Do New Moms Deserve Push Presents?

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I gave birth to Boy Wonder naturally and I'm here to tell you crowning isn't called "the ring of fire" for nothing. After my tour of delivery duty I jokingly told Big Daddy P I deserved something shiny.

Childbirth is seriously hard work but are moms deserving of a "push present" for the effort?

A "push present" or "push prize" is generally a flashy bauble given by the father to the new mother as a public display of appreciation after labor. Apparently this phenomenon is sweeping maternity wards across the nation and the jewelers (and blingy new mommies) of the world couldn't be happier.

And to think the only push present I ever knew about was a gorgeous new baby.

What are your thoughts on push presents? Did you receive one?

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I never heard of the term before, and IMO I think it's kind of silly. Then again, I'm not much into jewelry too much. But then again, if someone has the extra money to buy a piece of bling in addition to expense of a newborn, more power to them.

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Arielstepp - posted on 06/08/2012

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There's nothing to compare to or equal childbirth but this is still an interesting new trend I find funny! But who is going to turn down a lovely gift? Why not? We are doing a contest right now for people to nominate a mom that deserves to be pampered and if you nominate a mom she could be one of 10 to win a $100 spa visit. That's how I randomly came across this post, but I love it. You can nominate a mom here too btw!
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Becky - posted on 10/03/2010

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Over all I wouldn't expect anything . . . the gesture is sweet if it is honestly delivered & meant as it is intended, but when a woman comes to expect something, or a man feels that it is a needed gesture, then it is as pointless as any other gift or gesture that doesn't truly have significance behind it. You do something for someone because you love an appreciate all they are & all they have done for you . . . . if that's not why you give or receive a gift than save your money.

Dana - posted on 10/03/2010

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I think it's a nice, sweet gesture. I've always been raised to bring someone who just gave birth something that makes them feel pretty whether it be a nice nightgown, soaps or perfumes. I wish my husband knew about it, I didn't think to ever tell him to bring me anything let alone something shiny. :P

Danielle - posted on 10/02/2010

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I don't think it should be expected, but if you do get something, then it's nice. My husband "went down for breakfast" and when he came back he handed me a nail set (clippers, file, tweezers). It wasn't expected, or expensive, but he knew how bad I felt that I scratched our son (accidently of course) when I first held him, so he bought it for me. Do I expect anything this time? Of course not...unless you count my hubby being there to welcome our baby again :-)

Amy - posted on 10/01/2010

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I just had my 3rd baby...my awesome present was the love and support of my husband while deliverying our beautiful daughter.

Nikki - posted on 09/28/2010

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I got one , but to be honest had no idea what they were his sister had told him I needed one so I was in shock... He got my a Links of London bracelet with two charms ( a ducky bc our sons rooms has duckies painted on the wall and the letter A for Ayden) I loved it it was beautiful, but if he didnt get me it I wouldnt have known any different, since we had Ayden he has got me two more charms A big heart with a small heart inside for mothers days and a lil muffin for my bday because he calls me muffin well muff ( dont ask lol)

Stifler's - posted on 09/27/2010

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What the? What's a shiny bauble? I didn't really give a shit about anything once the baby was out I wanted to sleep not marvel at my newborn or expect jewelry.

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My son was my gift and I don't like bling. Only jewelry I wear is my wedding ring and it's pretty simple. Plus, my son is almost 3 so I'm pretty sure my husband would argue that there is some sort of statute of limitations that has expired or something lol If he wants to be nice and get me a thank you gift, this girl prefers electronics :P

Charlie - posted on 09/26/2010

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My friends and i are chucking in to get our pregnant friend a day at the beauty therapists to get a massage and facial because she deserves to feel like a goddess after she gives birth :D

Bernadette - posted on 09/25/2010

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I think what your husband did was far nicer than jewellery, Stephany. Anyone can go out and buy jewellery (finances permitting, of course...) but it takes real thought to write a letter and it's something you'll treasure forever! My husband doesn't have a romantic bone in his body, I'd much rather he do something sentimental for me every once in a while than get presents. Unfortunately, I don't get either....... :(

Stephany - posted on 09/25/2010

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Now I'm pissed! Hubby missed the mark...jackass. I'm going on strike until he pays retribution in diamonds and gold. I carried his massive children, lost anything resembling a figure, and turned into a pile of mush just for the sake of procreation. I harvested human beings within my own body- he had best be in awe of my superhuman powers! I deserve jewelry, damnit! :P

On a serious note, my kids were more than enough for me. My husband wrote me a letter telling me how much it all meant to him and how much he loved me and how excited he was for our new baby. He gave it to me when our son was born, and then he gave me another one when our second was born. This was far more sentimental that a hunk of metal.

