Is SEX addiction real?

Shannon - posted on 03/22/2010

It's real. But also like drug addiction, it's a choice. It starts out as simply being "slutty" then turns a dark corner...

LaCi - posted on 03/22/2010

I believe in sex addiction. Anything can be addicting. I also believe that, as with most psychological disorders now, its being used as an excuse or an easy out. Sex addiction is real, this celebrity addiction crap is BS. A guy has money and uses it to have sex with a ridiculous amount of women? Oh geez... well he MUST be an addict... I mean no normal guy would do that....

There are people with real problems, and there are people who pretend to have problems for whatever self serving motivation who make the people who do in fact have the real problem look like their full of shit. And that is sad.

Amy - posted on 03/22/2010

I was raised that addictions are from lack of self discipline. Most of the time, I buy that. I do think there are some people who aren't addicted that just say it to justify. Just like any other addiction, some people just get hooked. It's more of a mental thing than a physical thing. If it's truly an addiction, I think it changes how you live. Sometimes our addicitons try to fill some kind of void. Some people claim to be addicted to the computer, chocolate, other everyday things. Heck, when a book comes out that I've been waiting for - it's all I think about. "gotta buy that book. got book. must read after cooking lunch, at naptime, any time i can!!!" Why not sex? Doesn't mean I don't have the self control to just toss it aside for now. But I don't want to toss it aside. It's up to us to call it quits.

I loved that at the end of the article where they want him to "have sex like a gentleman".

Jennifer - posted on 03/22/2010

I honestly think it's a load of codswallop. It's just an excuse for the promiscuous men and women to say it's not their fault. Next there'll be cake addiction or chocolate addiction where the overweight people blame eating cake for being fat. That's it I've got chocolate addiction.

Chatty - posted on 03/21/2010

Shannon: THANKS for sharing! CONGRATS! I know personally how hard it is!

Kylie: I think it's quite the opposite of what you said! Admitting that you have an addiction or that you're an addict isn't the easy way! It takes a lot of guts and sole searching to admit you have a problem and by asking for help you're ABSOLUTELY taking responsibility!

Shannon - posted on 03/21/2010

YES!!! I know from experience.. Along with my major drug addiction, I also had a sex addiction. I did anyone & everyone that I could. Anywhere, anytime.. It didn't matter. The only thing that mattered is how it made me feel at that moment. Later I would hate myself for it, but keep doing it anyway. It was a high. I felt powerful, because I could get & do anyone I wanted. Men, Woman, it was all to satisfy my self lust to feel better. & it worked. Just like the drugs I was doing, it was only a temporary satisfaction. So I would do it again & again to keep feeling that way!!! I was out of control.
I'm clean & sober now.. From EVERYTHING!

Teresa - posted on 03/21/2010

I didn't look at the link, but considering that sex was one of the reasons my marriage fell apart. Yes, I believe sex addiction is real. One of my marriage regrets is telling my ex 'no' when he asked me if I thought he had a problem since I didn't want to hurt his feelings. Maybe if I had said 'yes' and we had sought help for the issues things would have been a lot different.

Kylie - posted on 03/21/2010

I think I may have been hasty I've now looked into the definition of addiction

# being abnormally tolerant to and dependent on something that is psychologically or physically habit-forming (especially alcohol or narcotic drugs)
# an abnormally strong craving

I accept that sex could be an abnormally strong craving, which I am not sure is addiction. I have abnormally strong cravings for sweets and chocolate, and I am fat, but I don't consider it an addiction. I think that's too easy. I take responisbility for my cravings and my weight.

I do think "sex addiction" is too easy a term to use, and tries to justify people's behaviour. Sometimes a philanderer is just a philanderer.

Minna - posted on 03/21/2010

I think it's totally legit. Perhaps it is more of a habit than an addiction, but where do you draw the line? I called smoking a habit, but it was an addiction... I quit when I got pregnant. Just gave it up, no problem, which is something I had failed to do a bajillion times before that. I say good for that man, seeking help, and fixing his life with his wife and family.

Kylie - posted on 03/21/2010

I have never heard a woman claim to be a sex addict, however the same applies. I should have said people!

Chatty - posted on 03/21/2010

So, what about the women who claim to be ' sex addicts ' ? Same goes for them? Just a question because you only refered to men!??

Kylie - posted on 03/21/2010

I think its a load of old codswallop. I think "sex addiction" is men trying to excuse their rotten low life behaviour and dress it up as a clinical condition.