Kissing Child

Nichole - posted on 07/25/2010 ( 43 moms have responded )

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Ok so in another topic, I noticed a subtopic forming so I'm interested in hearing more of your opinions on this... Is kissing your child on the lips appropriate? If not why? If so up to what age is acceptable?

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Minnie - posted on 07/26/2010

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Kissing on the lips is appropriate no matter what age as long as both parties are comfortable with it.

Rosie - posted on 07/25/2010

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i find it appropriate at any age, as long as each party is willing. i still kiss my mom on the lips every now and then, i kiss my dad on the cheek. i still kiss my boys on the lips and they are 10, 5 and 3. the ten year old i'm sure will be putting a stop to that soon, lol! but until then i'll kiss away!

Jessica - posted on 07/25/2010

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Absolutly, when did something as innocent as a kiss from a child to parent or other way around become something unacceptable. I'm 24 and I still kiss my mom with a peck on the lips and don't see a thing wrong with it.

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Barb - posted on 09/07/2010

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Before reading any of the other replies, um.. I'm 39, my Mom is 64, my Dad is 73 and we all still kiss each other on the lips.. My own son is 18 and is in that age of having a mom isn't a cool but i'll grab his head and force kisses on him cuz i'm his mom and that's how i roll.

Alison - posted on 09/07/2010

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In some cultures, they do for a lifetime. I think it's all about how you kiss and not where you kiss.

Sarah - posted on 09/07/2010

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i still give my mum and dad a kiss goodbye on the lips but i dont no how much longer i will have them so i dont care what other people think at all.

Ary - posted on 09/07/2010

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I agree with everyone that says it's sad that it's becoming politically incorrect to kiss your own child on the lips. MOST people are not pedophiles. I understand the concern. I really do. But I'm a very affectionate, lovey momma. I didn't get a whole lot of affection myself growing up, and I want to make sure my sons know how very loved they are. And that includes bear hugs, tummy raspberries, kisses on the feet and kisses on the lips. When/if they ever become uncomfortable with lip kisses is when I'll stop giving lip kisses. But my sons love kisses, hugs and cuddles. And to the person (name's been taken off) who says that lip kissing your CHILD is seen as a warning of a sexual relationship...I have never heard anything so absurd. The kisses my husband and I share are indicative of a sexual relationship (duh) and they are VASTLY different from the little smoochies I give (and my husband gives) to our little guys. There's something wrong with people that even THINK that kissing your own kid on the lips is indicative of a sexual relationship, IMHO. Jeez. Pretty soon our kids are gonna have to stay dirty because it'll be 'frowned upon' to soap up our children's naked bodies. Sad.

Kat - posted on 09/01/2010

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i think until a certain age, it's ok. especially w/ the opposite sex parent. i stopped kissing my parents on the lips when i was like 9 or 10. but i know of some grown people (20s - 40s) who still sit on their parents laps if given the chance, which creeps me out personally. but your little kid? i see no problem with it

Sarah - posted on 08/30/2010

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i'm 29 and I still kiss my mom on the lips, my dad on the cheek and I intend to give my lo kisses until she pops! Although she is trying to kiss back now and that resulted in her licking my lips! yuck! I was shocked, she could tell and laughed, then i laughed and well... yeah, it was kinda funny!

Starr - posted on 08/29/2010

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My children can be 40 and Ill still give them lip kisses if they will accept. Its a sweet gesture of showing our love. my daughter wants a "tiss" al the time.

Dawn - posted on 08/29/2010

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Until my son no longer wants them, I will be giving those lips big kisses and his cheeks and his eyes and his hands and his feet and his belly!!! Funny, my Mom is a total germ freak so there was
NO lip kissing EVER growing up!!!!

Stasia - posted on 08/29/2010

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if course it's acceptable, they're your child. It continues to be acceptable until they feel uncomfortable with it. Sometimes a two year old may not like it, others may not like it in public, but like showing affection at home. I think it is the child's place to set the boundaries

Jennifercounce - posted on 08/28/2010

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I think this depends on the family. And if the parents or the child ever starts to feel uncomfortable than it shouldn't be forced.

My family didn't kiss on the lips and I don't remember anyone kissing me on the cheek after about 6 years old.
My high school sweethearts family was very physically affectionate. His grandma used to kiss me on the lips and honestly after I got over the shock lol it didn't bother me.

