Having children of different races.

Juliana - posted on 09/25/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )

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I was just on a different mom site and a woman was talking about how she has 4 children. 2 of them are mixed and 2 arent. I am in a similar situation. My oldest has blonde hair and blue eyes and is fair skinned, my middle has brown hair, brown eyes and nice tanned skin and Im expecting our new addition who will most likely have blonde hair and blue eyes.
When we are in public, I get some strange looks especially when my middle child says "mommy" or "daddy" since my husband and I are both white.
What do you ladies think about having kids of different races? Why do people look down upon it?
And yes, they are all my biological children.

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Juliana - posted on 09/25/2010

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I think they do, and yes I do. I never had very good luck when it came to men until I met my husband.

Isobel - posted on 09/25/2010

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my bet is that they assume you've got three kids from three dads...and that's a whole different topic. Nothing to do with race :)

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Stephany - posted on 09/27/2010

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It's terrible that it's even an issue anymore. Seriously, we should be beyond this by now. All children are beautiful.
My husband and I have two boys. The oldest, like me, has more of an olive skin tone with almond shaped eyes and dark brown hair (I'm half Sicilian, half Irish- with my family either you're dark or you're alabaster). My younger son, like my husband's family, has pale platinum blonde hair, tends to tan but is capable of burning, and looks NOTHING like me. Everyone says The oldest is my mini-me, and the youngest is my husband's mini-me, and that the kids look nothing alike. They're built differently, have different proportions- everything. The ONLY similarity they have is their eye color, which goes from being kind of hazel or green to being full on gold. I've never seen anything like it!
My point is- all kids look different, regardless of their genetics. Who cares? Isn't that EXACTLY what we should cherish? In the least, we should teach our kids to cherish those unique qualities within themselves. There's a little girl in my oldest son's class who is part Brazilian, part Korean. She's a 4 year old supermodel in training, and the first time they met my son walked up to her and said "Your skin looks like a picture! You're gorgeous!", then they played with legos. Kids don't care so long as they aren't brought up to care.

Keri - posted on 09/26/2010

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I only have one child, but would like another, and I have considered having a mixed race baby, but I don't think I will. (I am single, so it's an option for me). The only reason I wouldn't is because I don't want my current child to feel differently, or left out, depending on the father situation. But I would love to have a mixed white/asian baby!

Dawn - posted on 09/26/2010

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Unfortunetely I think it sometimes is still an issue. My sister is white and is with a black man; their girls are various shades (most of them actually look Hispanic, which I think makes a beautiful combination) The town they live in is very diverse, but the town we grew up in is still predomintly white so my sister and her boyfriend do feel they get some dirty looks from some of the older generation. Recently they went to visit his family in NC and my sister said she was made very uncomfortable by the older black people of the community. Maybe this is a generational thing or maybe it is issues my sister has (she is very sensitive). I live in Florida and while there is alot of racism IMO, my area is very diverse. I think that color shouldn't matter.

Amber - posted on 09/26/2010

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I have dark hair and brown eyes and so does my SO. Our son has sandy blonde hair and blue eyes (well 1/2 the time they are blue, some days they are closer to green). I was blonde as a child, and my mother and aunt have colored eyes. So, while he has some of our features, he really gets a lot of his looks from my mom and aunt.
My great aunt adopted two black children and my mom grew up with them. We love them so much and they have always been part of the family. And while I must admit that they do stand out at family reunions, they are never left out :)
I'm just hoping that all of us who don't feel that color is a reason to judge, have children who feel just as strongly. Eventually if we keep passing this down, color really won't be a reason that people judge.

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Nope, I love colorful families and I don't see an issue at all! My nephews are so different with skin complexion and coloring, eyes, hair, etc. Same mom & dad, but they look nothing alike!

Charlie - posted on 09/25/2010

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Well my mum is black , im dark tanned and my sister is white .
My partner is white , im dark tanned one of our boys is fairly white , light greenish eyes the other looks like he is going to be the dark , is it really still an issue anymore ?

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My dad is Latino and White. My sister looks just like him. My mom is white, blonde hair, blue eyes, fair skin. She said that unless my dad was with her people thought that she adopted my sister. My sister and I are 22 month apart. When people learn we're sister they're amazed because we look nothing alike. They just assume we're good friends since we're always together lol. I don't think anyone frowned upon it, but it's silly that they do that to you. I'm sure you're a great mom and that's all that matters.

Anika, it's funny how stupid some people are. My dad is a farmer and a few years ago we built a new milk parlor. Some of his acquaintances would ask if they were going to hire and he would say, "yeah, my brother and I." My grandma was from El Salvador, but it's clear that he's not white and it's funny when people say those things and then realize they've just insulted a very large man. lol.

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I have a friend who is 1/2 Samoan and 1/2 Scottish and her husband is white. Their eldest son looks completely white. You'd never guess he was 1/4 Samoan. But their second son looks very Samoan. People never think the two are related let alone brothers.
My maternal grandmother is Maori but you'd never guess to look at me. It's funny in a way because people will say racist things about Maori in front of me coz they have no idea I am too. Ah, what people say when they don't think anyone who would care is listening. Idiots.

Natasha - posted on 09/25/2010

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I think is horrible that people judge others based on the skin color period. What about if they are a good person or not? That what matters

Candi - posted on 09/25/2010

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My kids are all white, but look totally different. My two oldest are 16 months apart and people knew they were mine. Both have brown eyes, brown/sandy hair, nd can tan like nobody's business. My husband and I have brown eyes, brown hair, nd can tan. Well, 5 yrs after my daughter was born, baby 3 was born. I guess the 15 month deployment did something to my husband's sperm. She was born with strawberry blond hair (now completely blond), bright blue eyes, and fair skin. When she is sick or mad, her eyes turn green! We tease about her being the milkman's daughter! Luckily she has enough of my husband's features, so nobody has to wonder. lol. A good friend of mine has 2 daughters. One is biracial and the other is white. They get treated a little differently depending on where they are. My cousin is white as snow, but dating a black guy with a black son and in public he calls her "mom" and people just look and some make low comments, but too chicken to say anything to her face. I think a lot of it has to do with where you live.

Carolee - posted on 09/25/2010

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I think it's funny to take the kids around my husband's grandmother. My husband and I started dating when my son (Corbin) was 1 year old. My son is part Mexican and part white (I'm the "pale" in the mix). My son's facial features look so much like my husband's, though (and he's also white), that my husband often gets asked when he dated a Hispanic lady! My husband's (Jason's) grandmother has actually said, to my father-in-law, "When did Jason get so tan?". She has alzheimers(sp?), so we just let her think that Jason is that young again, rather than pointing out to her that Jason is 35 now, not 3.

Other than that, I don't really get many comments. I did notice looks when I took my daughter to get her 2-month shots. Nobody could figure out where "the Hispanic boy's parents" were... until I called his name, and he came running to me, yelling, "mommy, I played with the train".

Juliana - posted on 09/25/2010

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I get the wierd looks when I have the both kids with me because they looks so different

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Some of the cutest kids I know are of mixed races. I don't understand why anyone would have a problem w/ it. We're all people, aren't we?

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