i think my 6kids year old may be homosexual and im fine with that i was just wondering if anyone has had this issue and if so am i doing the right thing when he asks for dolls for birthdays etc to get them for him? i try to find boy dolls and justin beber dolls instaed of barbie i just dont want to influence him bbut i dont want to make him think hthere is anything wrong with who he is either i feel like im walking a tightrope

Toni - posted on 05/16/2012

***MOD NOTICE***

Danielle has her answer, she is doing a brilliant job regardless of what certain closed minded people may think.

I am going to lock this thread now as it is full of personal attacks and hate speech. Individuals will be dealt with as appropriate.

Toni m
Pdht mod

Michelle - posted on 05/15/2012

I think the best thing, for ANY child, is to encourage them in becoming whoever they are. Encourage interests, look for truly harmful things (cruelty to others, self-destructive patterns) and nip those but whatever else, enjoy them growing up and don't peg them in any particular way.

My cousin loved to play with dolls when he was little, his dad hated it because it wasn't "manly'. Only if we girl cousins were over was he allowed to play with them. Of course I was fonder of making weapons out of tinker toys in the back yard with the other boys and going to war on my younger cousins. I'm sure my uncle was horrified at my un-girliness!

All grown up, neither of us happens to be gay, or even particuarly un-gender typed. My cousin grew up to type of husband & father that other women want to clone - myself included :-D

My feeling is if we encourage our kids in being who they are instead of trying to overly cater to any one thing/feeling then we'll be raising the best well-adjusted adults.

Krista - posted on 05/15/2012

Exactly, Teresa. He might not be gay, he might just be particularly nurturing. Who knows? Either way, the mother is handling it exactly right by being supportive.

Teresa - posted on 05/14/2012

I have many gay male friends who ahve told me they never played with dolls, NA sexuality was not a problen for them until society made it a problem. They were normal kids but something happened at puberty and the sex hormones went all hay wire, then they noticed they were differnt.

Isobel - posted on 05/14/2012

preeeee-cisely

Lacieann - posted on 05/14/2012

There's a phrase that springs to mind here. "Don't feed the trolls" Clearly this Miss Brown doesn't get enough love and affection from her home life, so like some children she's on here making mean semi-literate comments, in hopes that the negative attention will fill whatever void is in her life.

Remember ladies, how do we handle cries for negative attention? Ignore her, just act like she hasn't posted anything at all. Don't reward her silly ways. You know she cares otherwise she would've stopped posting when she said she would.

User - posted on 05/14/2012

Hey, why are you downing yourself like this.

Sally - posted on 05/14/2012

Uneducated,narrow minded and bigot are just some of the more polite terms that spring to mind.

User - posted on 05/14/2012

@ Sally The best way to forgive life's disappointment is to Cry a river, build a bridge and get over it.

The joke is on you!!lolololololol!!

Sally - posted on 05/14/2012

why don't you stay off other peoples posts then or start your own hate rant elsewhere you are a joke and have no place on a site thats for help and support.

User - posted on 05/14/2012

Yaul still talking about this, move on, let it go, Get a life. that conversation was over hours ago.
I am cracking up, at these responses literally. Joy, Tabitaha, and the rest of you's learn to read from the beginning.

This post is old. I will not be responding to this post anymore. Its done, even the person who asked the question is done with it. Go work out and release the stress! Go to bed.!

This is HIlliarious!!!

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2012

Thank you all for the support and if my soon does happen to be different I will teach him most people are good and accepting and know we are all just trying to live our lives and be happy and when he comes across the few that are not to brush them off like the parasites they are, evil, real evil should be removed from your life like a cancer

Joy - posted on 05/14/2012

Sounds like "Brown" is the type of Christian who gives Christians a bad name.

Danielle, my hat is off to you and your husband for the way you are handling things. :)

Tabitha - posted on 05/14/2012

She is ignorant it's ok don't hate on her. Karma is a bitch let me tell ya that.

Johnny - posted on 05/14/2012

Isn't the definition of a Christian SUPPOSED to be one who tries to live like Christ? I mean, I realize that almost is never the case, but this time it's WAY out there.

Jen - posted on 05/14/2012

Brown, are you a Christian? For real or do you just like the ability to put people down?

Krista - posted on 05/14/2012

Man, I thought I was kind of a sad individual for spending as much time on here as I do. But now I see that there is something sadder: someone who spends time on here solely to be hateful and try to piss people off. I can think of many better ways to get my jollies. The fact that Brown cannot...well, THAT is what is sad, frankly.

Johnny - posted on 05/14/2012

Since this is a site for MOMS, I think that's a stupid question. And no, I'm not transgendered either.

It's a nickname. I'm assuming Brown isn't your actually name. If so, my condolences.