Tara - posted on 08/24/2010

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i never kissed or even hugged either of my parents as a child and hate that i dont now! i am 21 & my mother is 36, odd i know, but even now if she asks me for a kiss i feel awkward and dont know how to respond so i kiss her on the cheek. but with my 2 year old i love kissing him, lips, forehead, cheek, where ever, we even do kissing wars! i do kiss his step father infront of him, but nothing more then a peck cuz my kid is a copy machine! but i love when he randomly comes up, hops in my lap and kisses me! as he gets older and starts school im sure it'll stop. he even gives both his dad & step dad kisses on the lips. we lived with his step-fathers family and when it came time for bed he went around, said love u & hugged and kissed everyone in the house, though my fiance's brother found it wierd to kiss him on his lips, so they came to a compromise and did "head butt" instead of "besos" but with me, its whatever makes my son comfortable!

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I am not against kissing my daughter on the lips but I don't do it. I don't know if it's just me or if it's a cultural difference (I live in New Zealand). I always kiss her on the cheek. Actually, it could just be me. I'm just not a kissing person :)

Nikki - posted on 08/02/2010

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Really? I find it strange to speak about the appropriateness of age in relation to kissing your children, are we so politically correct now that we can't even kiss our children on the lips without others reading more into it and thinking it is strange? Sad, who cares about age, there is not enough love in the world, I have no intention of adding an age restriction on affection for my children.

Lyndsay - posted on 08/02/2010

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I think it's okay, especially when they're little. Personally, I rarely ever kiss my son on the lips.. usually when I ask for a kiss he just leans his head towards me and I just kiss whichever part is closest. I'm fine with that, he's fine with that... I have no need for extra lovey shows of affection.

Becky - posted on 08/02/2010

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I grew up with kissing my parents on the lip. When I see my "mommy" I always give her a big kiss on the lips (We live half a world away, so its only once a year) When my nephew came out to see us for the summer I gave him a kissed on the lips and he is 13 ( I have raised him since he was 1, and am fighting to get custody of him. I think of him as my son). He has a freckle on on his lip, that I claimed as mine, when he was 3 years old so I always get to kiss it. He has asked me not to do it in public anymore, but when we are at home he does not care. My daughters 3 and 6months, I kiss on the lips. I couldn't imagine a world without kissing all my lips!

Stephanie - posted on 07/29/2010

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The fact that some people have issues with this is bewildering to me. My son is 13 months and kisses me, his Aunt Sam and other close family on the lips. I understand the importance of teaching a child (Even as young as a toddler) that you shouldn't kiss everyone on the lips. But your own child -- It's ok at any age as long as child and recepient are ok wth it.

Katrina - posted on 07/29/2010

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I love giving my LO kisses on his little lips or cheeks. My nephew will sometimes refuse to give me kisses on the cheek but will want kisses on the lips and he just turned 6. I dont mind at all. We've been inseparable since he was born so its like he is my first child although I just had one 5 months ago. I will continue to give them bunches of kisses until they decide they are too old because they grow up too fast.

Jenniferitzep - posted on 07/28/2010

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I was fine with lip kissing untill I started dating then it was wierd neither of my sons like lip kissing (2,4) if you kiss them on their lips they wont let you kiss them again my husband says that it is a america thing that other contries dont do it and see it as a warning sign for a sexal relation between child and parent and I have seen many times that that is ture so watch out if some one starts to kiss your child they may start thinking of their last boy/girl friend be careful

Corena - posted on 07/27/2010

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Seriously? People have problems with that? Wow, I had no idea. All my kids kiss me on the lips...18 months, 15 & 16 years.
The little one uses his lip kisses as "gifts" If he is really in love with someone that day they get lip kisses at bedtime, otherwise they get the cheek. It's adorable!

Micha - posted on 07/27/2010

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I don't kiss my mom often, just because I'm not that comfortable with it, but when I do, it's usually on the lips. It depends on how the child and parent feel about it. My brother-in-law is 22 and he still kisses his mother on the lips.

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I kiss my girl on the lips. i've no problem with it at all and i don't think there's an age limit either. Obviously when they are older it's more than likely that the child will give you a kiss than the other way round, so i'm taking every chance i can to kiss my daughter before she tells me to get lost.

Joanna - posted on 07/26/2010

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I was never made aware that some parents and kids kissed on lips. It didn't happen in my family or in any family I knew growing up. It wasn't until I had my daughter, and she'd be asleep and I'd see those big lips sucking air (after her paci would fall out) and I'd just have to kiss them. I love that my family gives lip kisses, it's just the best thing in the world to me. If I'm having a bad day, my daughter will come up to me and say "mama, you okay?" and pat my back and give me a kiss on the lips. It's just perfect.

I'm not looking forward to when she's at an age it embarrasses her and we stop, but it's all up to her. I agree with everyone, when both parties are willing it's totally fine!

