Adicted to make up?

Cyndel - posted on 01/20/2011 ( 36 moms have responded )

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I read this article on Yahoo, I couldn't believe the statistics on women and make up!

I only wear make up once in a blue moon. For a nice party or pictures etc. My husband prefers my natural skin unaltered so I don't wear it. It just surprised me how many women can't walk out the door with out make up on.



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Are you addicted to make up? Why or why not? If your husband asked you not to wear make up would you be willing to give it up (work not counting). Why or why not?

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Sarah - posted on 01/22/2011

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@Laura.
Don't know about everyone else, but I certainly don't think that not wearing make up means you're not trying to look your best.
I need make up for my own peace of mind, I think I look better with it on, and that makes me feel more comfortable.
I wish I didn't feel the need to wear it all the time, imagine the time I'd save for a start! lol

If your comfortable enough to not wear make up that's great, but I feel more comfortable and attractive with it on.
(it's not heavy make up I wear anyway, neutral colours and all that! lol)
:)

Brittanie - posted on 01/22/2011

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I like to wear make up if I leave the house - or if I am having visitors, If I am having a lazy day at home with the kids I generally don't put it on. But, if I am going out even just to get my son from school I will put on some foundation and mascara - at the least. I tend to think that women look more put together with make up on.

Merry - posted on 01/22/2011

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Idk if I'm the only one seeing this, but it seems like everyone who regularly wears make up is implying that not wearing make up is somehow not looking your best, not caring about your appearance, not trying to put your best face forward, etc.

I personally I don't wear make up and I do so because I do care about my presentation.

for now at least I have nothing wrong with my skin, so going natural IS caring about my appearance!

I understand if I were to have skin problems, maybe I'd think it better to do some sort of make up, but for the most part, make up covers up the problem, not fixes it. I just get the impression that women who wear make up think that the women not using it are some how frumpy, or don't care about their first impressions, or aren't trying to look their best.

Maybe some are like that, I've seen it too, but some women, maybe most women don't NEED make up and using it could make your skin worse over time.

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Medic - posted on 02/05/2011

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I am a southern bell but I don't wear one ounce of makeup. I have a huge makeup bag full of the stuff that I have never worn outside of letting my nieces play with it on my face. My husband loves me for who I am not for whether I wear makeup or not. I do kind of feel like some women feel like to be a professional you HAVE to wear make up and I have to disagree. As long as your clothes look put together and your hair brushed I don't feel that you need fake beauty. Some women I know look very pretty with their makeup but too many look like a side show. I was raised with a freaking trophy wife as a step mom and NEVER want to look fake like that. I have always been told I had amazing skin and hair people pay a lot of money for so why would I want to ruin that and not look like me.

Jessica - posted on 02/05/2011

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Well, im glad all you luckies have such great skin, but i have had problems with acne almost my whole life, and if i go out without makeup, i feel like people are looking at my acne, and not me. I dont feel anywhere close to pretty without it. So, its great for women that dont have to wear it, but lets not look down on those of us who do.Also, even if I didnt have skin problems, I would wear my makeup. To me, getting to get all dolled up is my right as a female. It makes me feel pretty, and YES i am from the south. Though I thought that was a rude remark. Its not like I look like Dolly Parton or Tammy Faye Baker. Geez, this is the third website Ive seen in the last 2 days that said something negative about southerners. We dont have any more wierdos or idiots than you have in your state, I assure you!

Wendy - posted on 01/26/2011

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I love love love love makeup! Why not make it Halloween every day, I say? I love being creative with different colors, contours and styles from different eras…etc. I love seeing the look on my husband’s face when I do something just for him. I love incorporating face and body paints quite often. I wear make up everyday but it’s not always the same routine. It depends on where I am going and what I am doing. My husband has asked me to not wear makeup on occasions which works for me too. Sometimes he likes me in what he calls more “natural looking” makeup and other times he enjoys me being as wild as I can get. I definitely love experimenting with makeup. Perhaps I never grew out of playing dress-up as a little girl. I think if I was male I’d be a drag queen…and a damned good one LOL.

