Brie - posted on 12/05/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )
Ok so my husband and I were talking and then I read a post about step parents on here and decided to bring something to a debate or get opinions...
My husband has a son from his previous marriage. I have never met him. He is 8 years old and the last time my husband saw him he was 3. When some babysitting stuff didn't go her way she got mad and took off with him and ever since she keeps promising after this or that happens then they can talk about him seeing his son. It never happens so now we are trying to get joint custody.
We have a son together.
Now to the point, when we get custody or visitation or whatever, I am kinda feeling a little weird about him potentially calling me mom. Now, if anybody asks me how many kids I have I say two because I count him but for some reason I can't shake the weird feeling.
I grew up where you only have one mom and one dad. Not to be disrespectful but I know in my eyes if my husband and I split then I would have a very hard time hearing my son call another woman mom.
Even though his ex has done these things to my husband I feel it is disrespectful to her and I don't want to cause problems in their relationship.
Now what is kinda funny about this is that I was in a previous relationship involving kids and it didn't bother me when they said that their mommy wasn't their mom that I was.
I wonder if it was because I actually knew the kids or their father and I weren't serious...
Does anyone see anything wrong with this or do I sound bad by thinking this way?