Am I being selfish??!

Meghan - posted on 11/29/2010

pffft you don't need a coat, just buy a whole bunch of those thermopacks and put them in your shoes and under your armpits!
(totally just kidding, buy yourself a damn coat and don't worry what everyone else says)

Alison - posted on 11/29/2010

You need to learn a lesson from this: Don't always leave mom for last. Your family is obviously more keen on helping out with the kids than helping you out. If your fiancé is saying you should buy a coat, I think you should probably buy a coat. Your family has no obligation to help you out. And truthfully, they probably know better than any of us how responsible you are with your money.

Lacye - posted on 11/27/2010

Hell no you are not being selfish! Your kids need you to be healthy and you need a coat to keep yourself healthy!

Ashley - posted on 11/27/2010

Your not being selfish..I am 24 as well with 4 kids and they do not get support from their father but my fiance supports all 4 of them and only 1 is his..he tells me to get a coat too but i dont because money is tight and the kids may need something as well but that is not selfish..

Sapphire - posted on 11/27/2010

There is a HUGE difference between a NEED and a WANT. Sure, you may WANT a plush & pricey winter coat, but the bottom line is that you NEED a basic warm coat that will serve the purpose. Go and treat yourself today with all of the fabulous sales out there to something warm and basic! Shop thrifty if you need to. No need for a name brand coat. Good luck to you.

Amanda - posted on 11/27/2010

thank you moms for seeing MY point!!!!!! :)

Laura - posted on 11/26/2010

A proper winter coat is a NEED, not a want: You NEED a coat! Hypothermia can kill a person and a good winter coat can prevent that from happening. Family "needs" include those for moms! Check store sales or second-hand shops, but get yourself a winter coat, you need one!

Teresa - posted on 11/26/2010

Of course, now that I've fully read that other post.... if you don't really NEED those jeans, you could return them and use that money towards a coat. ;)

Teresa - posted on 11/26/2010

Ditto the others.

Barb - posted on 11/26/2010

I agree with Sara, it is a need. Only you know what a bind you will put on your family by the amount you spend. You can find wonderful deals this time of year with some online snooping Kohls is generally my favorite. If your fiance, your partner in finances tells you to get it, go get it.

Isobel - posted on 11/26/2010

That might be the first time I've ever answered a thread with this title with a no, by the way ;)

Isobel - posted on 11/26/2010

That's the most ridiculous thing I've ever heard. Tell them a mother that is not suffering from hypothermia is good for your kids.

Good Day! - posted on 11/26/2010

A coat would fall into the "needs" category. Try second hand shops or ebay if you can't afford a brand new one. Maybe attempt to cut back on groceries (make sure the kids are still well-fed, just cut out on unnecessary foods) or eating out or other "wants" and save for the coat.

Leah - posted on 11/26/2010

Oh dear lord! Of course your not being selfish. It's a winter coat and it will keep you warm. There is something I want that will certainly benefit as well and people are calling me selfish. Oh well. If they won't buy one for you,just see if you can save up here or there. Maybe since you have 2 coats they see it as being selfish but I highly doubt either of those coats keep you warm as winter can get pretty darn cold.



That's what I ask myself,how the hell am I being selfish when I make sure my child has everything he needs before I even think of getting something,even a necessity. His needs ALWAYS come before my own. It certainly is NOT selfish,you need to stay warm too so you go right ahead and buy it. Don't bother listening to others who say it's selfish. That's absurd.