11 year old with belly button piercing.

Brandy - posted on 07/27/2010 ( 29 moms have responded )

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Watched wife swap tonight and one of the moms was really into appearances, encouraging her pre-teens to wear makeup and the one daughter even said she had her belly button pieced when she was 11 years old! Would you ever?

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Charlie - posted on 07/27/2010

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I dont really see how its any different to having ears pierced , if she is old enough to take care of it then so be it .

Mae - posted on 07/28/2010

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NO! NO! NO! I understand being into appearances I think everyone likes to look nice and likes their children to look nice, but NO WAY would I let my 11 year old get a belly button piercing. Now don't get me wrong I have 14 piercings and not all of them are "wholesome" but I didn't get mine until I was old enough to pay for them myself. Piercing draw you eyes toward certain areas if you like it or not and the last thing I want is for some guy's eyes to be drawn down toward my daughters waist and possibly lower. Now if she waited a few years until she was 16 or 17 then yeah fine wahtever I'm okay with that she's close enough to adulthood and in some places wouldn't need my permission anyways.

Joanna - posted on 07/28/2010

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I don't know WHY they'd need a navel piercing at 11. I got mine done at 20 when I was a stripper and showing off my body. At 11, a child shouldn't be showing off her body in a manner where a piercing even matters. And as a lover of piercings, I know that as adults we get piercings for ourselves, we know that they're for us and no one else. But at 11, I'd be afraid they are getting it for reasons other than wanting one and liking it for them, I'd be afraid they are getting it to fit in, or to show off when I'm not around. That I am not okay with.

Lyndsay - posted on 07/31/2010

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I was 13 when I got mine done for the first time and I was so irresponsible, it got infected and I had to take it out shortly after. If she can take care of it, I don't have a problem with it.

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Lisa - posted on 08/30/2010

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I am pretty conservative, but I love piercings and tattoos. I have no tattoos and my ears are pierced 2 times and I have had my nose pierced. Our 16 year old has her belly pierced, a monroe, and her ears done twice. I think 11 is too young, but thats my opinion. Our 16 year old also wants a tattoo and I said ok, she wants a small one on the back of her neck, I feel take it one step at a time, her Dad and grandparents don't like it at ALL but I think the older generation thinks of tattoos for like sailors..lol

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I think 11 is a little young for any type of piercing else than the ears... 14-15 sure not before that though.

Krista - posted on 08/30/2010

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I think that what looks sexy on a 20-year old can look positively skanktacular and disturbing on an 11 year old. And yes, to me, that includes belly button piercings. My close friend's daughter is 13 years old, and has a navel piercing, a nose piercing, wears way too much makeup, and wears shirts that show off her navel. And yeah, she's getting the wrong kind of attention...surprise, surprise. And her 10-year old goes to school with a full face of makeup. I'm not going to say anything, 'cause they're her kids and her business, but I don't think this bodes well for their teenage years.

Not that I would expect my 11-year-old daughter to dress like Laura Ingalls, but nor will she be dressing like a 20-year old party girl, thank you very much.

Dawn - posted on 08/30/2010

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Sure and why not the nipples!! J/K....11 is too young for that, IMO!! I personally am against all piercings except the ears and even against that in boys, but at some point we can't really put our likes and dislikes onto our children, but at age 11, I certainly would put my foot down!! But, remember....that show is not really true-to-life and that was probrably jsut a stunt to make them look more the part. BTW: I am a sucker for Wife Swap, and am so happy I shut off my cable....I was watching all 3 episodes some days....aughhh, brain waste!!!

Crystal - posted on 08/29/2010

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i think 11 is too young but i dont have anything against belly rings as i have one and its not for a sexual reason its becuse i like it personally, i dont wear clothing to show it off its purely for myself, and as for tramp stamps i dont agree with this term cuz i certainly aint a tramp and i have one of them too and again i dont show it off its threre cuz i like it. i think once a girl is 16 she should be allowed to decide if she wants a belly piercing if its for themselves not to show off, after all it can get taken out.