Allie - posted on 07/26/2010

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I don't think kissing a child on the lips is inappropriate. I kissed my parents on the lips until I was a preteen.... I don't think its wrong as long as its an innocent peck... My son kisses everything though these days, just today he was playing with my sister and said "Aunt-E's earring! Kiss it!" and then kissed it and then laughed so hard. It was adorable.

Jane - posted on 07/26/2010

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I think it depends....my kids are now 20 (girl) and almost 17 (boy). My daughter still calls me mommy (and I love it) and still kisses me on the lips. My son calls me mom and we crack up every time I make him kiss me on the lips because he doesn't like it anymore. He didn't even think of it until he hit puberty then all of a sudden, kissing mom on the lips was yucky. So, now, it's a huge joke to make him kiss me on the lips and we laugh so hard we get pains in our stomachs every time. Typically, I get hugs but every once in a while, I like to be a goober mom and make him kiss me on the lips!

I read the thread that had this subtopic coming through and I thought it was odd that some people thought it was not appropriate to kiss your children on the lips.

Meghan - posted on 07/26/2010

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I love "smoochies" from J!!! He is the most cuddley kissy little boy! I am sure once he hits school age it wont be "cool" anymore infront of people, but I am sure I will still get them at home! Whenever he decides he isn't comfortable with it, I will just smooch his forehead and checks! I'm gunna go get one right now!

Amy - posted on 07/26/2010

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Small children, yes it's very acceptable. As they get older It will most likely move to a kiss on the cheek rather than the lips. As for what age, we only have a 2 year old so I'm not really sure yet.

Cyndel - posted on 07/26/2010

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I think it is fine up until a certain age, I know my son will begin protesting in a year or so and that is when I'll stop.

LaCi - posted on 07/26/2010

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He kisses on the lips. It's what he does, no big deal. Although now he's more interested in blowing kisses to everyone. I don't think it matters.

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I LOVE kissing my son and am very privileged when he kisses me back (he is not a lovey baby - he wants to explore). I will continue to kiss him as he grows up until HE decides he doesn't want to kiss me.

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I don't have a problem with kissing your children/parents at any age. It's normal to kiss those you love, obviously not in the same way as your spouse but a peck does no harm just strengthens the mother daughter, etc. bond. I'm 20 and I still kiss my mam on the lips and my dad on the cheek and I love getting little kisses from Logan =]

Charlie - posted on 07/26/2010

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I have no issue with it i LOVE kissing my little ones on the lips and they love giving me big smooches , well i still have to steal them off Harry because hes still a newborn , i kiss my mum and dad o the lips and im an adult .

Krista - posted on 07/25/2010

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As long as both parties are comfortable, why not? I'm not a physically demonstrative person with other family members, so for my parents and siblings, it's cheek-kissing only.

But my baby? My little 11-month old with those little kissy baby lips? How on earth can I resist? Sure, I wind up with drool all over me, but who cares? I kiss his feet, too. And I'm guessing that eventually, that will stop as well! LOL!

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It's up to the people involved whether or not it's appropriate....I have NO problem kissing Roxanne on the lips. My nieces both always want to kiss me on the lips which I found odd at first but I realize that it makes them happy and I don't want to discourage any affection from them so until they try and slip me the tongue I'll play along. Haha!

Amber - posted on 07/25/2010

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@ Teresa~ haha, my 3 yr old does that. So, I kiss the front and back of both of his hands and tell him he's wiping more on :) He gets a huge giggle out of it.

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Yes, if both parent and child are comfortable. No age limit if that's what they do.

For ME personally.... It is rare that I kiss my 8 year olds/they kiss me on the lips. Showing physical affection is a difficult thing for me, so I've tried not to pass that on to them but even snuggling them is awkward for me now.... since they're almost as big as I am. With my 2 year old.... lip kisses are still totally fine. Except for the times he's being a stinker and either wipes them off or makes me 'suck' them back. He'll do that w/ kisses anywhere though when he's in that mood. ;)

Nichole - posted on 07/25/2010

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I completely agree. I still kiss my mom with a peck on the lips or cheek. I think it is fine as long as the child isn't uncomfortable with it. I did noticed my brother stopped kiss his mom or dad at all when he hit puberty.

Amber - posted on 07/25/2010

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I think when they are small children yes. As I was reading this my son just came in, jumped on his Auntie Stephie's lap and gave her a kiss. I laughed at the irony and they thought I was crazy.
I think when the child gets old enough that they feel uncomfortable with it, they'll be sure to let you know. I always kissed my mom and I still greet my mother (and all my close friends and family actually) with a kiss on her cheek.
I think it just depends on how affectionate your own family is.

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