open minded.

Etheena - posted on 05/04/2011

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I plan on raising my kids in the pagan religion. My hubby, their dad is christian, hopefully they will get the best out of both religions...

Kathleen - posted on 04/27/2011

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Hello there.

My husband and myself are raising our boys in what we practice, heathenry, but they are also exposed to Christianity because most of our family practices it. I want my kids to be opened minded and excepting of all religious beliefs even if they are not except of ours. Of course it also helps that group of people we practice with also have children that are being raised in the same way, so we have a support system that some people on this path do not.

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Since My DD is only 4 right now she watches me but I explain that the main deal is don't be bad be good I do hope she follows my beliefs but in the end it iss her choice. But she will be growing up in a pagan home

Cathie - posted on 01/08/2011

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i am wiccan and raising my son as such i feel tht he will be able to choose what he wants to believe when he's a little older like say 14 unless he expresses a genuine dislike for wicca in which case i think i will back off on the subject for a while

Shannon - posted on 12/10/2010

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I have 5 children ranging in ages from 1 year to 18. They have always been exposed to many religions, I believe that knowledge is power and they will find their own path when they are ready. I live in a predominantly Catholic community which is a challenge but I have faith that my kids will choose the path that is right for them, just as I have !!

Jeanie - posted on 10/15/2010

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I'm Pagan but I don't want to teach my kids about religion until they are of an of reason (around 12) She's 6 now (9months for the other), it bugs me a little when her biomom takes her to church but I cant and wont stop it. I mean its for her to decide when it's time. She knows I don't agree with Christianity and we've had several conversations why. I just dont think it's something that should be on her mind at her age. I teach her to be nice, respectful and empathetic. In time I will teach her about Paganism but I will also compare to other religions and remind her that nothing religious is truly factual and therefore its important for her to follow her heart.

Beth - posted on 10/12/2010

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We raise our three kids to have open minds.
They know that my husband i are pagan and they ask questions and get answers... they also know that there is other religions out there and get answers when asking bout those also ... we will help them look stuff up online of we do not know the answers ... My father and his wife switched to a Jewish faith a few months back , most of the families on either side is Christian one form or another.

Tiffany - posted on 10/02/2010

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i am also raising my daughter with an open mind and i do let the grandparents take her to church with them on the weekends but i wouldnt say i am raising her christian all my family and friends know that i'm not against it but am teaching my child there is more out there than just church...i have talked to alot of ppl and they are more about letting the religion come to the child the same it came to them...i know it's frustrating for me because you dont find that many "ethnic" ppl especially in the bible belt that will even listen to anything outside of the "exceptable" religions

Joanna - posted on 10/01/2010

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Hi there,
My daughters teacher actually respects the fact that I'm pagan and does take the holiday's into consideration. The School as to, mainly because of the different culters we have here. Some culters here don't even celebrate christmas. So, when my daughter's separation anxiety acts up and she feels that she needs to wear moms necklace to feel closer... no one bats an eye. Usually its always the new substitute teachers that give looks though. I try not to force my path on her, but I do want her to know the importance of nature. I don't really associate with the other parents, but have small talk occasionally. Everyone is pretty nice. But I'm sure I'll run into some looks along the way as my daughter grades and get's older.

Angela - posted on 10/01/2010

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I raise my children to be open minded. My experience with Christianity was that is was nice but not for me. The fact of the matter is that it might be for my kids though. Who am I to push my beliefs on them like Christianity was pushed on me. I expose my children to as many religious facets as I can so that they can decide what is right for their life. My step daughters are being raised Catholic by their mother and they are exposed to pagan practices by me at our home. My oldest from my first marriage goes to a Protestant church with her father, is exposed to Catholicism from her step sisters, her best friend is Mormon, I sent her to a Christian preschool, she is exposed to the pagan path through me, and I also teach her some Buddhism and other spiritual paths. My two youngest children are exposed to all the various paths as well. I want them to know they needs to find what feels right for their life in their heart on their own when the time is right. I don't want to force something on them like it was forced on me and like I see it being forced on my step daughters by their mother. Paganism is very real but just cause it is right for you doesn't mean it is right for everyone. Don't force it on your kids. Expose them to your views and allow them the choice of whether they want to participate with you or not.

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