Janelle - posted on 02/01/2013 ( 48 moms have responded )
Okay, maybe I'm over thinking this but I don't think its right when a child who enjoys the swings puts in the effort to get ready for school in a timly manner so he/she can be at school early enough to play on the swings only to be booted off by any other kid coming in late who counted to 30.
In our school (K-5) if the kids want a turn on the swings they pick a kid/swing and start counting to 30 (more or less, most teachers or yard duty don't even know the exact #. It seems to be up to the kids). Then the child they "counted on" has to give up their swing for the child who counted on them.
Is this right? Or is this teaching our children at a very early age that whatever they work for can easily be taken away form them by someone who put in little to no effort to get it?
How do we teach our children to share and put someone elses needs/wants before their own out of kindness and copassion if everything they have is forcefully taken from them? I have taught my kids to share because they WANT to, not because they HAVE to... (Most of the time. Come on, their still kids, but on their way to being great adults.)
So what do you ladies think: Is "counting-on the swings" fair? And is the "fair" thing the "right" thing to teach our children? Or is it possiably robbing our kids of true character growth? Obviously I have my opinonion but I'm open and I'd really like to hear yours.