How do you feel about the whole "Princess" image for young girls?

Colleen - posted on 09/28/2011 ( 32 moms have responded )

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I personally do not buy anything Princess and will never call my daughter a princess. Noe will I buy any cloths that state on it "princess" If she ever asks to watch one of the Princess movies, I think i'll be ok with that, because she will understand that it is only a movie. I just feel that it's drilling in girls heads that they are better then everyone else. A real true Princess is part of the royal family. We in America do not have any royal families here and therefor why should we be teaching our young daughters to act "royal". This is strictly my personal opinion and I just want to here what you all think about ALL the princess stuff out there.

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Jessica - posted on 10/03/2011

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Ugh. I hate this debate. Children do not assign the same moral or ethical importance to fairy tales that adults do. By banning princess movies or princess themed items, you're just confusing them and IMO, setting them up for some serious getting made fun of on the playground when all the other girls are playing princess in the castle, and your daughter has no idea what's going on. If you ban princess, you might as well ban Santa Claus, the Tooth Fairy and anything else that is pure fantasy, because that's all it is. Fantasy. I just can't stand it when adults try to interfere with imaginative play and fanciful movies that are just meant to be FUN by placing a moral code on it that children don't even understand yet.

Jessie - posted on 10/11/2011

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I read something on another post that pretty much summed up one of the biggest reasons our house is 'Disney' Princess free. I hate the idea of my child being a billboard for a product, or a company. That being said, I think the 'princess' concept is a fine line. I love encouraging my daughters imagination. This summer I sewed her first princess costume, but it was an authentic Renaissance era costume. She also has tons of other dress up clothes, many androgynous in nature (animals, etc). I don't feel the need to push a gender initiative on a my two year old who is not in daycare and does not yet have to face peer pressure. I don't mind my daughter pretending to be a ballerina nor do I mind her pretending to be a t-rex. What concerns me more than the princess phenomenon is this whole line of toddler and young girls salons and spas. I wonder what impression this is leaving on our young girls.

Jessica - posted on 10/03/2011

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I also wanted to add that your girls will grow into strong women because YOU raise them to be that way. If movies have such a strong influence on your child that you think by allowing them to watch Disney Princesses or play princesses it will teach them they're better than everyone else, maybe you should consider how MUCH television and movies your daughters watch, not which kinds.

Jenni - posted on 09/30/2011

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I can't stand the whole damsel in distress image some of the princess role models (Disney princesses portray.) Useless characters like Sleeping Beauty, Cinderella, Ariel and Snow White who are lost until their leading male character comes and rescues them. I don't want my daughters growing up thinking they need a man to complete them or feel whole.

I don't mind Fiona... because she kick's ass and is a pretty strong role model. Or even Rapunzel in Tangled. But I still think they have a long way to go before they reflect Queen Victoria or Queen Elizabeth I & II, Hatsheput, Cleopatra, Queen Isobella etc. Powerful female royality.

I'm from Canada and the Queen Magistrate is still a strong symbol to us. But images of Disney Princess seem to reflect the exact opposite image I want for a female role model in my daughter's lives.

Sherri - posted on 09/29/2011

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Yes I think it is perfectly fine for girls to play princess and boys to play prince. No different in my opinion then girls playing fairy or anything else. I think it is ridiculous to ban such innocent things why limit their imaginations. They are so regimented already in everything kids can play or do these days. I just don't see the harm in letting them play something so innocent.

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Janice - posted on 01/03/2012

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I do not call my daughter princess and I do not buy any clothing or room decor that suggests she is a princess. I really cant stand all that stuff. My daughter is not a princess. However, I dont mind letting her watch princess movies or playing dress-up if she becomes interested in it. Pretend play is great but I think the non-stop "princess" (not disney princess) apparel and room decor encourages an "I'm better than you" attitude.

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Has anyone seen the movie The Little Princess!?! cmon all little girls are princesses! My middle daughter likes princess things. But she also like skulls sooo maybe princess skeleton?hah. We love having tea parties and dressing up. And we love disney movies of princesses but my daughter is aware that there are also "real" princesses. my oldest daughter likes "boy" toys but she doesnt think shes a boy. :)

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I dont see a problem with the occasional calling a little girl a princess, theres nothing wrong with kids fantasising about things like that, but I think its important not to over-do it, or it is only expected it will go to her head and she will start to think she really is better than others, only to be shot down as she gets older when she realises she isnt the centre of attention and doesnt know how to handle it when other people dont see how super special she is.

Rebekah - posted on 11/12/2011

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So, do you expect your daughter to turn into everything she plays?! I do not give my parenting power away. I am the one raising my children, so my daughter can wear princess panties without thinking she's better than everyone else.

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No princess stuff for my daughter in our home, but sometimes I call my husband "Princess." Does that count?

