How Can We Ensure....

This conversation has been closed to further comments

14 Comments

View replies by

Amy - posted on 02/15/2010

4,793

17

369

teach them to be functional, respectable and respectful children. teach a difference between what's fair and just. live your life how you hope they will live theirs. they watch every thing. if you do something wrong, it's okay for mommy to say sorry. admit that even as an adult, you can be wrong. love love love them no matter what. and don't assume you know what's going on, just listen and try to understand.

Isobel - posted on 02/15/2010

9,849

0

282

Don't give them a prize for just showing up...don't fight their battles for them...accept that they are probably not the end all and be all of the universe (well, of yours maybe).



Don't abuse them, or allow anybody else to abuse them, but don't protect them from getting hurt legitimately.



Make them save up to buy stuff they want...don't just give it to them...say NO and mean it.



Punish them when they deserve it, praise them when they deserve it.



Make sure they always know you love 'em...





That's my theory anyway...I'll let you know how it works out in ten or 15 years ;P

Sara - posted on 02/15/2010

9,313

50

584

Statisically, there's more of a chance that my daughter will be a crack ho than a serial killer. Definitely don't want a crack ho for a daughter.

[deleted account]

I'm not sure we can ensure it either.....and I worry about that.
I mean, I try to instill good values, set a good example and give him lots of opportunities to be happy and explore the good inside himself, but sometimes when he's sleeping and he looks so beautiful, innocent and angelic, I can't help but think of the possibility that he could grow up to be a serial killer or something horrible.

Does that ever happen to you all when you watch your kids sleep?

[deleted account]

I think all we can do is our best to teach them good manners - please and thankyou, right from wrong but also that it is ok to be different, to have different opinions, to be from a different race, religion etc and that everyone should be treated equally. As other have said you are their role models and if you act the way you'd like them to act they should follow by example.

[deleted account]

I don't think you can ever ensure they'll grow up into functional, respectful adults. The best thing we can do is lead by example and hope they follow.

Melissa - posted on 02/12/2010

663

7

67

Show them! But it is all in the eye of the beholder, everyone has a different idea of what functional, and respectable are.

[deleted account]

I think it comes mostly through modeling. If you want your child to be responsible, compassionate, good with money, etc. be that yourself.

Ashley - posted on 12/14/2009

910

45

83

part of it I think is to be functional respectable adults around your kids. If they see you act a certain way they are likely to follow your lead.

Carolee - posted on 12/14/2009

21,950

17

569

Do your best to teach them to be polite and respectful from the moment they start talking. My son's third word was "please". That's (I think) the best you can do as a parent. There's no guaruntee of what's going to happen to them in life, and how they're going to react, though. There's really no way that we can "ensure" anything in life. All we can do is our best to teach them.

Amy - posted on 12/14/2009

1,761

18

248

I'm not sure there's a 100% way to ensure that. I think that the best way is to help make sure your children are well behaved. My husband has been doing a lot of reading on ways to help your children be self discipline children, and you basically don't "yeal" at them but explain what they did is wrong. Also giving them options is a very good thing as well, it makes them feel more responsible for there decisions.

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms