Circumcision: For or Against?

Ashley - posted on 12/02/2009 ( 79 moms have responded )

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My son was circumcised after careful consideration between my husband and I. I am curious on everyone else's opinion on circumcision. :)

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Heather - posted on 01/04/2010

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After reading this whole thread over again, I cant believe moms would want this due to thinking an uncut penis is unattractive lol I dont think I would call any penis "attractive". I mean I love penis and all, but I have never looked at one and said "now thats a good lookin penis" lol What if the opposite were true, and women were being circumcised, as Jane mentioned. I mean vagina's and labia are not "attractive" either, so should we circumcise little baby girls too....should we remove the clitoris and prevent her from ever being satisfied sexually....the foreskin, is not just a flap of skin on the end of a penis, it does serve a purpose and it is full of nerve endings...just like the clitoris. I find it interesting that when female circumcision is talked about, it is refered to as" female genital mutilation", and when the same is done to a baby boy, women defend it. I dont know, I dont get it. I'm so happy my baby is intact, I also dont get the argument that its ok, because they wont remember it. That to me is like saying, well, its ok to abuse your child, as long as they dont remember it....it makes no sense.

Sarah - posted on 02/10/2010

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Babies are perfect the way they are. Don't pierce their ears, don't circumcise, don't bind their little feet or scar their faces with cuts or tattoos. I don't care where you live or what culture you come from... A person is a person, no matter how small, and all of the decisions having to do with permanently altering their body should be left up to them, and them alone.

Be respectful of their bodies, educate yourself and your children, and grow them into the kind of well-rounded, informed-decision-making, happy people we all want our kids to be.

Krista - posted on 12/17/2009

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I'm vehemently against circumcision, and think it's obscene (if not borderline abusive) to remove perfectly healthy, functional tissue because you don't find it attractive. Last time I checked, when a boy gets around to actually using his penis for its intended purpose, the LAST person whose opinion will count will be that of his mother.

I went on a bit of a rant about this in another thread, and so have re-pasted my thoughts here:

I usually try to be neutral, as I believe every mother has the right to raise her child as she sees fit, as long as the child is not being harmed. But children are being harmed! I don't care if they're "fine" a few minutes later -- that's completely irrelevant. You. Are. Hurting. Your. Child. For. No. Good. Reason.

I have yet to see one mother on here who had her boy circ'd for a legitimate medical reason. So far, all of the reasons I've seen have fallen into the following categories:

Aesthetics -- they want their boy to look like Daddy (because we all know that boys spend so much time looking at their father's pecker), or they don't want some future shallow b**ch of a woman to dump their kid because he has a foreskin. Guess what? In 2005, circumcision rates in the U.S. were at 56%. It's dropping every single year. In Australia, the rates have absolutely plummeted. By the time your kid is old enough for some girl to be looking at his wang, uncut penises will be JUST as common as cut ones, if not more so.

"Cleanliness" -- they seem to think that keeping a penis clean is some onerous task, requiring an advanced degree, three weeks and a Sherpa. Circumcision is extremely rare in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Oceania. I don't hear about an epidemic of penile infection there. And the American Academy of Pediatrics finds NO link between uncut penises and higher rates of UTIs. None.

And Terri -- the procedure is a lot more complicated that "placing a small ring on the penis". This is how it's done: First, the amount of foreskin to be removed is estimated. The foreskin is then opened via the preputial orifice to reveal the glans underneath and ensure it is normal. The inner lining of the foreskin (preputial epithelium) is then bluntly separated from its attachment to the glans. The device is then placed (this sometimes requires a dorsal slit) and remains there until blood flow has stopped. Finally, the foreskin is amputated. Sometimes, the frenulum band may need to be broken or crushed and cut from the corona near the urethra to ensure that the glans can be freely and completely exposed.

You know how a baby boy's foreskin won't move? In order to circumcise them, they literally have to shove a tool into the hole in his foreskin, and bluntly separate it from the head of the penis -- rather akin to removing a fingernail from the nail bed.

If you wanted to circumcise your baby, I suppose that was your decision. But OWN your decision. Don't gloss over the ugly facts.

Krista - posted on 12/09/2009

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Quoting amanda:

well seeing how i guess im that superficial of a b*tch that i would definately not have dated a guy if he had a foreskin, yeah i can understand if a girl were to have dumped him once they saw it, it looks nasty... and just because people are starting to not get it done, means nothing, i don't care how other people view it, he's my son, and i am pretty sure he will appreciate not having it there. and as for the defenseless infants, they were a day old!!!! they forgot like right after it happened and the pain was gone a couple days later if that long.

a lot of things are going in and out of style, and u shouldn't act accordingly just because its a "fad" if the whole world was not circumsizing, I still would.. sorry


It's not a "fad" actually. Like everybody else has said, circumcision was the fad, and it's now starting to fall out of favour, because a lot of parents are questioning why they should lop of parts of their baby's body, solely for aesthetic purposes. 



And as for theoretically rejecting an otherwise fantastic guy, solely because he has a foreskin? Yeah...sorry, but that is really superficial. I mean, if you're repulsed by it, you're repulsed by it, and you can't help that. But, that doesn't change the fact that it IS an incredibly superficial and shallow reason for dumping someone. It's right up there with a guy dumping a girl because she doesn't have large enough breasts. Sure, he has the right to his preferences, but it doesn't make him any less shallow. 

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Jen - posted on 02/17/2010

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I'm personally against it -- I think it's barbaric and not medically necessary. Admittedly it's a personal choice and I don't know any grown men who feel traumatized by having been circumcised, but I also know men who were never circumcised that never had any problems. It's a scare tactic, don't buy into it!

Amie - posted on 02/11/2010

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I'm against it. My son isn't circumcised. There's not point to it. There seriously is not.

Our son has never had an infection.
We've never had to pay close attention to it after birth (unlike after a circ and you need to watch the cut).
He's never been "unclean".

Sarah - posted on 02/11/2010

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I've had my appendix removed........if only they'd done it at birth! haha!
The appendix is a truly useless part of the body........whereas i do believe the foreskin actually serves a purpose.

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Good point Krista! In certain countries they perform female circumcision which is referred to as mutilation - circumcision in men is exactly the same!

Krista - posted on 02/11/2010

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My great-aunt had breast cancer, so if I have a little girl, I'm going to make sure that she gets a preventative mastectomy!

Sarah - posted on 02/11/2010

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I've never understood the whole "I want him to look like his Dad" thing.
People are different! I'm sure it's not going to scar your son for life that his penis looks different from his Dad's!! Surely every penis is different anyway!
Weird argument to make i think.

Charlie - posted on 02/10/2010

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Gillian its the same in Australia , circ is not even offered as it is seen by the medical community as outdated and unnecessary carried on mainly by those who profit through the lies and myths produced to keep this barbaric act alive.

Sunshine - posted on 02/10/2010

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My husband wanted our son circumcised...
He would know more then me..
After research on it I am glad we did it:)

Melissa - posted on 02/10/2010

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Religion aside, better as a baby than adult! I know of two people who have had to have the procedure as an adult due to health reasons. They were in a lot of pain and it was a long healing process. When my son had his done, at three days old, he didn't show any sign of pain at all, and it healed rather quick. Wouldn't change that decision.

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And as for STD risks are higher for uncircumcised men...if you use protection or make sure your partner doesn't have anything before you have sex by both having a sexual health test done that won't happen at all. There have been tests done which show that men who are uncircumcised do not have a higher chance of contracting an STD than a circumcised man - http://www.cirp.org/library/disease/STD/... The risk in fact is exactly the same.

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I don't mean to be nasty but yous shouldn't just go along with it because your husband or partner is done and wants his son to be the same. If he said he wants his son to jump off a cliff because he's going to would you let him? Sure if the child wants it done when he's old enough to decide then that's fine, but removing something for no reason?!? Why don't we start removing everyone's appendixes? We don't need that, or what about as Loureen said - should we start removing girls wombs in case they get cervical cancer or chop every baby boys testicles off because they might get testicular cancer? That might be going a bit OTT but getting a circumcision done for NO medical reason just asthetic is just pathetic.