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I do not think that your "teaching" children to be "royal" by calling them princess or wearing a shirt that says princess. It is how you teach them to respect others and themselves. Objects do not teach your kids things, YOU teach your kids. When I have a daughter, I hope she is into all the princess things!

Stifler's - posted on 10/07/2011

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I think it's cute and fun and I'm sure I played that as a kid and don't now think I'm seriously a princess and everyone should do everything for me.

Jennifer - posted on 10/04/2011

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My girls have rich fantasy lives! Mainly, I believe, because not all their toys reflect a story that they already know. They know what a princess is, been in castles, seen "knights" and such at the medievel fair. And the reasons so many of the shows are banned at my house is because their TV time is limited. We do not even have cable! Trust me, my daughters are strong willed free thinkers. They have seen the disney princess movies, but only own Mulan. I don't allow the teen dramas. Not until they are teens(my 16 year old loves Glee). Why should my 7 year-old watch Hannah Montana lie to all her friends and stress over boys? I didn't watch Dallas when I was a kid, most of my friends did. I didn't get teased. And to this day I don't know who shot JR! Guess what, it's never affected me or came up in a job interveiw!!

Jenni - posted on 10/04/2011

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I just wanted to add, although I have my personal opinions on some of the Disney Princesses. I wouldn't *ban* them in my house either. Bratz dolls might be a different story, but Princesses meah... I'll pick and choose my battles.



Nothing wrong with girls wanting to pretend to be princesses and boys wanting to pretend to be princes. I get the whole appeal of the fantasy lifestyle of royalty.

Donna - posted on 10/03/2011

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i dont agree, nor disagree with the whole princess thing. my daughters love barbies, and disney princesses, and any and every type of barbie doll there is. They love dress up and make up and doing their nails and just being girls. They love stretch pants and dresses, they would take them over a pair of jeans any day. They are extremely friendly and out going. They have a few friends and will proably be cheer leaders in middle school. lol. They dont think they are better than anyone and i dont encourage that either. I was completely opposite thoes 2 growing up, i hated dresses, only liked barbie bc of her hair, which i cut half the time lol. never really wore makeup. i was akward and didn have any friends. needless to say i turned out fine and i think they will too

Jodi - posted on 10/03/2011

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Well, my daughter has all the Disney Princess bedding, and the bed itself.....it encouraged her to sleep in her own bed (as opposed to mine), so tell me what can be so bad about that?

Jennifer - posted on 10/02/2011

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Not too into the princess thing, I share your views there, but now that I have 16 and 17 year old daughters, that are dating, I almost wish I had taught them they are better than most;) lol, j/k. I don't bann the stuff, but I don't buy it for them, either. I do ban Bratz dolls, and Barbie is not dressed like a street walker around here. Well, when she is dressed...sigh......and Justin Bieber, Hannah Montana, et.al. can keep their crap........just so much that I don't want my girls to be exposed to at such young ages. No wonder girls are so brand consience and want to be sexy so young! I want my girls to have role models that are strong and independant, if they are pretty, ok, but that isn't what matters. My views are summed up in what I tell my older daughters, "you NEVER need a boyfriend. If you feel that way, your bf should take it as an insult. If you need him, you have no choice, if you WANT him, the choice is all yours, and he should be flattered" My husband tells them that is the sign of a real woman.

Starfish - posted on 09/30/2011

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I'm pretty lax about the princess thing. I don't want it to consume her, and I don't buy her "princess everything", but I don't discourage her moderate interest in it. She likes princess stories.

But she's 7. She likes a lot of things. Princesses, pirates, animals, planets, whatever.

And I do make sure she's exposed to some stronger female type characters, too. It's all about balance.

So now I have a little girl who believes there's nothing wrong with wanting to be a model AND a doctor. I've got to say...I agree with her completely.

Janeta - posted on 09/29/2011

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I call my fourteen month old daughter "mommy's princess" all the time and she knows that she is a "daddy's princess" I do not force anything princess on her at all what so ever. I do not think that me nor my family is better than anyone and as long as that is the way that we raise our daughter it wont matter how much princess stuff she is introduced too. I see nothing wrong with them playing dress up or with them watching princess movies or having the nick name princess. I think that it is all a matter of how the child is raised is what determines their views on the name "princess"

Medic - posted on 09/29/2011

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I do not have any character themed anything in my house for either my boy or girl. I do not feel like they need the brands or the names on their clothes or toys....I think its all tacky anyways. That being said my daughter does have princess-ish stuff that has been made for her. A crown her older brother made and they play pretend. I am more against the brands. My daughter is my princess, just as I was my daddy's princess, my son is my prince. They know they are not better than anyone but to me they are the world.

