LeAnn Rimes - What are your thoughts on her new life?

Stifler's - posted on 11/14/2010

NO. You can't help how you feel only how you deal with the situation. If they hadn't had a sexual affair they may still have had feelings for each other and the relationships might have ended anyway IMO that is just the same.

April - posted on 11/12/2010

I agree with you Tah...marriage is a totally different ballgame. If I had seen a ring on my husband, I would have run away so fast that he would have never even found out my name!

Tah - posted on 11/12/2010

i thought we were talking about being married, i also met my husband when he was in a very unhappy, non-productive relationship with a chick who didn't work, was making a 6 month course a 3 year affair so that she could sit around spending all the bill money on clothes and he was raising a baby he thought was his but can be anyone of his 3 friends and whoever else's...so yeah..if you are just bf/gf....i think all is fair..but marriage is something different to me...

April - posted on 11/12/2010

@Tah...i wouldn't sleep with another woman's husband. I did, however, sleep with another girl's boyfriend when I was in college. We ended up getting married. We have 1 child together and life couldn't be more perfect. The other girl ended up getting married too to someone else. I'm not proud of how we got together, but we were so in love and stuck together like glue. It was one of those things where the heart was so much stronger than the head for both of us.

Not every person who has an affair is a homewrecker. My story is an example.

If you're not married...you have no home. Also, if you're the one being cheated on...you have no home. It takes 2 to tango..if i am a homewrecker then my husband is just as much of one too.

Tah - posted on 11/12/2010

@April..so what you are saying is that you would sleep with another woman's husband and feel entitled to do so because all is fair in love and war..isn't it sad that one party usually doesn't even know she has a war on her hands...so it's more like guerrilla warfare or sneak attacks...correct?..also...i think that when people try to justify it by saying that the relationship wasn't perfect or they were on their way out, it is just their way to justify what they are doing, and their is no justification...it's called being a homewrecker, and it can be used for men or women as far as i am concerned....

Alison - posted on 11/11/2010

What I really have a problem with is how we hold celebrities to such a high standard. Why should Shape magazine not feature a home wrecker (if that is, in fact, what she is)?

The truth is, none of us knows what was going on in the marriage beforehand. I believe building a relationship on the foundation of an affair is a pretty stupid strategy, but if she is in shape, there is no reason why she should not be on the cover of SHAPE magazine.

April - posted on 11/10/2010

I don't like the term "homewrecker". it is usually used to describe a woman who took a man from another woman. i think it is degrading! i am also a firm believer in "all is fair in love and war" if 2 people love each other, let them be. don't start saying bad things about people. sometimes there was never really a home to wreck in the first place!

Sherri - posted on 11/09/2010

Do you believe that every person who has an affair is a homewrecker? YES
Do you think it takes two to mess up a marriage causing one to go outside of their marriage? NO, Someone can be the perfect spouse and still have a spouse that is a homewrecker.

Rosie - posted on 11/08/2010

i don't feel it's ever the right thing to do to cheat on your spouse. however the people complaining about her on shape magazine are fucking ridiculous. in fact, i think it's so ridiculous that i am so much on her side, it makes me forget about her being a homewrecking slut, lol.
someone being on a magazine cover has nothing to do with her personal life. it's so stupid, it makes me want to pull my hair out. i do not get people, sometimes, at ALL.

Tah - posted on 11/07/2010

you can't fix what's wrong in your marriage by going outside of it...i don;t care what is going on, you not happy leave, file for seperation and divorce me, don't cheat, and i do also blame the other woman, if she knows you are married she should require all of that be done before she opens her legs. I also think that stars think that they are above things like for better or worse, things get a little tough, they meet someone on the set of a movie..and bam.affair and heartbreak...kelsey grammer, brad pitt, leanne rimes..etc..I also think that she is a grade A.....because she doesn't feel she is guilty of anything, she is selfish, saw what she wanted and felt she was entitled to it...you don't get to not be called a homewrecker because of who you are. If her husband, who just months before she was saying she loved to pieces...cheated on her..guess what she would be calling that harlot...you guessed it, the name she doesn't think she is....

Barb - posted on 11/07/2010

Amber, not trying to change your mind, but that statement reaffirms what i'm saying. the "in the morning" part is an inference to "after sex" meaning an emotional connection (ie"something intelligent") is not a prerequisite to having sex but maybe a bonding opportunity after sex.

This shows me that the physical activity of sex isn't requiring an amount of emotional bonding, mental intimacy, that will come in the morning, a separate time, thus separating the intimacy/emotion from the physical act of sex.

I am NOT saying that men do not bond with women and have an emotional/intimate relationship with them. I'm just saying that perhaps it's not through the physical act of sex, but maybe more through the "something intelligent"

Amber - posted on 11/06/2010

Barb, Ok, I understand what you're saying now. We'll just have to agree to disagree :)

I did mean the reasons behind the sex though. I know quite a few men who will not hook up with a woman who they don't see future potential with. One of them always says, "I want to be able to say something intelligent to her in the morning and not get a blank stare."



I will also agree that LeAnn Rimes is not somebody to really care about...

Barb - posted on 11/06/2010

to Amber;

In my personal life i believe that both people in the marriage should give it 100% because there will be times when one person is only able to give 50% and you are going to need to cover their half.