Bernadette - posted on 09/24/2010

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a lot of people give 'eternity rings' as a tradition, and I don't think it is so much a 'push present', as a symbol that they are not joined together for eternity through the child that they created together. Some people give it as a first year anniversary present, but I like the idea of it being given after having a child together better. You wear it on the same finger as your engagement and wedding rings. I think it's a nice idea (although I don't have one, but that's because our financial situation means we need the money for other things more) because having a child together really does link you to your partner forever, no matter what happens. The eternity ring symbolises this...

Petra - posted on 09/23/2010

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@ Jennie - I would like a Tearing Treasure. Or Stiched-up Sentiments.

Dude, if T showed up at the hospital the morning after baby T was born with something shiny, I would not have said no. But I didn't expect anything other than a delish cup of coffee, per my request.

Amy - posted on 09/21/2010

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I think that the idea of gifting us new mommies with something is great. Most of the time the baby gets all of the attention which is fine and all well and good but we are the ones that did all the work. That being said I am with Cynthis I'm not really a shinny things kinda girl. So give something that will make me feel special and appreciated. I think that the idea was probably born out of some of us not getting that from our signifant other.

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I didn't receive one, but I've heard of them. They sound a little tacky to me, to be honest - especially if a woman expects or demands it.



I think the best "push present" is your baby! No amount of bling can top that!

Cynthia - posted on 09/20/2010

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That is ridiculous! You are getting the greatest gift of all already.

Cyndel - posted on 09/18/2010

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No I didn't, my "push present" was my beautiful son. It was ALL I wanted. But I'm more about crafts and Good quality food, I would rather a great meal and some money for fabric or yarn just before or soon after delivery.

Amber - posted on 09/18/2010

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I'm guilty of getting one (Don't yell at me haha) I got a ring with my son's birthstone in the middle and diamond baguettes on both sides. I'd never heard of it as a "push present" though.
He didn't get it because I gave birth;. he got it because it was a gorgeous ring and he knew that I would really love it. The meaning behind it was so much more important than the actual gift.
I didn't expect it, and I never actually thought twice about it until now. If we have another one and I get nothing, I'm fine with that too.

April - posted on 09/18/2010

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i wouldn't expect it, but i wouldn't object. on the flip side..there are so many men out there that spend so much on themselves and don't even think twice to get their wife or girlfriend something nice. i think as women, we really should expect gifts more often. then again, it would be better if he got the gift because it was his idea and not because you're expecting it!

Joanna - posted on 09/18/2010

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I don't think they should be expected, but sure it would be nice to get something pretty, especially after 9 months of growing a human and hours of laboring and pushing them out... you don't always feel so pretty after that. Adding to the joy of a new family member by showing appreciation with a gift would be nice, there's no denying it.

Although after going through all that, I'd prefer a steak and glass of wine instead of jewelry.

Destinee - posted on 09/18/2010

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i heard of a push present right before my girl was born but i didnt really think a push present was very economical. nice maybe if you can afford it but i would rather spend the money on my little one i got to have my boyfriend there with me and taking care of me and the starbucks caramel machiatto i was craving right before my water broke that he remembered me talking about decaf of course because i was nursing. and i got to be with my little girl and that was perfect.

Jess - posted on 09/18/2010

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I got a push present from my in laws. A $600 designer hand bag they had imported from Italy for me ! I love it. *boast much ???*

I didn't get a gift from my ex though but I think that was only because our daughter was in special care and we spent all our time in the hospital with her. I think its a nice idea giving "push presents". I nearly died being pregnant and giving birth and having someone take the time to get a gift to say thanks for the new family member and job well done is lovely ! Every time I see my handbag I think of my daughter. Its nice.

Elisabeth - posted on 09/17/2010

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I never got one and couldn't care less. I didn't get any presents, I actually gave my husband a little 'new dad' gift. A bunch of flowers would of been nice but no big deal.

Charlie - posted on 09/17/2010

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I got heaps of presents for giving birth off friends and family even co workers along with baby gifts .

Alison - posted on 09/17/2010

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I am pretty sure that the diamond engagement ring was a marketing concept that became a tradition.

Who am I to decide what another woman deserves. I know that my husband is not a gift giver and if I pressure him to give a gift, I usually regret it.

I think moms deserve pretty much all the recognition they get and then some!

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"Push presents" lmao! I've never heard of them and no I didn't get one either. I think baby showers are an unecessary thing probably brouhgt over to the UK from the US but a present for giving birth...don't all women know that's what you have to do when you get pregnant?!? For me my son was a gift and that's all that mattered to me that day, having him delivered safely!

Becky - posted on 09/16/2010

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Do you get something better if you have your kid on the side of the highway???
I wouldn't/didn't expect anything. I actually think when you expect something, it takes away from the gift. I'd prefer to be surprised later when I least expected it.