Lady - posted on 02/08/2010

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I really don't understand the circumcision thing, in the uk unless it's for a medical reason it's not even an option and even then they try other treatments first before resorting to circumcision. I just don't understand why you would choose to alter your childs body and remove a part of them that's clearly there for a reason. The head of a man's penis is a very sensive spot and the foreskin is there to protect it. And on the asthetic topic I much prefer a penis that's still intact but would not discriminate - I'm just pleased it's not something I have to really think about.

Charlie - posted on 02/07/2010

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Yeah ive never understood that either Laura , i mean seriously what if your husband breaks their nose or they get a tattoo do we go out and do the same to our sons so they look the same ??

I also dont understand " its my husbands choice " , im sorry but to me its NOT his body just as much as its NOT my body the only person who should make the choice is the person themselves and in the case of serious medical issues where intervention is needed and a child is underage then and only then should the parent have a say , in my opinion :)

Isobel - posted on 02/07/2010

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The argument I never understand is the "a boy should look like his dad"...exactly how often are these boys looking at their dad's junk?

Charlie - posted on 02/07/2010

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By the logic that something might happen shouldnt we all get our daughters double mastectomies as soon as they develop seeing as there are 192,370 new cases of invasive breast cancer and 40,170 deaths from breast cancer a year in the USA alone ?

Krista - posted on 02/07/2010

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I suppose it really isn't a thing that you can get if you don't agree with it. I understand that. I won't try to sway you on it or anything. It's just a decision that I made, counselled by my doctor. Also, it was largely a decision for my husband.
He's snipped and therefore wanted his son to be.

Krista - posted on 02/07/2010

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Yeah, I don't really get that, Krista. I mean, it's your decision, but I know a ton of kids who have tubes in their ears due to ear infections. But I'm not going to go stick tubes in Sam's ears just in case there MIGHT be a problem with them someday.

Krista - posted on 02/07/2010

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My son was circumcised. I'm pregnant again and if this one is a boy, he will also be circumcised. The reason for that is because I know TWO men and one boy (age 12) who had to have it done later in life. I personally know them. It's not that I heard about it or a friend of a friend told me. These people were all related to me. It's just a little coincidental to me that this would happen. So, I nipped it in the bud (literally, I suppose....LOL!) and got the snip for him. Better when he's young than when he's older, I think.

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I'm against cirumcising unless there's a mediclaly reaosn for doing it. I know lots of people circumcise their babys in America but in England we don't. I think it's an unnecessary operation and I don't really see the point. It's been medically proven that it is no more unhygenic to have a foreskin as to not have one. And sexually speaking sex with a foreskin is meant to be better.

Rosie - posted on 02/06/2010

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i guess i'm not for or against it. all 3 of my boys are circumsised, and there was no big heated debate about it between my husband and i. i never knew some people felt so passionately about it, i guess i can see their point in a way, but obviously since all 3 of mine are snipped i feel it's better for them. the chances of getting an std are higher with an uncircumsised penis and that's enough for me to get it done. if somebody doesn't want to do it to their child that's no big deal, i don't know the statistics on the std thing so i don't know if the chances of getting an std are astranomically higher, but i doubt they are. to each their own i guess.

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I'm not a huge fan of circumcision except for on medical grounds. When my husbad was a baby circumcision was routine in America, but these days it's more like 50/50. My son is intact and I've never had any problems.

Jane - posted on 01/03/2010

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I also left the decision up to my hubby and we have both of our boys circ'd. I guess it was never really a big deal & didn't realize this was such a hot topic for parents. I dated a guy who wasn't circ'd & it just wasn't a big deal. There really isn't much of a reason to have it done. I think our society is cleaner then it used to be & men are able to take better care of themselves so the reason of it's cleaner is not really a factor. I guess I never really questioned to have my boys done they just were. I do agree it is kind of cruel & I read somewhere that contributes to the reason boys are more aggressive then girls.

So we're talking about boys getting circ'd...did anyone know that in some countries girls get circumcised?

