At what age is it appropriate for young girls to start waxing/plucking eyebrows, shaving legs, dying their hair?

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Tiffany - posted on 08/31/2011

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My daughter is 8 1/2 and has extremely hairy legs to the point that she gets made fun of all the time. She has been begging me for a year to shave them and I finally gave in. Her hair was so long and thick that it took me 45 min. To shave them, so I really think it depends on the person.

Heidi - posted on 10/04/2010

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I have to agree with some of the other ladies on here. It depends on when they reach puberty. My 11 year old, I just allowed to shave her legs cause they were pretty hairy, now, my 9 year old will probably be shaving by next year, only because she has dk black hair on her legs are there is quite a bit, where as my 10 year old hardly has any at all. As for plucking the eyebrows, same goes with that also, my 10 yr old will probably be the first before the rest. As for dyeing the hair, that is where I make my stand. Not until they can afford to pay for it themselves.

Medic - posted on 02/13/2011

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For me it went.....Pink hair at 8, shaving legs and pits by 10 and eyebrows around the same. I really don't freak about hair color, last summer my then 3 year old boy had bright blue hair. My step mom had fun doing my hair all the crazy colors and cuts, my dad was fine with it as long as I was happy but had to usually throw in the why would you do that do your beautiful curly blonde hair that NORMAL people pay a fortune for. My daughters only one but we will see where life takes us with her. My son has always gotten to pick his hair cuts and summer was the first he asked to change the color, he knows for school it can't be colored but for summer its fun.

Heidi - posted on 10/04/2010

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Ha!HA!HA! Two-Piece in this House!!! We have 4 girls and I cannot see Dad or the 2 brothers ever allowing a 2-piece bathing to even cross the front door.
Actually, I do remember it trying once, and it never made it out of the house!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!LOL

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At 24 I still don't pluck my eyebrows... it seems pointless to me. I didn't dye my hair until 17, but that was personal choice on my part. I would say dying natural colors at 14 and nonnatural colors (mainly because of the bleaching involved) at 16.

I think that once a girl is old enough to be trusted with a razor than she is ready to shave... if she needs me to do it than no way. I had older sisters so I just took one of their razors one day and shaved my legs (around 11)... I didn't do a good job... so it was probably too early for me (although it was with a single blade razor).

April - posted on 02/09/2011

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@ Stephany....my sister did the same thing to me!! Her and my mom held me down together and my best friend did the leg shaving!!!

Afsana - posted on 02/08/2011

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I matured a lot earlier then the other girls in my class. I started shaving down their and my armpits when I was almost 12. I started plucking my eyebrows at 13 and started waxing when I was 14 and was in high school. I though about highlighting my hair but I always told myself that even if the other girls are doing it, I should wait just another year or so because it damages your hair and I didn't want to have to start coloring my hair to hide grays to early like my friend's moms. My mom was 37 when I first got the thought of getting highlights. She never did anything to her hair and even with 4 kids, her hair didn't start going gray until she hit 50. I finally decided I wanted to be like that so I never did a thing with my hair.

Beck - posted on 10/04/2010

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I was told I was never allowed to sart anything like that til I was 16, but in the end 14 was when I started shaving my legs as it was needed imo and mum let me. I have strict rules on not dying hair til 16, waxing and eyebrow plucking, well again if my daughters had really bushy eyebrows and it was a case of it was needed we would re-evaluate and decide what was right for her and what she wanted to do.

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Puberty for the waxing and shaving....I never got to color my hair until I could pay for it myself so I think I was 17 or so. Ill have the same rules for my daaughter about all of it and she wont be allowed to wear a 2 pieced bikini until she has a job and can buy it herself.

Amy - posted on 10/01/2010

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I started shaving at 11...my mom told me if you want to shave your legs thats fine, but remember ONCE U START U CAN'T STOP! and we all know why...LoL

LaCi - posted on 09/30/2010

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I started shaving my legs in the fourth grade after a boy said to all the girls in class "Geez, don't any of you women shave your legs" lol.

I started plucking my eyebrows in middle school. 6th grade ish. I didn't dye my hair until high school, at which point my hair was every color of the rainbow. I would have started that sooner, but my dad hated dyed hair. He still hates it. but it's still going to be purple again soon.

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Like everyone here, I think it depends on the girl and the situation. I think I started shaving my legs when I got to intermediate (middle school) and I had to wear a skirt as part of my uniform. Dying my hair? Hmmm, maybe 15? Maybe younger? It wasn't a big issue and it was just a box job done (badly LOL) at home. My hair is currently not dyed. I've never plucked my eyebrows. Either I'm blessed with naturally good eye brows or I just don't care. I think its a bit of the former and a lot of the latter, LOL. I think I will encourage my daughter to wait as long as possible, only because once you start, you can't stop (well, not the hair dying but definitely the shaving!).

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I think it totally depends on the child, family, and situation. I started shaving my legs at 11.5 cuz my older cousin convinced me I needed too. I'm 33 now though and have never needed to mess w/ my eyebrows and have never dyed my hair. ;)

Stifler's - posted on 09/28/2010

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Althought, kids have some horrible ideas when it comes to their hair. I'll be approving the colours and if they are beautiful and blonde they won't be having it brown and then having to get it stripped when they want it back blonde next week. Kids are so stupid when it comes to that sort of stuff.

Stifler's - posted on 09/28/2010

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Whenever they want to. I don't see a prob with it if it helps them cope emotionally with puberty. God puberty is awful. I don't really think this is even my decision with regards to my daughter. I started shaving my legs in year 4 with my dads face shaving razor hahaha and armpits as soon as I grew hair and dyed my hair when I wanted it different.

