Drinking while pregnant?
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Sapphire - posted on 09/23/2010
I downed a pitcher of sangria before I knew I was pregnant. But my circumstance was just bizarre because I just had miscarriage #3 only 3 weeks prior, and we were on vacation. Instead of being depressed by another pregnancy loss, I decided to drown my depression in booze. When we came back from vacation, shit hit the fan with a positive pregnancy test. I would NEVER NEVER intentionally drink while pregnant. However, my fertility specialist who is from India, had a different cultural perspective. She felt that the red wine in the sangria helped with the implantation. The extra iron in red wine. I have a blood clotting & progesterone issue. So, while the pitcher of sangria did not save the pregnancy per se, it had no ill effect on my son.
Kandi - posted on 02/24/2011
my daughter drank through 5 of her pregnancies. 4 of them so far is FAS. I am now raising them and they are on perscriptions. Even the oldest that she didn't drink with. I get so down and feeling like I can't do it but then one of them tells me how much he loves me or misses me while I am at work.
In my opinion one sip is too much.
Haha! Alison, I thought I did already. I forgot that I posted the same thread in Debating Mums as well and I've commented there several times. My bad!
Here's my thoughts...
A sip here, a glass of wine there etc. shouldn't be cause for alarm. I don't drink. Well, not since highschool anyhow but while I was pregnant, in my third trimester in the HOT summer months, for some strange reason I CRAVED beer. I normally HATE beer. Anyhow, I did on a few occasions have half my boyfriend's bottle of MGD with clamato. YUM!
I think like everything else in life, it needs to be done responsibly and in moderation. I do think there are far worse things that people do DAILY, like smoking or drinking caffeine. Drinking coffee or pop daily is, IMO, much worse than having a glass of wine once in a while.
I think it is a cultural thing. In Europe I don't think they even bat an eyelid at a pregnant woman having the occasional drink whilst pregnant. I think its one of those things that its easier for the medical professionals to say none at all than to go into the detail of what is ok and what's not. 1/2 glass of wine every now and then would be fine I'm sure. If it wasn't, there'd be a lot more adults out there with foetal alcohol because I'm sure the vast majority of our mothers drank when they were pregnant.
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Kalie - posted on 03/13/2011
a drop is too much! when i was pregnant people had told me a glass of wine a week is good for you and won't harm the baby. now i never did try that glass of wine because personally the smell of any alcohol makes me sick. but all of the people who had told me that had their children 25+ years ago. researching it i found that even wine can harm the baby. everybody talks about fetal alcohol syndrome, and theres people who drank throughout their pregnancies and their children were fine. but fetal alcohol syndrome isn't the only disorder that a child can get from the parents choice to drink. there are developmental delays, learning disabilities, behavioral disorders, growth delays, mental retardation, and so much more. the way i look at it is, you chose to provide your child with life...choosing to drink for whatever reason is not responsible.
Sarah - posted on 02/26/2011
daiquiris are amazing Laura! lol :)
yeah i'm breastfeeding and often have a drink when my daughter goes to bed :) I asked my health nurse who said its fine to have 1 standard drink and feed 2 hours later, 2 drinks- 4 hours and so on. I have less that 1 drink and wait 4 hours :)
Laura Zoey - posted on 02/26/2011
Little bit of history, I was married at the age of 18 and my husband was 19. We both had never tasted alcohol. When matt turned 21 his friends gave hiim some alcohol to try, since at the time Wisconsin law allowed underage spouses to drink as long as their spouse was of age, I tried it along with him for the first time. I was 19. We both HATED everything they had us try!
I said it tasted like nail polish remover.
I became pregnant just a few months after that so I didn't have any more tastes until Eric was born. Matt was subjected to all his friends trying to find a type of alcohol he liked, he only ended up liking smernoff coolers (sp) and mikes hard lemonade. Once Eric was born I tried both types matt liked. I liked the coolers ok, but never had much. Half a bottle, maybe four times so two bottles total.
It's expensive so we never buy it, and since then I've tasted my friends drinks here and there and never liked any of it.
Now I'm pregnant again so I'd not even taste it.
I don't think it's going to damage my baby necessarily, but I'm uber careful while pregnant. No hair dye, no nail polish, no Tylenol, no chemical house cleaners.
So I wouldn't judge a woman for a drink here and there in acceptable amounts for pregnancy, idk what those are since I never looked into it :)
But I really want to try a daiquiri sometime, looks delicious, so I might try one after Fierna is born.
Breastfeeding is a bit safer time to drink I think then pregnancy, so that's why I'd be ok with that. And it might be 6 or more years before I'm not either pregnant or breastfeeding so if I want a taste here and there I'd rather do it while breastfeeding then while pregnant.
Victoria - posted on 02/25/2011
Even though I don't believe in drinking (mostly because the crap stuff stinks and the good stuff can take varnish off my coffee table) I still think the alcohol should be kept to a minimum.
If you have problems with miscarriages or high risk pregnancies, I would avoid it totally.
However I have seen several pregnant women consume alcohol while pregnant. Even though I don't approve, I did notice they kept it to one drink.
So if you must, keep it to a minimum. And remember alcohol is a blood thinner.
Sarah - posted on 02/24/2011
thanks teresa! oh i thought it might have been :( thats so sad because its such an easily prevented thing. Kandi i hope they are all okay!
yeah i agree with that! thats what docs told me (after) because they can't pinpoint whats not safe, but that 1 drink is probably okay.. not that its worth the risk!
another doctor told me a glass of wine twice a week is fine :/
in my opinion there is no justifiable reason to knowingly drink during pregnancy, and i would never even have those little sips again.
