Jackie - posted on 03/02/2010 ( 21 moms have responded )
So I saw this on another post...and I have had this debate/conversation with people in the past too. What does everyone think about having siblings in the delivery room? Or anyone beyond you and your husband (or coach) for that matter? Is it appropriate (specifically on the kid front)? Is it necessary (for anyone additional? Does it interfere with what should be a "family" time? Etc etc...very curious to see what people think.
I personally think the delivery room is solely for the mom and dad (or coach)...plus medical professionals obviously. You are bringing a new life into this world that you created, I just don't think theres any need for any other distractions. Especially not children, I'm against that for much more than the need for mom and dad to bond. The things a child will see are not anything you would let them watch on TV, so why should this be any different....it' is just not a place fo rthem. Not to mention labor can be very long and slow, or fast and chaotic...either way, mom needs to focus on delivering....not babysitting. And things can turn bad in an instant. would you really want (god forbid) your child to watch mommy have a fatal complication...b/c it can happen....in an instant...to anyone. So no, you can't say oh teh nurse would get them out of the room....they are there to take care of mom, not babysit, and when something bad happens thats their focus. SO I just think 1. too many things could go wrong, 2. its not anything they need to see and 3. its meant to be a 1 on 1 bonding time.
Really the only time I could see ANYONE else being in teh room was what someone posted about maybe bringing in your teenage daughter just to show her the reality of it...but i'm talking older teen who already knows full well what its all about....and even then not sure I would do it.
I'm all for people wanting ot meet the baby right away, my mom was in the next room and could hear my daughters first cry, and met and held her 15 minutes later...but no reason for anyone to come in/be present until everyones cleaned up and mom has held the baby.
Curious to hear what others say.