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At what point do you think it is appropriate to find a new home for a family pet? We have a 5 year old cat, Oliver, who is a Sphynx (hairless). He was outcrossed to a Siamese, so he has all the undesireable "Siamese" characteristics (namely, being really, really freaking loud). I mean obnoxiously loud. Screaming in the middle of the night loud. My twins are almost 3 and we have another set of twins on the way. When our first set of twins were born, we also had another cat, Austin, who we put to sleep about a year ago. When Oliver had Austin to hang out with, he was less loud and less demanding. However, now that Austin is gone, Oliver has become very needy. He definitely doesn't get the attention he wants or needs in this house because I am so busy taking care of the twins, working part time, and generally keeping up the house. When Oliver doesn't get the attention he needs (pretty much every day), he walks around and screeches. Sometimes for 30 minutes or more. He is worst right after I put the boys down for a nap during the day (and frequently wakes them up).
Here is the dilemna: we have another set of twins, due in April. The addition of two more babies will result in Oliver getting less attention. Plus, I can't have him screaming and waking up the babies, which he will. Taking care of twins is tough enough without having an obnoxious cat in the background. We considered getting another cat to keep him company, but I feel that could make a bad situation worse (because we don't know the dynamics between the new cat and Oliver) and it will give me one more thing to take care of when I'm already overwhelmed. We are considering giving him back to his breeder to find a new home for him. However, I feel really guilty about this. Has anyone faced the same situation? Do you ever think it is acceptable to give away a family pet? BTW, my twins LOVE the cat and play with him every day.