I don't understand why anyone would risk it!
Sarah - posted on 02/24/2011
Kandi, sorry for my ignorance but what is FAS?
I think drinking during pregnancy is wrong. I was fairly uneducated and didn't know it was that bad, so i had a few sips on new years and a sip at a party. I had no ideas of the dangers of drinking, but instinct told me no, so i didn't. Now that i know i would say have none because it's not worth it! Or at least wait til after the first trimester and then have a glass of wine, tops!
I had docs telling me none at all, and docs telling me that a glass of wine once a week is fine.
Danielle - posted on 02/24/2011
Not at all with my first; I have had 1 sip of red wine w/my second-which was nasty lol. I'm not much of a drinker anyway-I only had a sip cuz I turned 21 and the dr said a 1/4 glass wouldn't hurt...I wouldn't reccomend drinking more than a sip of red wine-alcohol is bad news for baby.
Jess - posted on 09/26/2010
I had one Cocktail at a christmas lunch with girlfriends just before learning I was pregnant. I would have been no more than say 3 weeks along at that stage.
As soon as I found out I didn't have another drop until I stopped breast feeding. I'm not a big drinker anyway, but I didn't feel my own self indulgence was worth the risk to my baby.
Dawn - posted on 09/25/2010
I am sure I had a few beers before I found out, but I was trying to conceive so I took it easy (I was quite the drinker pre-Mommy). I also indulged in a glass of red wine that Christmas, at my baby shower, and two days before my C-section. I felt no guilt and would do it again.
yes, you can find a website to confirm any stance but I thought this one was interesting.
I'm still not advocating for drinking whilst pregnant but I don't think you should beat yourself up either over 1/2 glass on a special occasion.
@Natasha - I agree, every woman is different and that is why they put out that blanket ban of none. Its just easier. Like I said, I never drank (once I found out) whilst pregnant and even whilst breastfeeding. Not even a sip. But I don't think a mother is being terrible or irresponsible if she has a glass every now and then.
Barb - posted on 09/25/2010
To Sharon; I've heard very positive things about the health benefits of one glass of red wine (sangria is my favorite also) And that is a wonderful story it helped you have your baby, Congratulations!!
My husband was born in 1957 and his mom smoked while pregnant with him, they didn't know back then. i'm betting she probably drank also. My brother in law, same thing. They both tease her mercilessly that if she wouldn't have smoked and drank while she was pregnant with them, they might have been full grown men.
My husband is 6'3" and 250, my BIL is 6'8" and 300 lbs.
Barb - posted on 09/25/2010
no, i wasn't old enough to drink, to create life, yes, drink, no.
If i was old enough i would not have had any drinks while pregnant.
No alcohol, not even Nyquil.
And my reason why is because i believe it would inhibit the development of the child growing inside of me.
Natasha - posted on 09/25/2010
It's extremely true that that in the 50's etc people drank and smoked while pregnant, but they didn't know the risks. Usually if it's just a bit of wine ONCE or twice your baby is fine, but every person is different and one glass could give your child FAS. Why risk your baby's health?
Stephany - posted on 09/25/2010
My OB/GYN told me to have a glass of wine before and another right after my amniocentesis. He said it allows the uterus to relax and helps to prevent a miscarriage. Didn't work for me- I miscarried two weeks later.
Other than that one time, I didn't drink while I was pregnant. I just didn't want to take the chance. I do think it's probably a culteral thing, though, and it also depends on what you're drinking. A few sips of beer is far different than a few sips of a cocktail or a shot of tequila or something. Wine, too, has so many medical benefits that I think a sip or two of that probably wouldn't be the worse thing you could do. To be on the safe side, though, it's just not a good idea.
April - posted on 09/24/2010
I had a mixed drink on my birthday. It was a rather strong drink, so I encouraged my sister and my husband to help me drink it. Even my mom (who doesn't drink) had a few sips. Thank goodness for that because I didn't know I was pregnant (about 3 weeks along). Thankfully, even though i was my drink...I'm the one that drank the least from the glass. I don't really like the flavors of alcohol so I don't drink. It's rare for me. I think even a few sips is not good. 9 months is the blink of an eye..you can wait for that glass of champagne!
Also, as a nursing mom, i am even more motivated to avoid alcohol. How do I know the occasional indulgence isn't going to predispose my son? It's a chance I don't want to take.
Amber - posted on 09/23/2010
I had a couple of drinks before I knew that I was pregnant. I have low hormone levels (which we didn't know) so we had 6 negatives before we got a positive and that wasn't until I was 8 weeks pregnant.
After I found out, I didn't have another drink. It wasn't worth the risk to me.
Caitlin - posted on 09/23/2010
I am a strong believer of 100% avoidance when you know you are pregnant. That said, I had 1 sip of champagne at my wedding. I barely wet my lips, but i was getting married, and it was for the photo. My husband finished my glass. I don't like alcohol anyways, so it really wasn't an issue.
Not once I found out. Thankfully I found out pretty early on. I don't think complete abstinence from alcohol is required though but alcohol just isnt that important to me so I just didn't. I think a glass, every now and then is ok. I saw a video at Teachers College about foetal alcohol syndrome and it said the danger time is very early on, about 3 weeks. But I think later on getting blitzed is still irresponsible. If you can't make it for 9 months without alcohol, well, then you've got some problems.
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