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Laura H, I noticed that too, well I didn't think "everyone" who said they regularly wore makeup implied that, but several did, but conversely, I noticed that several of the posts from people who do not regularly wear make up seemed to imply to me that those who do wear it regularly were choosing vanity over time with their children, or were more concerned with societies perception of beauty than with their own comfort.



My make up takes less than a minute to apply, and makes me feel "finished" and pretty :) Like I said, I just dust on some powder, shadow and lip gloss, but I do it for me, no one else. If my husband asked me not to wear it, I would still wear it, but I might go with out it around him more often to make him happy.



EDIT: well crap, I don't see many of those comments here, and I'm realizing they were from another thread on the same subject in a different community :P But either way, I see the perceptions and really, make-up or no make-up, we should do what makes US happy :)

Alison - posted on 01/24/2011

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I am not an addict, but I will wear make-up to work and to any social events (excluding picking up kids and running to the store).



My thoughts on the subject: In the professional world, make-up is to a woman what a nicely pressed shirt is to a man. You don't look polished without it.



Wearing make-up communicates that I didn't just bounce from my bed to my desk. I think it is a way of showing whoever you are meeting that you think they are important. Showing up like a slob can be disrespectful.



*don't get me wrong, to go without make up does not necessarily mean you are a slob!

April - posted on 01/24/2011

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I never wear make up unless i am going to a party or some major event. It's too time consuming. I would rather spend less time in front of a mirror and more time playing with my son!

I DO believe there is a such thing as a make up addiction. One of my good friends is addicted. It is a pain in the butt to go anywhere with her because she spends at least an hour on her make up.

When we finally get out, she will constantly ask if her hair and make up still look good. She'll check the rear view mirrors if she is driving. She'll stare at her reflection in the window of her car if she is not driving. You get the picture. It's very annoying and somewhat irritating. HOWEVER...she is even more annoying and irritating if she goes somewhere without make up. Sometimes waiting that extra hour for her to be ready is actually worth it!

Amy - posted on 01/24/2011

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I'm just like you, I wear it once in a blue moon. With young kids, working full time, going to school full time, and pumping full time(as I have a 3 month old). I just don't have time for it. I wore it more in High School, but after that it just got in the way. I don't like how some of it feels on my skin, and if I'm too busy to wash it off at night I break out.

If I wear it, it's foundation, lipstick (sometimes), a little blush and if I wear contacts eye shadow. I really don't *NEED* much make up.

Meghan - posted on 01/24/2011

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Just thought I would share this.
J is 27 months and has recently developed a fascination with superheros...esp siderman and batman. The first Batman movie (Michael Keaton, Jack Nicholson) was on tv a few days ago and since it was one of my favs growing up I thought I would throw it on. The Joker came on and J lit up and said "Mommy, he has make up like you. He looks beautiful!"
Apparently I am going overboard LOL!

Kate CP - posted on 01/22/2011

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If I'm not going any where or not feeling well then I don't wear it. If I'm going out to shop or if I'm going to be around a lot of other people then I'll put some on. I have horrible allergy eyes, though, and need something for the circles under my eyes. Other than that I don't wear much of anything.

I wear concealer under my eyes, mascara, brow liner (I'm a red head and I have NO eyebrows otherwise), a little blush and some lip gloss. On fancy occasions I'll do the whole shebang with foundation and powder, though. I don't mind make-up...but I think some ladies (especially in the south!) go a little too far with it. :/

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I hate make up. I only wore it at work because I felt like I had to. Most eye make up I'm allergic too (it makes my eyes swell) so that means that even when I wear make-up I don't wear eye make-up.

