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If your child has something that they want to confide in you with, but they also say "Please don't tell Dad", how do you handle it? Do you keep the secret from your spouse? Do you and your spouse have a 'no secrets' rule? Do the kids know that whatever they tell one parent, the other parent will find out? How does it work in your family?
This issue came up on the radio this morning and as I was listening I honestly did not know how I felt about it. Our kids are still young enough that child confidences just hasn't ever come up yet. It got me thinking about how I would handle it in the future, which in turn makes me wonder how you all handle it. Some examples of secrets could be a 17yo DD going to her mom for birth control but not wanting the dad to know she's on birth control, or a teen wanting a tatoo or piercing in a somewhat private location on their body and going to one parent to get it but not wanting the other parent to know. For purposes of the discussion though, the secret could be anything and it could be involving a child of any age.
Please share your thoughts / experiences.