Colleen - posted on 09/29/2011

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I have absolutely no issues with little girls playing dress up and pretending to be Princess'. That is def not what i'm referring to. I just personally don't like the "Princess" clothing not just the Disney Princess clothing ALL of it. I also NEVER said I BAN all Princess stuff from my house. I am fine with my daughter being given something that has Princess on it, because it's not like she will have very many anyways. I would just rather buy a character that SHE likes not what I want her to like. I guess what I'm trying to say is that I will NOT buy Princess stuff just cause I feel she is a Princess, I want her to like it and not force anything upon her. And like most of you said, their is nothing wrong with letting girls use their imagination. =]

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Well, I didn't like all the pink stuff either when my daughter was born... Fact is, they don't need tv or whatever to get into these kind of things. My daughter loves pink and she calls dolls with long hair a 'lovely princess'. But she also loves trains and blocks and tractors. I don't really see the problem. And personally I think it's ok to play princess and pretend you are special and pretty (well, of course she is, but that's beside the point). Doesn't mean they grow up to be demanding little divas.

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I don't like all the princess junk they sell... but I also don't like things with Dora, Elmo, etc on it either. I do call my daughter princess. But I guess I see princesses differently... more of a dignified, gentle, caring, giving, courteous type.

Thus far my daughter hasn't show interest in princess stuff. Out of Disney... she'd rather be Boo. Which works, she's a toddler and Boo's a toddler.

If in a few years she starts to show interest in the princess stuff, fine. I'll make her some dress up clothes. Pretend is pretend, we shouldn't make it more than it is.

Johnny - posted on 09/29/2011

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I think there is a difference between choosing not to buy branded "princess" stuff and bannng princess anything from the house. We don't go in for branded stuff at all, regardless of what it may be. But my daughter loves to play princess in the castle, and dancing princesses and such. She is allowed to dress up and sport her tin foil tiara to her heart's content. I just choose not to ingrain too much commercialism into her head at this age, there will be enough of that later. I want my daughter to learn how to process all the commercial stuff coming her way successfully, not to buy into every ridiculous fad that comes along. I am hoping to try to raise an independent thinker.

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My 'princess' little girls are now totally into gymnastics and surfing... and pretending to be Bethany Hamiliton. I think it's kind of silly to ban princess stuff... not go overboard or encourage an obsession? Yes, but an outright ban or even just discouraging any of it? Totally overboard. They're only little for so long... it's harmless. Trust me. ;)

Karen - posted on 09/29/2011

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We're not into princess stuff in our house. Mostly I don't like the focus on outward appearance. It's all about the dresses, the hair the face and of course being rescued or whatever by some handsome prince. Not the kind of influence I choose for my daughter.

Serena - posted on 09/29/2011

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we dress up ,like princesses sometimes, but we also dress up like animals, cowgirls, football players, ballerinas, pilots, etc. Playing pretend is one ofd bour favorite games!

Innocentia - posted on 09/29/2011

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i dont get what the problem is as long as you will still teach your daughter all those moral values,she's not a princess she's your princess.

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Meh. I'm not a fan of all the princess stuff, but it's not banned from my house either. I've never actually bought my kid anything princess-y, but she somehow has a lot of it. Mostly it comes to us in the form of hand-me-down clothes. She has a few of the princess movies, but Mary Poppins and VeggieTales are her favorites at the moment and are typically chosen over the princess movies. She'll occasionally pretend to be Sleeping Beauty dancing in the woods. She also acts out scenes from Beauty and the Beast and oddly enough always pretends to be the Beast, because he "turns nice". And she'll sing the Nightingale song from Cinderalla because she likes the funny way the step-sisters sing it. That's not "acting royal." That's a little girl playing pretend. Movies and princess t-shirts are only one very small part of the huge parenting picture. So far, I've found the princess stuff to be harmless. I remain neutral and allow her to enjoy it. Now, if I pushed it, bought every pink princess item out there, and made every activity of every day centered around being a princess...then I'm sure it would be a problem.

Carolee - posted on 09/28/2011

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IMO, just because kids like Princess stuff doesn't mean they think themselves better than anyone else. It's all in how the parent(s) approach the subject. If me calling my daughter Princess Lynn while she plays will make her smile, then I'll do it. It's harmless, as long as I make sure the kids know that everybody is equal. I will never change my view on equality, and I will do my best to make sure my kids understand that concept and hope that they will agree (because you can't force somebody to believe what you believe if they're not open to it). I hope this makes sense. I'm not feeling my best today.

Johnny - posted on 09/28/2011

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I do not like the princess stuff at all. Thankfully my daughter is not all that into it as far as all the Disney princess crap goes. Although she has informed us that she is a "dancing princess" and she has received a few princess themed gifts. We've been relatively successful at keeping it at bay for now. Although my weak-willed husband bought her a new pair of rubber boots with Disney princesses on them on Monday when I was at work. They're going back.

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My girls ARE princesses since they are daughters of the King (Jesus). ;) They loved princess stuff when they were little and never acted like they were 'better' than anyone or thought/think that cuz they know better.

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