I get comments from people when I do wear it, that make me feel self concious, like I'm doing something wrong. I've always had an acne problem and it's from the fact that my skin can't clean out it's own pores easily. So wearing make-up actually makes my face look worse the next day.

I don't like fussing with stuff. I'm the a jeans and t-shirt type. I fit in nicely with the nerds and dorks at most hobby shops... and honestly I like it that way.

Jayde - posted on 01/22/2011

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One day going to work i decided not to wear make up to help clear up my skin. When i got there one of the guys i worked with said "are you ok? You look sick, tired and like someone punched you in the eye". Yeah thanks Dom... I have a baby and i'm in the defence force of COURSE i'm tired!!! Then later on a girl that i work with said "You should use such-and-such make up and face wash, you look older than my 37 year old girlfriend" grrr I'm 22 you bitch!! Just cos your GIRLFRIEND has had BOTOX and no CHILDREN.....

I am NEVER going to work with out make up again. I look MORE professional with it on than off plus i don't get any rude comments....
Sorry i know you said excluding work but i had to add that. I only where make up if i'm going to church, or on an outing but generally dont wear any make up cos hubby likes it that way :)

Sherri - posted on 01/21/2011

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Yes I am addicted to make up. Because I feel better about myself with it on. I feel blah and unattractive without it. My husband would actually prefer I don't wear it, I don't care I wear it for me not him and No I would not give it up if he asked.

Meghan - posted on 01/21/2011

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Before I had my son I refused to leave the house without looking "perfect"...whatever the hell that is. But I think once you have kids, you do have to look at it a tad differently. I know I don't want my son thinking that woman NEED make-up, or need to be perky and toned, or whatever the hell else stereotypes are. Sometimes it just isn't realistic for me to be done up, some times it is. As woman we DO need to give some consideration into stereotypes and what we want out girls/boys to see...just a thought

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Candi-

You definitely don't "need" to wear make up while cleaning the house and sometimes I don't, I just feel good when I do. It's just a personal preference and the truth is I don't even notice if other people are wearing make up or not. Another thing is that we do have people in and out of our home all day long bc my husband's business is attached to our house. I would be pretty uncomfortable with people being here for business and my kids running around in their undies with matted hair and dirty faces. Same with me, I don't want to be seen in my pj's and morning hair. If I was going to be alone and have no visitors I might rethink how I do things lol. Also, my daughter's hair is thigh length (she's 4 years old) so I have to keep it brushed and in good shape all of the time or it will be a tangled mess and be horrible to get it straightened out, not to mention extremely painful for her. I don't want to come off like I'm prissy or think everyone ought to do what I do bc I really don't think that way. I just do what I do bc I want to and I like to for the most part. : )

Candi - posted on 01/21/2011

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I understand about taking pride in yourself. I try to look my best when I am out. I would never wear pajamas, sweats, or workout clothes in public. My kids are always well dressed and clean with hair combed. I just don't see the need to wear makeup in the house while I am cleaning the turtle tank and scooping the litter box. Maybe its just me? I guess I feel like I am wasting money if I wear it at home for no reason. If we actually had people come visit, then maybe I would put in on "just in case", but nobody comes to see us so I don't have to worry about that. lol

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I try to look my best even when I'm just at home so yes I wear make up most of the time. I shower, put on make up and get dressed every day along with keeping my kids clean and dressed. I don't look down on other people who don't do this but for me it's just who I am. It makes me feel good about myself and that's what it's all about. My husband could not care less if Im wearing make up or not. It takes less than 5 minutes to do my make up and those few minutes are completely worth it to feel good the other 23 hours and 55 minutes of the day. : ) To me it just goes along with cleaning your house and keeping everything nice, neat and orderly. It's taking pride in yourself and your responsibilities. I have been called a "Stepford Wife" more times than I can count. Some have meant it as a compliment, some as a cut. But I think that if someone is going to try to cut me down for taking pride in myself and home then that's their own issues and insecurity so I just laugh it off.

