Husband leave you due to no sexual happenings?

Kitty - posted on 04/19/2012 ( 16 moms have responded )

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Is this something that happends? can IT?
WELL I am afraid something is gonna happen with my marriage if this doesnt change anytime soon!

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Kari - posted on 05/12/2012

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I think you guys need counseling & some TIME. It kinda sounds like my sister's husband: he likes physical attention, & when he gets sex, he feels validated & secure (doesn't matter what MY opinion is lol)
Sex can definitely bring people closer together. Your last post said that you "tried" but nothing happened? Maybe he needs to go to the doctor as that seems a bit abnormal.
I don't necessarily think it's your "wifely duty" but it should be a regular enjoyable part of your relationship, whether you are married or not. My mom always told me that unless I am so NOT in the mood, just start kissing, etc, & see what happens. However, I am a very sexual person so I would rather not go more than a few days without.
I hope you guys can get this figured out.

Stifler's - posted on 05/02/2012

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Maybe he is a physical person. He feels loved through sex and you know what I am exactly the same. I don't feel loved from hearing I love you or whatever I want sex or him to clean the house and give me a massage. Eventually when you get denied enough your self esteem grinds down to nothing and you are scared to ask anymore.

Medic - posted on 04/20/2012

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Husbands can leave you for anything....there does not even have to be a reason. That is the magic of free will.

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Rita - posted on 05/14/2012

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Like it's been said, husbands can leave for any reason. My husband is on medicine that literally killed his sex drive. I'm thinking that we have probably had our last kid without really knowing it; it's been a year now. I used to be annoyed by this, thinking that we had to have a certain amount of sex a week to be a healthy marriage. I now think it's more that both partners need to be satisfied with the amount of sex. Since it's a medical issue, I'm just learning to live with it and to get/give affection in other ways.

If your husband said something to the effect that he's going to leave you, certainly try to work it out, although that signals a bigger problem than lack of sex -- he's being a bit controlling and manipulative. So, counseling might be helpful. If he didn't say anything, still try to bring it up if you're concerned but it's probably nothing that warrants counseling.

Kitty - posted on 05/14/2012

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Well we have been married for a long time and we do try .. 2x a week his blood sugar gets to hgh well..d... he cant get nothin going and as for we he seems to pressure on me to wear sexy nightys and ya ok seems like a ok deal I just dont feel like doing it and maybe he is right i dont like doing things like that and I should but I am not comfortable doing it...

Sally - posted on 05/13/2012

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@ Brown another constructive post ,i see. Are you trying to go across all posts and drop your meanless one line answers. Instead of just replying like you did try reading the other posts and you would understand why this women is having problems.

Kitty - posted on 05/07/2012

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HE NEEDS to bring down his weight and sugar levels and so we do try and nothin happends last week we did tryin and nothin we both were fustrated so I told him i will try again later but right now take a break ! so it is been a week now...

Sally - posted on 04/22/2012

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if you feel unvalued . Its not surprising you have gone of sex. Its a shame you can't find a way to explain to him how you feel but im guessing he wouldn't listen. I don't know what to suggest besides doing whats best for you

Kitty - posted on 04/22/2012

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well ya we did this already and I think it only makes him happy if his penis is statified!!!!!! wich seems to be all I ever do so now in the last 6month i have almost quit giveing sex to me just doesnt seem to make ME happy spending Quality Time'' togather - sex helps ME... LOL...
HE MAKES it sound like it is MY '' Wifely Duties'' and I find that rather annoying!

Sally - posted on 04/21/2012

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would he do counselling. If he won't maybe you could talk to someone just to get things clear in your head before you decide whats the best for you and your family.

Kitty - posted on 04/21/2012

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well we havent shared a room! and we dont communicatr when he have a disagreement no matter how hard I TRY TO keep things going they never work in my favor I THINK it is just time to Move on.....
find someone who enjoys the same things I do...

Sally - posted on 04/21/2012

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3 times a week seems pretty reasonable to me. It sounds like his got some issues his self maybe try to find out whats going on with him.

Kitty - posted on 04/21/2012

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I am 38 and I just said why if i didnt a Endemetrail Albaltion is done to help women older to deal with HEAVY peroids.. this is what was happening my peroids were longer then normal and i had this going on for weeks on end so I went to see Doc.. Plus I have had 2 children since one at 22 and last one at 30.

we been married 19 yrs! and he seems to not get that women change and have issues that he cant seem to care about so I TOLD HIM you want a a seperation cause I dont share a room with you or give you sex more then 3x a week OMG I said I am like wow really....

Sally - posted on 04/20/2012

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not to be rude how old are u. Why was it done. How you feel about it and how you feel about yourself may have a lot to do with it. There is a number of things that can effect you. me just got to end of menopause, sex just doesn't interest me at the moment, my so was getting het up cos its been bout 4/5 months but more he nags the less i want.

Oh i srarted early and now done im 49

Kitty - posted on 04/20/2012

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well I am haveing health issues with not wanting any I recently had a Abalation done the doc said he took alot of my eggs and left most of them since then IM not intrested in sex as I SHOULD BE... I havent ovulated in 2months or had a peroid....

Sally - posted on 04/20/2012

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Is it you or he thats uninterested. Has something happened to put you off.Theres not much info in your post but yes i believe a relationship can break down through lack of sex because if its been ok and changes. Itcan be a sign something deeper is going on.

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