Heather - posted on 01/03/2010

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Carol, I did the same thing, I left it up to my husband to make the decision, he is not circumcised, and he absolutly refused to let our son get circ'd. I am totally ok with his decision, so was my OB and Pediatrician. There is no need for it, it was done to soldiers, as adults in both world wars, because soldiers had no way to bathe and keep up with personal hygene plus they thought it prevented STD's. here is an interesting article about the history of circumcisions in the US http://www.historyofcircumcision.net/ind...
I, personally cannot justify taking a helpless newborn, and having a very sensitive part of his body cut off, for no good medical reason.
As far as being with an uncut man....i find it to be wonderful, there is nothing gross about it to me...he showers daily and there is no issues with hygene. If a woman didnt bathe everyday, or keep herself clean down there, it would be just as bad of a situation. I am very happy with his decision.

Johnny - posted on 01/03/2010

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"Politically" I do not agree with circumcision. However, I told my husband that it was his decision to make if we had a boy. He is circumcised and is happy with it, but I did ask him to do research on the issue before making the choice. I think he was leaning towards not doing it after reading up on it, but since we had a girl, I don't know what his final decision would have been. If it was totally up to me, I would not circumcise a son.

However, during the only relationship I have had with an un-circed guy, I began developing chronic urinary tract infections. Over a 4 year period, I had repeated treatments and 3 surgeries to deal with the problem. After a few years, my urologist and I sat down for a very detailed history to try to discern what was causing the problem. When we got to the information that my partner was un-circed, he had an "a-ha!" moment. He explained that female partners of un-circed men in North America statistically experience significantly higher numbers of UTI's. He gave me some literature for my partner to read to help prevent the problem. Unfortunately, it never helped (probably because he was a gigantic idiot-but I digress). The relationship ended and I have never had a UTI since. So even though I am constantly being told that circumcision does nothing to prevent infections, my personal experience has been entirely different. I would not choose to ever be with an un-circed man again, but that is entirely personal.

Veronica - posted on 01/02/2010

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I did not get my son done. My husband is not done it is natural body part make no sense to get it done. I would have never done that to my poor baby. My huband does not look nasty for some one to say that is crazy. You just have to bathe daily but who doesnt my son is three now and is learnign very well to clean it and shake it twice after peeing. To sugar coat your reasoning to make it easir on your child is weird. Sound like your are just trying to conform your child to be a certin way and people need to imbrace being natural.

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I don't have any boys (and my hubby and I are done!), but I am all for it. I think it's more sanitary and makes a little boy's life easier (in my opinion of course!)

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Quoting amanda:

okay so you guys are pretty much telling me that if i like guys with brown hair and brown eyes then i shouldn't rule out blond hair and blue eyed guys just because they're different, even though there are soooo many brown hair brown eyes guys to choose from also??? if its preference, and i am the one that has to date the guy, i want him to be someone i can share my life with, but id rather have a guy that i think looks good also if i can find it, which i have... and hes circumsized also... i dont know, like i said, if you have no problem with it and whatever, then that's fine. i personally would rather my husband be circumsized, and i did it for my son, and i doubt he'll hate me for it. it does gross me out, and thats my REASON for doing it, also, it is easier to clean and care for. excuse me for stating my honest opinion, didnt realize i was gonna get chewed out by so many people for it.



Um... I didn't quote you before, but I don't think the above is even comparable to what you said about uncircumsized men...  There is absolutely NOTHING wrong w/ having a certain preference for a guy, but by using your eye and hair analogy above and equating it w/ what you said about circumcision... you just called every blond haired, blue eyed guy disgusting.  That isn't personal preference, that's discrimination. :(



I have 2 blond haired, blue eyed, uncircumsized nephews and they are most certainly NOT disgusting in any way, shape, or form.

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I'm not for or against it. It's a personal decision for each family to make for themselves. :)



My son is circumsized. None of my nephews are.

Yvonne - posted on 12/29/2009

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Quoting Stefanie:

Very against for my family. I have keloidosis and the risks of him becoming disfigured are far greater than any suggestive benefits from circumcision. There are other reasons but this alone is enough for us to decline without a 2nd thought.