Meghan - posted on 01/21/2011

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I always wear make-up to school and work. If I am having a lazy sunday and just have to run to the grocery store I wont.If my SO asked me not to wear makeup I would tell him to go fuck his hat. It's something I like doing, makes me feel good, and my choice not his.

Keisha - posted on 01/21/2011

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I beleive I used to be addicted to make-up! but your hypothetical situation actually happened to me and my parter told me he preferred me without it so I barely ever wear it anymore... now it seems strange when I do lol

Candi - posted on 01/21/2011

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I wear less in the summer when I have color to my skin. I do have skin problems, so I wear powder to cover it. I don't pick up my kids completely free of make0up. I don't want to embarrass them. lol. I wear powder to work. My husband and I started dating when we were 18. Wew met when we were 16 and I had not started wearing make-up then. By the time I was 18, I wore a little just to keep me from looking pale and sickly!(IMO) After we started dating, he saw me all the time with no mkaeup. Who has time when you're going out fishing and swimming? When I am not working or getting my kids from school, I wear none. Its too expensive to put on around the house. My cat doesn't care what I look like, as long as I feed him!! I don't want my girls growing up thinking they have to wear make-up in order to be accepted or pretty.

Danielle - posted on 01/21/2011

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Whether I wear makeup all depends on where I'm going, who I may see and how long I'll be out. It's a waste of makeup to just go to walmart. My husband thinks I'm a natural beauty so who else do I need to impress? If I look a hot mess you don't have to look at me lol. During the summer all I wear is powder and mascara and eye liner. Unless we're going out at night. During the winter I get really pale so when I do wear it I have to do wear pretty much everything.

Sarah - posted on 01/21/2011

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I guess I am a little bit addicted to make up!
I wear it everyday (concealer, foundation, eyeshadow, mascara) and although I have very rarely gone to pick my daughter up without any on, I've hated going out without it!!

I guess I just think that I look a lot worse without any make up on!

Danielle - posted on 01/20/2011

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I like you only wear make up on special occasions or for professional pictures. I didn't wear it except when I was cheering (and not much then), for graduation pictures, or at prom when I was in HS. My family always told me I was prettier w/out it...and my husband does now lol! I've seen what it does to women's faces-esp those that don't take care of their skin. Honestly, I'm pretty sure I won't even wear it to work considering that I'm going to be an Ag teacher (meaning I have to work w/animals, welding, etc.)
My aunt took me out when I was 12 and had me taught (by a professional) the correct way to put on make up; I will probably do this for my daughter-but I will also tell her she's beautiful w/out it :-D Wearing make up used to be considered, for lack of a better term right now, slutty. I think that women today put too much on and honestly, I can see this statistic being true because I'm one of the few (on my husbands side) that doesn't constantly have it on.

Lacye - posted on 01/20/2011

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I hardly ever wear makeup. I usually don't have time to put it on. I do like to wear it sometimes just because I want to look nice but it's not really that big of a deal to me.

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I wear makeup if I leave the house...most of the time. I don't wear a lot. But I'm very pale and look dead without it. I also look like I don't have eyelashes without mascara. So I typically put on foundation to even out my tone, a little blush to make me look like I have color, some eyeliner and mascara and lip gloss. That's it...unless I'm going out then I'll add some eyeshadow.



My husband really couldn't care less.

Tah - posted on 01/20/2011

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no, if i count the amount if times i have worn make-up in my life i still have fibgers left over on one hand. i dont even know how to apply it. my husband likes me without it, i have worn it on a soecial occassion and he thought it was great..but not for everyday, not for me..

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I wear a powder mineral foundation when I go places. Sometimes I wear mascara and a little eye shadow. My skin is blah. I've also had a few small break outs due to pregnancy hormones so I like to wear a little. My husband doesn't really like it and I don't wear make up everyday because I stay at home and I don't see the point in wearing it when I'm not going out of the house.

