Constance - posted on 04/26/2011 ( 32 moms have responded )
I as just wondering how or if you have ever thought about who would take care of your children if something happened to you.
For me and my husband we thought about this for many years and bounced back and forth between my mom and my sister. We finally decided that my sister would be the best place for our children to grow up without us. She is also the benificiary on all of our insurance policies. She knows what our wishes are for our children and we know she will do as we ask.
I told my mom of our decision and she completely flipped out. I explained that we didn't make the decision to hurt her but we feel it is best. She was even more angry that my sister is the benificary on our policies.
I love my mom bt she has very old beliefs when it comes to meds, and diagnoses. She doesn't belief anything is medically wrong with any of my children, and she thinks I just want to medicate them so I don't have to deal with them. When in all truthfulness my oldest is the only one that is on anything and only because she has severe anxiety attacks.
Also school is not her top proirity. That is not how we raise our kids but my sister does have the same priorities.
I don't think we were wrong in our decision but my mom sure knows how to make mefeel guilty. Do you think I was wrong for my decision.
My mom has only ever watched my children for a few hours thoughout the time I have been a mom. She has only watched them for longer than a few days once and that was this last February and she didn't watch them the whole time my girlfriend watched them most of the time.