Saying that, however, i still believe the ownership is on the person who had the affair. They are the ones with the end choices of; affair, working on the marriage, or ending the marriage.



And i don't think i said what i was trying to say before so maybe an example will help me.

I've had girlfriends that have had affairs on their husbands, and i've had malefriends that have had affairs on their wives. It seems to me the difference is, the girls have the affair with a guy because the guy gives them something mentally they aren't getting at home, affection, attention, pampered, even in some cases, kink and things they didn't trust telling their spouse they were into. But when the men stepped out it was more of a "because she was hot" not because she did anything for them mentally, just physicially.



And like i said in my first statement, you can't agree with sweeping generalizations. I understand this is NOT true for everybody. It's just been my experience that this is true more often than not.



Maybe a fun experiment would be to ask a brother, father, uncle or some other man (not S.O.) what attracts him to women. The body or the mind.



Edited to add: And i agree with Julia, when it comes to the case of Leann Rimes, who cares?

Amber - posted on 11/05/2010

@ Barb, the ownership of the affair is definitely on the person who had the affair. However, the ownership of the marriage is still on both people.
And while some men don't need a bond, and some women do...there are MANY cases of the complete opposite in the world today. I know many men who have never slept around, and a few women who have....

Julia - posted on 11/05/2010

ummm no offense...but in the case of Leann Rimes....WHO CARES!!!!

However to answer your other questions.
I throughly agree with Kelina!!!!
It takes 2 to make it work and 1 dumbass to screw it up.

Kelina - posted on 11/04/2010

I think it takes two people to make a marriage work and only one persons stupidity to mess it up. Yes there are cases where both partners are to blame, and many cases are probably like that. In the words of Reba, "when the people grow and the marriage doesn't, that's when you sprout a BarbraJean!" If there's a breakdown of communication, if one spouse is abusive tot he other these can all cause someone to go outside the marraige looking for happiness. However, If someone's just an idiot(i've known a few of those) one person can think they;re relationship is going great and the other could be cheating.

Barb - posted on 11/04/2010

"This brings me to the question. Do you believe that every person who has an affair is a homewrecker?

No, mainly because you can't include every person in a sweeping generalization.

Do you think it takes two to mess up a marriage causing one to go outside of their marriage?
No. I think if a person goes outside their marriage and has an affair the ownership of that affair is solely on the one who left the marriage to have the affair. It is not on the one they had the affair with as the outside person is not the one who made the commitment to the relationship only your partner did. And the ownership of the affair is not on the other partner that did not have the affair as they maintained their commitment to the relationship.

Other Comments:
Being raised with a lot of male influences in my life, it is my belief that men equate the same amount of emotion in sex as they do basketball or some other sport. Men can have a sexual relationship without having a bond with a woman, whereas women put more intimacy and emotion on the sexual relationship/bond.

Personally i think men find self confidence very sexy. And I'm telling you this as what I've observed as a woman electrician working with male electricians. The less you need them, the more they want you.
There is also a big difference in being with someone because you want to or because you have to.

Mylene - posted on 11/04/2010

I think that ending a marriage BEFORE sleeping with someone else is the best way to go. Both parties always have a part of responsibility in a relationship. LeAnn rimes decided to cheat so did her now boyfriend. They are not home wreckers per say, they are just plain stupid and disrespectful if you want my opinion.

Jennifer - posted on 11/04/2010

I base my "assumptions" on the fact that he chose to have an affair and he chose to leave. My mam did nothing to him and therefore IMO she wasn't to blame.

Amber - posted on 11/03/2010

I also disagree with that assumption, Jennifer. My dad was an abusive, alcoholic who cheated on my mother for years before he got caught. But I do not think that my mother was perfect in their marriage. He was definitely much more at fault than my mother. She did small things that annoyed him or that he didn't like...and while those things generally don't end a marriage (and wasn't the cause of the end of theirs) they are problems.



A relationship has two people in it and both people are equally responsible for the relationship. One can be more to blame for the break up, but no marriage is perfect and no spouse is perfect either. Therefore, both people have some blame.

Jennifer - posted on 11/03/2010

I disagree Amber. My parents got divorced because my dad had an affair...and in now way was that my mother's fault. Yes my dad and his now wife were both part of it, but my mam was not to blame in any way, shape or form. I hated my dad when they split - I was 13 and there were no visible signs to my sister and I that they were even having problems. My mam had tried working it out with him but he decided to leave, I blame him and his new wife and whilst I hated them back then, now we're fine.



I think in the case where both husband and wife have cheated then fair enough they'd both be to blame.

Amber - posted on 11/03/2010

I think that it takes two to mess up a marriage. It is never the result of one person's actions alone.
However, there is a "right" way to end a marriage...and an affair is NOT the correct way to do it. You should respect the other person (who you obviously loved enough to marry at one point) enough to leave them before you hop into bed with another person!
To me, that is a basic level of respect. You simply do not treat people that way.

As a celebrity, she knows that her life is going to become public knowledge (even though it shouldn't). If she didn't want to have that label, she should have behaved differently. That is the nature of tabloid reporting in this day and age.
I also find it humorous that 2-3 years ago at an awards show, she publicly claimed that she was better than other young celebrities because she had a solid marriage, that it was her first marriage, and that she is drug free....I bet she's sticking her foot in her mouth now....