Just a little info for you, not meant as criticism as words without inflection can often be taken the wrong way. My husband suffers from the same problem as yourself. He was circumcised as a baby and he chose for our 3 sons also to be circumcised.  None have any probs relating to Keloidosis in the genital area. Our Gp also encouraged it as he saw and treated many problems for men who had not been circumcised. I tended to stay out of the decision making on this one as I didn't feel qualified as a female at the time, to make that decision. 



 

Terri - posted on 12/16/2009

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Yep Im all for it. My husband is and I always said if we had boys they would be too. Both me and my husband have seen uncircumcised and I did not find them attractive. Also there was the health reasons, I know of way too many kids who had to have it done when they were older. We had a lot of flack from his mother and his sister but we just stuck to our guns. In Australia you have to fight to get to have it done and you have to go privately and pay for it but we didnt care. We also had people say it was cruel because of the pain, but thats crap cause my second son fell asleep straight after it was done. And I dont know bout other countries but over here they dont cut anymore, they place a small ring on the penis which makes the foreskin drop off, the whole process taking about 5 to 9 days I think. My first son was done at 2 and a half weeks and my second was 1 week old. I personally think its better to do it straight after they are born like they used in hospital but now you have to go do it privately so you have to wait.

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Quoting amanda:

okay so you guys are pretty much telling me that if i like guys with brown hair and brown eyes then i shouldn't rule out blond hair and blue eyed guys just because they're different, even though there are soooo many brown hair brown eyes guys to choose from also??? if its preference, and i am the one that has to date the guy, i want him to be someone i can share my life with, but id rather have a guy that i think looks good also if i can find it, which i have... and hes circumsized also... i dont know, like i said, if you have no problem with it and whatever, then that's fine. i personally would rather my husband be circumsized, and i did it for my son, and i doubt he'll hate me for it. it does gross me out, and thats my REASON for doing it, also, it is easier to clean and care for. excuse me for stating my honest opinion, didnt realize i was gonna get chewed out by so many people for it.


 Variances in hair and eye color are natural variances unlike circumcision which is altering ones body through amputation ( not natural ) , your comparison doesn't really match .

I agree that we all have preference , what i dont agree with is only choosing a mate who has undergone permanent " cosmetic surgery " i also disagree with the cleanliness issue , unless a person is not taught personal hygiene an uncircumcised penis is easy to care for all it takes is a shower or bath with soap no special routine , just that , it really isn't hard plus the foreskin produces its own natural cleanser on top of that , wonderful how the body works .

No one is chewing you out its debate and in debate you will always find opposing views .

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Krista - posted on 12/10/2009

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Well, the community is "debates and hot topics" so obviously we're not all going to agree, are we?

Basically, getting your kid cut to please someone else's preferences, would be like me getting a hair follicle transplant for my baby boy, so that he'll be a brunette instead of a blonde, because some women prefer brunettes.

I agree that everybody has a right to their preferences -- nobody is denying that. But if your kid was born with blue eyes, and you personally prefer brown, and you're worried because some women just don't like blue eyes, what are you going to do? Nothing, obviously. It's the way he was born, and you figure that there are enough women out there who love blue eyes, that it won't matter.

So why not have the same attitude towards his pecker? It's the way he was born (it's the way they're ALL born), and I'm sure there are plenty of women out there who have absolutely no problems at all with an uncut penis. Some women prefer them.

And, as previously stated, more and more parents are choosing to not cut their kids, so uncut penises will be a LOT more common -- meaning that anybody my son dates probably won't find his penis repulsive, as they'll have likely seen an intact penis before.

(And for the record, if you like guys with brown hair and brown eyes, then no, of course you shouldn't completely rule out blue-eyed blonds. One might be the perfect guy for you -- and with a great penis, too! LOL!)

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okay so you guys are pretty much telling me that if i like guys with brown hair and brown eyes then i shouldn't rule out blond hair and blue eyed guys just because they're different, even though there are soooo many brown hair brown eyes guys to choose from also??? if its preference, and i am the one that has to date the guy, i want him to be someone i can share my life with, but id rather have a guy that i think looks good also if i can find it, which i have... and hes circumsized also... i dont know, like i said, if you have no problem with it and whatever, then that's fine. i personally would rather my husband be circumsized, and i did it for my son, and i doubt he'll hate me for it. it does gross me out, and thats my REASON for doing it, also, it is easier to clean and care for. excuse me for stating my honest opinion, didnt realize i was gonna get chewed out by so many people for it.