Heather - posted on 08/28/2010

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I think it looks trashy on adults, let alone a 11 year old. Body piercings are done to look sexy, and an 11 year old should not be looked at as sexy IMO. To me it would be as bad as letting her get her nipples pierced...I think its just inappropriate.

Nikki - posted on 08/28/2010

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11 is too young, however at 12 I wanted one, my parents wouldn't let me, so I did it myself, hopefully my child is more obedient than me!!

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I have to agree with Mae on this one. I'm not going to let my daughter have her ears pierced until about 11, only because by then she'll be able to look after them. I got mine done at 6 (after hounding my mother because my cousins had them done) and they got infected and really gross. When she's 16, she can get any others piercing or even tattoos for all I care (though I have none. Never got the ears repierced.), but til then, No way.

Jennifer - posted on 08/28/2010

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11 is way too young for a belly ring in my opinion. Why is anyone seeing an 11 year old girls navel anyway?

Sarah - posted on 07/30/2010

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I definatly got my naval pierced to look sexy. I was 21 and bartending, wearing tops that showed off a lot of skin. Everyone I know that has/had their naval pierced was to look sexy and that is something no 11 year old should be doing.
I love piercings/tattoos so don't get me wrong, but it should be for consenting adults only.
And Kati is right, naval piercings are incredibly hard to keep clean- amazing how dirty your belly button gets. When I was preggo I had to have my piercing lanced, b/c it had healed up (years ago) over an infected area and as my belly grew, it started to spurt out grossness. (sorry for the mental image- but it was so not ok) And before anyone wonders about my hygeine, I am very clean, thank you! :)

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I wasn't allowed to have my ears pierced until I was 16 years old, mainly because we couldn't wear them at school. If I have a daughter I'd let her have her ears pierced when she's old enough to decide for herself and keep them clean. As for a navel piercing they can have that done when they can pay for it themselves!

Corena - posted on 07/29/2010

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Mae took the words right out of my mouth. We have had this discussion with our daughter. The answer was no.

April - posted on 07/28/2010

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No. not at 11. it IS different from ear piercing because no one really looks at your ears, but with a naval ring, your eyes go to the belly and below. i am not worried as much about appearances as i am about the underlying message. and it is NOT the same message as wearing a skirt or bathing suit, even though both draw eyes towards certain areas of the body. the naval ring is more of a symbolic thing (like the tramp stamp)

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Nope. Of course, my 8.5 year olds don't have their ears pierced yet either. Maybe they will by 10 or 11.

I am raising them (as best I can) to understand that appearance does NOT matter. As long as they are neat and well cared for... all that matters is what is on the inside. :) I think they may be learning that lesson a little too well though as they frequently forget to brush their hair.... ;)

Amy - posted on 07/28/2010

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I'd be more concerned about what my child is wearing then if they have a belly button ring. Why would an 11 year old need a belly button ring anyway, is she wearing shirts that are too short for her? It makes me sad when I see young kids dressing so old.

Rosie - posted on 07/28/2010

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yeah, i wouldn't be so comfortable with it. i think i would rather have my child tattooed than having a belly piercing at that age. i know when i got mine done it was for completely sexual reasons. i just don't see that particular piercing for anything other than to look "sexy". no 11 year old needs to look sexy.



and also naval piercings are WAY harder to maintain than a regular piercing anywhere else. i got mine pierced twice, and (had to take it out cause i was pregnant) each time it never healed properly, was gross and infected all the time, and i was vigilant about cleaning it like they told me. i don't think i'd want to do that to my 11 year old.

Jackie - posted on 07/28/2010

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I agree with Mae on this one. It's not so much the act of getting the belly pierced. It's more of what kind of attention is that going to bring to an 11 year old.

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I do agree with you though, LaCi....I can't stand navel piercings and IF I was to consider letting her pierce something other than her ears, I would probably encourage something else/some other area. "IF"

LaCi - posted on 07/28/2010

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I'd consider it, I don't have anything against piercings, but I'd have to put away my particular hatred for naval piercings for a moment to try and look at it objectively. I think they're tacky as tramp stamps. In the end I'd probably allow it and hide my disgust so she wouldn't rebel and get the tramp stamp ;)

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