Caitlin - posted on 12/06/2010 ( 22 moms have responded )
My husband was telling me once about one of his friends who was married and they were having their first baby many years ago. My hubby drove the couple to the hospital when she was in labour because the guy was an absolute basket case, and couldn't drive (nervous first time dad..)
Either way, he waited at the hospital, but the delivery was unexpectadly complicated, and being many years ago and at a Catholic hospital, there was a preist there, who came in. The doc basically told the father to be that he could save one or the other, but one wasn't going to make it. The priest chimes in saying "save the child, save the child, because a child is without sin and the mother has sinned.." Well, both my hubby and the father to be were in the military at the time, so the priest was physically ejected in an airborne manner quite rapidly after that statement. Either way, the look the doc was given was apparently enough inspiration to make him work harder and they both survived after emergency surgery.
If this was you and it was ultimately you or the baby, would you be self sacrificing, or selfish..
If it were me giving birth and it was me or the baby, I'd chose me... It would be tragic to lose a baby and have to hold that little body in my arms, knowing it was so close to being alive, but on the toher hand I have 2 other daughters to take care of, and they need both their parents. I could always try again later on if I felt like it, or adopt if whatever complication made it physically impossible to conceive again.