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I don't have a son (yet) but I remembered something my mom told me. She decided to have my brother circumsized. She's a nurse and she had to help doctors circumsize a 5 year old. He kept getting multiple infections. The whole time he was screaming at his mother how much he hated her which obviously was in my mom's mind when my parents made the decision to circumsize my brother as a newborn.

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Quoting amanda:

um yeah i guess it is a mean thing to say if ur kid is uncircumsized, but that's my opinion. it is something they can control, they could i donno... get circumsized!!! i think that a lot of things are disgusting, and some people, and dont even say that you think EVERYONE and EVERYTHING in the world is beautiful, cuz that's just bs. i stated my opinion, i think its gross, and thats why i got my son's done. u dont have a problem with it, then dont get it done! simple as that, its a discussion about ur opinions, if u dont want to see other peoples opinions that dont agree with urs, then dont go to a discussion.


This is a DEBATE board. You are suppose to debate why you are for or against circ. with facts. That's what a debate is.Opinions are welcome of course but there is something called TACT.



And saying that they could get circ.?! You're joking right? Maybe I should get my keloids removed b/c they are disgusting. Maybe blacks should bleach their skin white and white women should tan. Maybe all women should get their make up tattooed on. B/c, you know, we should all live by the standard of beauty.



I never said I thought everyone or everything was beautiful and I don't expect anyone to think that. I sure as hell don't think others should get cosmetic surgery b/c of my biogtry though.

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Quoting amanda:

well seeing how i guess im that superficial of a b*tch that i would definately not have dated a guy if he had a foreskin, yeah i can understand if a girl were to have dumped him once they saw it, it looks nasty... and just because people are starting to not get it done, means nothing, i don't care how other people view it, he's my son, and i am pretty sure he will appreciate not having it there. and as for the defenseless infants, they were a day old!!!! they forgot like right after it happened and the pain was gone a couple days later if that long.

a lot of things are going in and out of style, and u shouldn't act accordingly just because its a "fad" if the whole world was not circumsizing, I still would.. sorry


um "just because people are starting to not get it done," ??



either youve been horribly misinformed or you didnt bother reading up on circ at all but 85% of the entire male population of the world are uncircumcised the number of uncirced have always been higher yes the "fad " is decreasing , and i agree ,  circumcision IS a fad one that was brought to the western partof the world in a vein attempt to ward off masturbation .



 



And yes if a man ONLY dated women with fake breasts i would think he was a superficial ass too :)

Isobel - posted on 12/09/2009

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circumcising is the fad...it's time for it to stop now. It's not your body to choose to cut parts off...it's his body. If he wants it done later, then he can...no different from choosing to get a tattoo or a piercing.

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well seeing how i guess im that superficial of a b*tch that i would definately not have dated a guy if he had a foreskin, yeah i can understand if a girl were to have dumped him once they saw it, it looks nasty... and just because people are starting to not get it done, means nothing, i don't care how other people view it, he's my son, and i am pretty sure he will appreciate not having it there. and as for the defenseless infants, they were a day old!!!! they forgot like right after it happened and the pain was gone a couple days later if that long.



a lot of things are going in and out of style, and u shouldn't act accordingly just because its a "fad" if the whole world was not circumsizing, I still would.. sorry

Krista - posted on 12/09/2009

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Quoting Brandy:

I dont feel it is something that HAS to be done.. But i have had both of my boys circumcised. I just feel that its cleaner and easier :) Its sad though i was with my second son when he got his done and i cried through the whole thing! poor little guys.. I had the plasti bell put on so there was no gauze and nasty bleeding thank goodness :) Even though i know what they go through to get it I would do it again if i ever had another boy.


Yeah...I just don't get that, sorry. You cried through the whole thing, but you'd lop off one of your kid's body parts again just because it's cleaner and easier? 



