Did you sit your kids up before they could sit on their own?

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I don't exactly think there is an epidemic of kids being sat up for long periods of time in a forced sitting position. Most people who I know prop their kids to sitting on occasion for photos, etc., but the kids don't spend a significant amount of time that way. I don't think spending a few minutes propped up is detrimental in any way.

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Silvia - posted on 04/22/2012

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My daughter is 4 months old and I was given a Bumbo sit a month ago. I put her in the seat, for little bits, as soon as she wants to be out I take her. She also has time on the floor and is rolling over back and forward. I can't see any problem with sitting, if the kids are not constrained all the time.

Janice - posted on 04/12/2012

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Also its important to note that 9 months is not considered late for crawling 7-10 months is the norm. Also I don't think sitting up your child restricts them all that much. My son still uses his trunk to reach toward the toys hanging above his bouncer seat (another hand -me down) and when I put him in a reclined position on the bed or couch he actively tries to sit forward. He turned 4 mo. on 4/1 and he has been trying to sit up for many weeks now.



I think that it may be best to encourage parents to not place their child in sitting devices all the time but saying that sitting your infant up in general is detremental (sp) to their motor development is just not true.

Sherri - posted on 04/11/2012

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Eh it didn't slow any of my kids down that is for sure. Not a one of my kids ever crawled and all 3 kids so far have walked by 9 & 10mo's. They were all ahead even without ever crawling and their pediatrician stated not all kids will crawl it isn't that big of a deal.

I sit my 8wk up all the time, he absolutely despises not being sat up he is a nosy rosy and will scream, scream and scream till his little head may pop off unless he is upright at all times while awake. He loves to watch everybody and coo at you.

Johnny - posted on 04/11/2012

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Sally, I can understand that children who are confined may be less likely to move about and develop their muscles. But like anything with children, what is silly is making blanket assumptions about the way things are.



I don't know why my daughter didn't start creeping or crawling earlier. When she did, she hasn't stopped since. She is a very active and rambunctious 3 1/2 year old who runs circles around just about everyone. She was a very focused baby. She was fascinated with toys and puzzles and books. I used to leave them about the floor so that she'd have to try to move to get a new one, but she never did. Then suddenly one day, she just up and crawled across the carpet for no apparent reason.

Dove - posted on 04/11/2012

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He wasn't confined ALL the time, but he spent a lot of time in his bouncy seat during the day because I was suffering w/ massive depression. He still had floor time, held for feedings, baths, and slept on me all night. That was many, many years ago though.

Sally - posted on 04/11/2012

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Why would you confine your child for the first 4 months of his life? I hope it was a medical reason, cause no other reason makes sense......IMO.

Dove - posted on 04/11/2012

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My son was confined most of the time for the first 4 months of his life.... put him on the floor and he'd still roll all over the room at that age, so.... your theory may have some merit, but it's certainly not an absolute.

Sally - posted on 04/11/2012

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I don't think it is a silly assumption at all. I think it is based on observing a lot of children in a lot of settings. I have a basis for my opinion. I have no idea why your child wasn't interested in moving around but I know kids who are confined can't move around. Therefore they cannot develop muscle strength. I also believe that what occurs the first 3 years has a huge impact on the way the brain develops and habits that are formed. So sitting stationary in a bumbo type chair or bouncy does reinforce a more sedentary lifestyle. A point the article in question brought up. I find it SILLY you would call my assumption silly. If you can't move around then your muscles can't move around. Ever been confined in a seat on a long airplane ride or car? How does it feel? Think about being stuck in that position every day? Think your muscles would grow or get stronger? I don't think so..........

Johnny - posted on 04/11/2012

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Sally, I think it is a silly assumption to make that kids necessarily start moving or crawling early or late based on whether they are confined or not. As I mentioned, my daughter did not start crawling until 9 1/2 months, but aside from using a rocker chair while I went to the bathroom or had a quick shower, she was never ever confined. I only did that because our bathroom floor is marble and it's not a safe surface for an infant. I didn't use a play pen, a swing, a bumbo or any such other device. She spent most of her time free to move about on the floor. She just didn't choose to do so.

Janice - posted on 04/11/2012

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I didnt fully read the article before. I do think they are referring to babies who are constantly in bouncers, bumbos and swings. I think its a big problem at day cares, where caregivers use the devices to keep younger babies away from mobile babies. I do sit my kids up but they are more often on the floor or being held. I would have never bought a bumbo (or a bouncer seat) because after working in a daycare I felt I had no need. However, I was so thankful that I received the hand-me down one as it was compact enough to place on my table so my daughter felt included but hubby and I could eat dinner.

Sally - posted on 04/11/2012

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I never used a bumbo chair & rarely propped up my daugher for any reason. I think I have 2 pictures of her propped up. I 100% believe in freedom to move, so we never used bouncy seats or play yards. She could infantry crawl the entire house at 5 & 1/2 months and could sit by then too. She was strong and I think it was due to the fact she was never confined. She wanted to be on the floor and active. I detest bumbo chairs, horrible devices.

Janice - posted on 04/10/2012

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I have always placed my babies in sitting positions as soon as they had good head control. I was given a bumbo with my daughter and we started using when she was between 2-3 months. Never for long periods though. Often propped up on the couch too. She began sitting at 4 months and could sit well unassisted at 5 months. My son is 4 months and we have been doing the same with him. He has just started to sit independently for short times this week.



With both children I move them as soon as they began/begin fussing. If a baby is uncomfortable they tell you. I dont see the harm as long as it is not for long periods of time.



ETA: just ready johnny's post - my daughter was a buddah too and she sat before all my friends kids but crawled later than all of them at 9 months.

Johnny - posted on 04/10/2012

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I think I propped up my daughter for a photo now and then, but not normally and I didn't use a bumbo. I did have a rocker chair, but it was quite reclined. She actually sat up unassisted quite early, and held her head up early too. Ironically, she just sat there like a little Buddha all the way until 9 1/2 months when she finally started to crawl, way late for her peers, lol.

Dove - posted on 04/10/2012

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I have several pics of all my kids 'sitting' on the couch. The youngest pose was 12 days old. :)



All of my kids could sit on their own (briefly) at 5-6 months, rolled all over the place at 4-6 months, crawled (army style) at 5-7 months, crawled (hands and knees style) at 6-8 months, and walked unassisted at 9-11 months..... I don't think sitting up prematurely had any detrimental effects to them whatsoever.

Denikka - posted on 04/10/2012

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I've never used a bumbo chair, nor would I. Things just seem..weird to me. But I did sit both kids up at times. Usually with me sitting crossed legged on the floor with them in front of me, giving them something (me) to lean against and cushioning (my legs) all around so they wouldn't get hurt. I also pulled them up into a sitting position by their hands while sitting in front of them. This was usually done on a bed for a soft landing when they fell over.

I never *forced* them into a sitting position though, and never for any length of time. I can understand how that could be negative to development. My motto is a general *When they can, they will. And when they can, they should*.

Krista - posted on 04/10/2012

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I had a Bumbo, but hardly ever used it. It tended to use it more as a portable high chair, and even then, only once he was really, really close to sitting up on his own.

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