Amanda - posted on 09/28/2010

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For me, I started shaving my legs at around 12. Waxing and plucking eyebrows...id say around 16ish. And then for dying hair... maybe around 16 too... but depends on parent... my dad didnt like the thought and my mom either... but they were easily convinced.

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I started shaving when I was about 11 years old. I was diagnosed with PCOS at age 13 and put on birth control to control my very irregular and heavy periods. They thought I may develop it because I was so hairy even at age 11 and my mam wasn't willing to leave me be and risk being bullied. I didn't start plucking/waxing my eyebrows until I was around 13 or 14 in senior school, and never dyed my hair onyl semi-permenantly until I was 16 mainly because I didn't want it to go wrong and have to go into school hating my hair!!! I think it totally depends on whether the girl needs to shave her legs or pluck her eyebrows...the dying of hair could wait until she had grey hair and was old really lol!

Brittanie - posted on 09/27/2010

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Thanks ladies. I also have no problem with shaving/waxing as young as it is needed. i do feel like they should be a little older to start with the highlights/hair dye. I am in the situation now that I want to pluck my step daughters eyebrows but I am waiting for her to say something about it first. She does not have a unibrow but has thick brows like her Dad. She is only 9 now so I am patiently waiting for her to "notice". As for the rest of it i just wanted to see where everyone else stood on the subject! :)

Stephany - posted on 09/27/2010

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I started doing most of this stuff in middle school. I can't remember the exact age, but I had an older cousin who lived nearby and she taught me everything.
I remember pinning my 12 year old younger sister to the floor and attacking her legs with an electric razor. She had the worst body hair, and my mom said she'd shave when she wanted to. I, however, as the one who was resonsible for her in social circles, refused to be seen with those chewbacca-style gams. I was a horrible, terrible, no-good older sister- this I swear.
I really don't think there's a definitive age, just when all involved parties are comfortable. I tend to think, though, that since it's their body the kid should have most of the say in this. They might be teased relentless;at school for their bushy eyebrows- something no 10 eyar old wants to admit to- so they ask you if they can pluck them. What's the damage in allowing it?

Petra - posted on 09/27/2010

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I got teased for my "great, hairy legs" by my brothers friends when I was 10. I had a sleepover at my best friend's house and her older sister taught me how to shave my legs. My mom shit herself, but I didn't get teased any more. She let my dye my hair once I started highschool and could buy the dye myself. I fully agree that it depends on your child - when they hit puberty, if they're embarassed about their body hair, if they can afford the dye themselves - and also why they're doing it. If your 13 year-old wants a $150 highlight job because their friend had one, I'd say no. If they want to spend their allowance on a $10 box of dye, what's the problem?

Minnie - posted on 09/27/2010

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In our family, when they want to. Case in point, my four year old currently sports hot-pink pixie-length hair. I really see no issue with the plucking/shaving either. Whenever she wants to and can safely weild the tool to do it.

Joanna - posted on 09/26/2010

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I agree with everyone else, it's up to the girl and genetics! I was a late bloomer and a tom boy, so I didn't even start CARING about body hair til I was about 13, when I started shaving. I dealt with trichtillomania though starting when I was 14, so I was pulling/plucking out my hair from then on. As far as dying my hair, I was allowed to do it once I turned 16.

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Whenever it becomes necessary for shaving legs and plucking eyebrows. I had a uni-brow at age 10 and desperately needed to pluck/wax. So mom allowed it. I come from a family with thick eyebrows.

But I didn't shave my legs until age 12, which was too late. It was at least a year behind every single other girl, and I often wore sweat pants during gym in 90 degree weather because I was embarrassed. That's not healthy.

I won't let my daughter dye her hair until she's old enough to pay for it and keep up with it on her own. It's expensive and has to be done often. But that's a personal decision. My own hair has never been dyed.

Sarah - posted on 09/26/2010

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I agree that it probably depends on the individual girl. I was kind of a late bloomer & did things later than most girls my age. I didn't start shaving until I was about 12 or 13...my best friend convinced me to go ahead and try it lol. I didn't start plucking my eyebrows until I was like 17 (now looking back at pictures, I should have done it waaay before then haha). And I got my hair high-lighted for the first time at age 17 also. I didn't dye it completely until I was in my early 20s.

Keri - posted on 09/26/2010

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It depends entirely on parenting, personal preference, and amount of hair.

I started shaving at 10, bleaching at 10, plucking at 12, and dying at 12. My daughter will be 9 next month and I let her streak her hair pink. She probably won't need to shave, bleach, pluck, wax, etc, until she is 13, because she is luckier than I was.

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It Depends. :-) It depends on the child, genetics, etc. Just like it does for adult women. I know I shave and pluck far more often than my SIL - she is Native American and pretty hairless. I, on the other hand, get a 5 o'clock shadow on my legs.

Rosie - posted on 09/26/2010

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whenever she needs it for the shaving. as for dying the hair, and plucking, whenever you feel comfortable with it. i don't feel it's a big deal to let someone dye their hair, or pluck their eyebrows, it's a pretty petty thing to get excited over, IMO. it would probably help with self esteem once in middle school.

Sherri - posted on 09/26/2010

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Shaving and dying hair around 11 and waxing plucking eyebrows around 14/15.

Dawn - posted on 09/26/2010

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I think it depends on the girl and her situation. Has she started puberty? Does she come from a family with thick, dark hair? I began shaving at age 12, plucking my eyebrows at 15 and I have never dyed my hair. If I had a daughter, I would also base it on her maturity. I don't think I would let her start shaving if she didn't need to but "everyone else was doing it". I certainly think that in most instances before age 12 is too young.

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