Gemma - posted on 09/16/2010

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Yes we deserve it but I wouldn't want it as I'd rather have a happy, healthy baby and be able to bend down and tie up my own shoes!

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I don;t think we should expect it. having my husband with me during the delivery and getting to meet our son was enough of a push present for me. My husband cried when he saw Shawn for the first time and that, to me, is far more precious than any bling

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"we both get the same awesome present of a baby - yeah - but don't I deserve something more for the 9 months, and delivery, and the nursing around the clock for the next year? Why not promote this gift of appreciation idea?"

TBH I think that my husband put up with loads from me during the 9 months (ish) of pregnancy, what with giving me foot rubs EVERY night and rubbing oils into my tummy (to try not to get stretch marks - didn't work, but gave him a little bonding with baby) AND visiting me in hospital for 17 days (spending 12 hours a day bored out of his brain and worried sick about me and our baby in a maternity ward with me), oh and looking after me (so I did nothing as per doctors orders) when I was released on good behaviour for a couple of days. So really I think I should have gotten him a gift.

On second thoughts no I'd rather spend the money on buying our son gifts and that goes for him buying me gifts too :-)

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I never heard it called that before, but I know the concept. My husband gave me a necklace with three diamonds on it to represent each member of our family. It was special and I love the thought he put into it :)

Caitlin - posted on 09/16/2010

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Oh, and since he put up with massive hormone swings, cravings and my insatiable appetite for sex, I feel that he did enough to show his appreciation, along with helping me out afterwards until I was recovered. This is just a huge ploy to get guys to spend more money..

Sarah - posted on 09/16/2010

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I wouldn't expect to get a present. My husband did buy me a pretty silver necklace after our eldest was born though. I think that was him feeling guilty that he wasn't at the birth though, because I got sod all when our youngest was born!! :)

Caitlin - posted on 09/16/2010

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I did it twice - I got 2 beautiful healthy girls (things were tricky with #1 when her heart rate started dropping quickly right at the end leading to a forceps delivery). I got to reach down and be the first person to hold them in my arms close to my chest - the first person to look into their eyes and the first person to kiss their slimy little heads. No jewel in the world could have been more precious then that to me, and my husband knew this of course. If her had gotten me a shiny gift, I would have looked at him weird. I was so incredibly happy to get my baby and a sandwich.

Oh and as for appreciation, the tears in his eyes as he held his daughters for the first time was a reward enough.. Call me sappy but maybe i`m just not a jewlery person, i`m content with the small things..

Gemma - posted on 09/16/2010

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I didn't expect anything from my husband. When I started contracting all I wanted was to get my baby out where I could see her. I delivered a beautiful baby girl naturally (gas and air) with my husband by my side. What more could I want? I'm not a magpie so don't need anything shiny, I'm a mummy and that is the best gift in the world. Why tarnish this magical moment expecting gifts and being disappointed that he forgot?

Once I'd had my baby all I wanted was a shower and a cup of tea. The shower went ok but I had to wait 5 hours before anyone got round to bringing me a cuppa. That would have been an ideal push present.

LaCi - posted on 09/16/2010

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I think it's a nice gesture. I did not receive one, I didn't push lol. I should have gotten a "Thanks for getting a big needle shoved in your spine twice and being gutted temporarily to have my baby" present. But the ability to sleep on my belly again was enough for me. Oh, and the baby... I guess. ;)

Krista - posted on 09/16/2010

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I certainly wouldn't expect one. Like the other ladies said, the big reward is your beautiful baby.

But if Keith had shown up with a diamond pendant or something, I probably wouldn't have said, "Oh no, honey -- take it back to the store." If he wants to give me bling, I don't care WHAT his reasoning is behind it.

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I love the idea. After 9 months & then labour - we both get the same awesome present of a baby - yeah - but don't I deserve something more for the 9 months, and delivery, and the nursing around the clock for the next year? Why not promote this gift of appreciation idea?

Johnny - posted on 09/15/2010

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My husband got the push present. When I was 6 months pregnant, we went to Mexico for a wedding. While skin diving, he lost his wedding ring while trying to save me from being swept by a wave into a rock. It was me or the ring. I personally thought he made the right choice. He felt terribly and spent all his time diving to look for it until I begged him to stop.

Anyway, I bought him a new one that was nicer and when my daughter was born, I had it with my doula and she gave him the box. He opened it up and burst into tears. It was sort of a cool way to renew our vows with our new daughter there to share in the moment.

Nikki - posted on 09/15/2010

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I am happy to receive diamonds any time, if I could have used a push present to get myself some new bling I would have, unfortunately hubby doesn't share my same desire or appreciation of diamonds.

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I think that's kind of silly. I never pushed, but I got 3 kids. That's present enough for me. :)

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