Ev - posted on 01/12/2013 ( 21 moms have responded )
Basically, I have read on some other threads of rewards for grades. They can be for the report card as a whole or so much for A, B, or C. While I think it is okay some of the time to reward for good grades altogether, I think its not teaching the kids that hard work is reward itself. I never got money for my grades. I got praise and encouragement if the grades needed to be a bit better. I also have a kid who has struggled with school and even with resource help has really had to work himself to the bone to get good grades. He worries about doing well. But he from what teachers say comes to class ready to work, with all materials needed to do the class work, and pays attention. He makes sure he meets deadlines on assignments and he gets really excited when he is making high grades. He does not expect to get money, video games, new movies or anything when he does get the good grades. I praise him alone with other family members and that is encourage enough for him to do better and work harder.
Why do parents feel that they have to give things or money to get the same thing I get with praise? Kids need to learn that even though they get that certain set of grades that in the world outside of school, no employer is going to reward them or give a raise because they do the work. I even get told that I am doing well by my supervisor all the time. She knows I work my tail off to get the job done and done right. She knows that I take my job seriously. Kids today are getting the idea that they will get whatever they want handed to them instead of working for it. I think that rewarding kids each time they got the right grades is one way we do this.