Sally - posted on 05/14/2012

I also wanted to add, my son is 15 and we have wondered as well over the years. He did date a girl for all of two weeks and got bored. Theres a lot of his ways and behaviour that make us wonder.
He is an active member of marine cadets but SHHOCK HORROR he bought a pair of skinny fit purple jeans, should i get the priest in now,lmao. Like you i don't care as long as his happy and true to his self

Sally - posted on 05/14/2012

@Brown , this is the third post i have seen you reply to and yet again all your doing is insultig people.

I think that you are doing an awesome job. With your love and support your son will be fine

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2012

I suppose it'd be better to tell my baby how bad or wrong he is so IF he is intact gay and ppl pick on him in school he feels like he has to hide who he is and has no one to go to and ends up killing himself because he has no support and knows he will never get acceptance? Heck no I baby will know no matter what happens he can come home and his FAMILY will love and embrace him and WE will keep the balance for him everyone needs love and family and acceptance and no bible thumper is going to tell me different I believe in god but I believe we were put on the earth to learn love tolerance and kindness also ... some ppl believe in no doctors does that make it right? Did god not give doctors the knowledge to heal? God is found in all things even my son gay or straight as he may be

Kelina - posted on 05/14/2012

oh and DNFTT danielle have fun at your teaparty! i hope when those days come for me I can have the patience and tolerance for them. the idea of sitting in tiny little chairs making conversations with dolls is something that scares the living daylights out of me!

User - posted on 05/14/2012

Johhy, are you a man, I am confused?

Kelina - posted on 05/14/2012

I've reported a few of her comments, I'm hoping the mods will be able to do something soon.

Johnny - posted on 05/14/2012

Why are you here then? Just to be unkind and hateful?

Johnny - posted on 05/14/2012

Brown, she didn't ask whether it was right or wrong that her son might be gay. She asked if we thought she was managing to handle the possibility of it and his slightly different behavior in the best way. She stated that she didn't agree with your perspective, so instead of accepting that and leaving it be, you continue to poke her to be cruel.

User - posted on 05/14/2012

Oh and I don't care who does or doesn't agree with me.

User - posted on 05/14/2012

Kelina Danielle is not looking for support. Danielle is a glutten for punishment. Okay it was over and she still wants to comment. I had a opinion and that was it, If you didn't like then don't read it.

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2012

The only one tired on here brown is YOU had you self righteous opinions and assumptions are old and tired and frankly I can't see how anyone could stand you long enough to raise a child with you

Kelina - posted on 05/14/2012

I think everything different is scary at first, especially because we as parents want desperately to do right by our children. WE see so many news stories these days of teens who commit suicide and shoot up schools or other insane things because their peers and their parents didn't understand them so trying to figure out how to handle it is terrifying. The last thing we want is for it to be our child who winds up as part of the latest statistic or scandal. Brown everyone is entitled to their opinion, I think that many of us here don't agree with yours. But if you really think that belittling people is the best way to get them to see your side of things, I think you need to take a look at your results. All you've succeeded in doing is making a lot of people angry. Danielle came here looking for support as do most of us. If you don't think you can support her you don't have to respond to her.

Johnny - posted on 05/14/2012

I knew eventually some dumbass would show up and make moronic comments. It is only a matter of time when you're on the internet.

Danielle has nothing to "justify". I see nothing here but unfounded assumptions and ignorance. Pretty disgusting really. But then, I'm kind of thinking troll.

User - posted on 05/14/2012

Danielle go to bed, aren't you tired?

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2012

Im not justifying anything to you, but your right about one thing even if someone beat your thick head against a brick wall you'd still quote the bible and have your backward opinions so if you'll excuse me I have a teaparty with my son Winnie the pooh justin beber and dream time Barbie to attend! Lol get a clue the world is changing and your going to be the odd one out just like when they outlawed slavery and you had some stupid die hard ppl trying to hold on to the old days .... well my son ain't sitting on the back of no bus for no one lol

User - posted on 05/14/2012

Obviously you like talking to me because you keep responding, so I am going to give it to you straight. I think you are crazy. You know something is not right about it, because you keep responding trying to justify.

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2012

Since we have 6 children I doubt my husband is gay, and we have 4 boys and the other 3 did not do this just because your a bible thumping "think you know it all self righteous moron does not mean your correct about anything it just means god did your children a favor by not giving g them an issue you were ill equipped to handle special children take special parents and obvious you and yours walk the road of average and boring now leave me and my kid alone and go to your south baptist study group and talk about how all gays and catholics are going to hell maybe they will care about your big mouth opinions

Krista - posted on 05/14/2012

Brown, you are WAY out of line, lady. Reel it back in -- maybe there's something in your Bible about being catty and hateful to total strangers, hm?