Krista - posted on 01/20/2011

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I usually don't bother with much makeup. I like to wear a little bit to go to work, because I find it makes me look a little more polished and a little more awake. However, there are plenty of days when I just can't be bothered to wear any, and I don't feel any angst about it.

Now if I'm going out for a fun evening, then I like to pull out all the stops and have a lot more fun with my look.

I don't think that anybody should ever feel like they HAVE to wear makeup. But if they want to wear it, then why not? It can be a lot of fun.

Rosie - posted on 01/20/2011

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addicted??well not really, but kinda, lol. i will not go to work without it on, nor will i go out to eat, or party or anything without it. i will go out to go grocery shopping or something without makeup, and i'm perfectly fine with that.

i do not like the way i look without makeup. i have horrid acne, very blotchy skin, and i feel a whole hell of a lot better about myself with it on. how i present myself to the public is important to me. so while i am working, it's very important to me.

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I wear mineral powder foundation, shadow, and lip gloss every day. That's pretty all I ever wear, and it looks exactly the same every day, but because it takes less than one minute to apply it, I rarely leave the house without it.

If I am going to a formal event, I add eye liner and mascara, and maybe a bronzer for blush if the lighting will make me look pasty.

I am 30 years old, at this age, going out bare is just not an option anymore--I have an age spot under my eye, a red vain close to the surface of my chin, and the beginnings of crows feet and under eye circles. Up until I was in my late 20's I almost never wore makeup, then even when I started wearing it, I only wore it on occasion, but now, I feel like I need it. I'm not sure if that constitutes addiction or not :P

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Although I do wear make-up, I can and do go out without it on. I have days where I feel I need make up and days where I look in the mirror and feel great, at the moment more often than not I feel more comfortable with my make-up on because this pregnancy is being really mean to my skin, but even so I still go out without it on.



My hubby actually prefers me without make-up and reguarly asks me why I bother putting it on for the daytime, but tbh if he didn't like me without make-up we wouldn't be together because he should love me for me without my face on!



As for the stats I was once told by a superior that I needed to wear more make-up as I was supposed to be management and it looked more profesional, so I can understand some of them. I have to say though although I did put more make-up on it really annoyed me as the woman telling me it looked like a clown had put her make-up on for her - I have NEVER seen as much make-up on one face (so not a good look imo)!



Edited to add: I only wear a little bit of make-up when I do wear it, a bit of face powder and some concealer for the day (maybe a bit of blush if I feel particularly pale). In the night (when I go out) I do vamp it up though with heavier stuff :-)

Merry - posted on 01/20/2011

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I never wear make up, I started dating my now husband when I was 16 and I had never worn make up before, I tried some out for a date once and he didn't even notice! So I never bothered with it. I wore eye liner for our wedding, and that's it! Oh and cherry chapstick makes my lips nice and red, but natural looking :)

So now I'm 22 and still never wear make up, he likes me with my real face and he has said how happy he is that I never got my skin addicted to make up. Cuz women who wear a lot every day tend to have skin issues underneath it all caused by the make up.

So maybe when I'm older I'll use some, idk, but for now I like my skin, and he does too!

LaCi - posted on 01/20/2011

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Well, I wouldn't go to work without makeup. I won't go to school without makeup. I won't even go to the store without makeup unless *MAYBE* it's like 3 am and someones sick and needs meds, and even then it's likely I'll throw on some mineral powder foundation or something I can do quickly.

My boyfriend didn't see me without makeup until we lived together, about a year into the relationship, and we were about to have our son. When I went to the hospital at 7am for my csection, I was wearing makeup. Full make up.

I just don't want people to see me looking like hell. Thats pretty much it. Is it an addiction? Not really. Maybe it would be if I were always wearing it around the house or something, but I don't. Most days I have zero makeup on lately, because I only go to school and the grocery. The other 4-5 days per week I'm natural. When I start working again, I'll wear it every day. How I present myself is important to me.

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