No thanks. I've heard from more than a few circumsized men who are royally pissed off that their parents did that to them as defenseless infants, and they wish they had their foreskins back. It's not that hard to clean, for pete's sake -- their little willy is only so big, so it's not like it's a huge, time-consuming bother. 

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Quoting amanda:

so i just want to say.. i finally saw an unvurcumsized penis in a porno while i was pregnant, dick's aren't attractive much in the first place, that was just disgusting!! my husband and i got our son circumsize, and i never gave it a thought to not do it. i want my son to get a girlfriend when hes old enough and be able to keep her without grossing the heck out of her lol im sorry but thats just nasty looking


I'm guessing that by the time your son has a girlfriend, it won't be as big a deal -- more and more parents are choosing to not have their sons circumsized. So by the time our sons are grown, it won't be at all unusual to have an intact foreskin. 



Besides, would you really want your son to be with someone who is such a superficial b**ch that she'd dump him because he has a foreskin? 

Amanda - posted on 12/09/2009

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um yeah i guess it is a mean thing to say if ur kid is uncircumsized, but that's my opinion. it is something they can control, they could i donno... get circumsized!!! i think that a lot of things are disgusting, and some people, and dont even say that you think EVERYONE and EVERYTHING in the world is beautiful, cuz that's just bs. i stated my opinion, i think its gross, and thats why i got my son's done. u dont have a problem with it, then dont get it done! simple as that, its a discussion about ur opinions, if u dont want to see other peoples opinions that dont agree with urs, then dont go to a discussion.

Brandy - posted on 12/09/2009

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I dont feel it is something that HAS to be done.. But i have had both of my boys circumcised. I just feel that its cleaner and easier :) Its sad though i was with my second son when he got his done and i cried through the whole thing! poor little guys.. I had the plasti bell put on so there was no gauze and nasty bleeding thank goodness :) Even though i know what they go through to get it I would do it again if i ever had another boy.

Stefanie - posted on 12/09/2009

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"so i just want to say.. i finally saw an unvurcumsized penis in a porno while i was pregnant, dick's aren't attractive much in the first place, that was just disgusting!! my husband and i got our son circumsize, and i never gave it a thought to not do it. i want my son to get a girlfriend when hes old enough and be able to keep her without grossing the heck out of her lol im sorry but thats just nasty looking"

Honestly, do women not realize how MEAN these statements are?! You are calling a man/boy/baby "disgusting" b/c of something they can't control! Seriously, do you think other races are "disgusting"? What about people with disfiguring scars?
Do you not realize that this is a form of discrimination against these men/boys/babies?!

Amanda - posted on 12/09/2009

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so i just want to say.. i finally saw an unvurcumsized penis in a porno while i was pregnant, dick's aren't attractive much in the first place, that was just disgusting!! my husband and i got our son circumsize, and i never gave it a thought to not do it. i want my son to get a girlfriend when hes old enough and be able to keep her without grossing the heck out of her lol im sorry but thats just nasty looking

Sarah - posted on 12/09/2009

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I have girls, so not really an issue for me. Plus over here (the UK) it's just not as widely practised anyway.
If i did have a boy tho, i definitely wouldn't have it done, i think it's unnecessary.
The argument about boys looking like their dads is obviously flawed as it really doesn't matter. The hygiene thing isn't enough to sway me either, good cleanliness is all that's needed! :)

Mayra - posted on 12/09/2009

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i have 4 kids two are boys the oldest he did get circumcised,but since i was new mom i wasn't told how to clean the area during the healing process, so he had a hard time and it didnt help that the doctor didnt do a great job,when my youngest was born he didnt get circumcised and he is almost 2 and doing fine i always pull his skin back and clean it to make sure he dosent get a infection.

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We talked to the pediatrician before Cooper was born and she was telling us to think about whether we wanted him done or not. And she said that it really wasn't any different either way but she still did most boys but it was ok to not get it done as well. I honestly didn't have a super strong opinion either way except that I had never seen an uncircumsized penis. I left it up to Josh. He said no question he was getting it. It was more out of tradition than anything. And if I ever had another boy (which I can't), he would be done as well.

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