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2012

What kind of fool are you? I do have a husband he does live here, he is supportive of our child, I can't say he wants this life style for him but he loves him. And no my husband does not play with dolls but he does collect action figures tho I have no idea what your point of this is. Deacon has played with dolls in the class room some kids were ok with it some were not, I find that the ones that were had good loving tolerant parents and the other had parents like you ... god forbid you ever have a child that does not live up to what YOU think they should be .... we do not own our children they are gifts from god we protect love and guide to adulthood no one has the right to tell someone who they are inside is wrong or bad.

Kelina - posted on 05/14/2012

It sounds like you're doing just fine. Lol, Johnny we call my brother metrosexual because he's always had more interest in clothes and shoes and "girl" activities like that than I have. I'd rather go hiking than go to the mall any day. But his fiance is expecting twins so he must like that part of being a guy just fine. http://www.lauras-playground.com/transge... If you're up for it you might take a look at this site. some of it may apply to your son as he gets older, or it may not. You're right. a colour is just a colour. And for the record my 3 year old loves playing with dolls. His favourite toy at the moment? his sisters my little pony. Some kids grow out of it, some realize that that's part of who they are and that's ok. As long as he knows you'll accept whatever he chooses or realizes about himself as he grows up there's really nothing you can do on top of that. good luck!

User - posted on 05/14/2012

oh and I don't believe you have a husband, or man there in that house. Does the Daddy play with dolls too.

Danielle - posted on 05/14/2012

By the way id just like to say his daddy my HUSBAND is just as supportive and he's the one that went to get the justin beber doll lol so he does have a father in his life Deacon just likes what he likes and I refuse to let anyone hurt him

Krista - posted on 05/14/2012

/pops popcorn

Danielle, I like the cut of your jib, lady. Your kid is going to be JUST fine. You obviously have an excellent head on your shoulders, a good sense of humour, and take no crap.

With regards to your kid, who knows what the future will bring? All that we DO know is that by making sure he feels accepted and loved, you are arming him with the self-confidence and security to deal with whatever may lie ahead for him. Kudos.

Jen - posted on 05/13/2012

Sure Brown, read the Bible to him. Especially the part that discusses exactly the method and price of selling your daughter into slavery.

I'll pass.

Danielle - posted on 05/13/2012

His daddy is right here in the house with us and always has been, and no offense I believe in God but I will not use any twisted logic or words on my son he will have to encounter enough people like you in his life without his own mother persecuting him and by the way God is LOVE and the bible you read has been interpreted and passed from so many ppl to others I chose to believe so many have put their own beliefs in there gos love my son and so do I he will grow up to be a wonderful human being. More loving and tolerant than you seem to be

User - posted on 05/13/2012

I would not be letting my 6 year old boy play with dolls sit down and read the Bible to hime. Where is the daddy?

Lacieann - posted on 05/13/2012

Maybe he is, maybe he isn't. Maybe he's transgender or straight or whatever, I just want to say that it's really awesome that you're so supportive and concerned with his happiness instead of being concerned with him being "normal."

Danielle - posted on 05/12/2012

Thank you all for the support!

Kari - posted on 05/12/2012

Whatever happens, you seem like a great mom. A lot of moms would be up in arms about this & entirely unhappy. Keep up the good work. We need more like you!! :)

Kelly - posted on 05/11/2012

My son is like that too and I think it's just a phase. My son is about to turn 4 and he has a pink bunny, loves Hello Kitty and has said things like ...."I'm pretty, I'm a princess and I swing on a rope!" I don't mind if he is gay as an adult either but I don't think that liking some girly things in the meantime has anything to do with it one way or the other. I remember my cousin used to love to paint his toenails when he was a kid (lots of kids do) and he grew up to be straight.

Right now, I am more concerned with his older brother who is in school and learning from his peers that "pink is for girls" coming home and telling my 4 year old that. I want my son to know that it is perfectly OK to like what he likes to like and be who he is. I think it's perfectly natural for little kids, including boys to be attracted to some girls toys, they're just curious. I played with match box cars when I was a kid.

Danielle - posted on 05/11/2012

Thank you for the insight

Johnny - posted on 05/11/2012

You don't need to "guide" his likes and interests. Just let them develop on their own. All you need to do is show him that no matter what those interests are (obviously outside of those which are harmful or dangerous) you will always love and support him. Which it sounds like you are doing, good job. I do not doubt that you may be right that he is gay, but I would just let things come naturally and let him make his own choices. He may just be into more feminine things, and that could well include girls.

I have two friends from elementary school who everyone thought were totally gay. One is and has been "out" since he was around 13. The other wasn't. He like clothes and danced ballet and played with dolls because he liked being around girls. He is VERY heterosexual (lmao!) and still loves the things women love. I always take him shopping and my husband is convinced he does it so he can see my boobs in shirts that don't quite fit. So an interest in "girl stuff" doesn't always make a guy gay. I had a high school boyfriend who has always been into hockey, heavy metal, and construction equipment who came out of the closet in college. You never know based just on interests.