Leaving your kids in the car while you run into the store

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I saw this post in the Q&A where this woman was asking if it was okay to leave your 1 year old in a car while you ran into the store to pay for gas or buy 'smokes'.



What's your opinion on this matter? Do you think it's bad parenting or do you think it's acceptable? If you saw someone do that, what would you think and/or do?

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Krista - posted on 03/19/2010

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A lot of it DOES depend on where you are. If I was in a city, or even a town larger than mine, then no, of course I would never leave my child unattended. And in Kim's case, where she lives, then yes, it would be foolhardy in the extreme to leave a child unattended.

But I live in a podunk fishing village of less than 400 people. I'm not saying that abduction could NEVER happen here. But I AM saying that the odds of it are very, very, very, very, very, very, very small. Minute. Beyond tiny. And, as I mentioned earlier, my child is put at much greater risk when I drive down the road with him in the car. Or when I walk him in his stroller. But I take those risks every day, and nobody thinks I'm an idiot or unfit for doing so.

Unfortunately, as parents, there is no way to completely eliminate any and all risk to our children. I could keep my child home at all times, but what if our house burns down? That could happen, right? What if someone breaks into my house and kills us all?

Basically, as parents, we have to look at our environment and our circumstances, and decide what risks are worth worrying about, and what risks are not. Because if we worry about every single possible thing that could conceivably happen to our kids, no matter how long the odds, we'll soon find ourselves on happy pills and wearing a comfy jacket with unusually long sleeves that tie in the back.

Ashley - posted on 03/18/2010

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When I was driving I could never bring myself to leave my son in the truck. It was a pain in the neck b/c it alwasy took extra time to just pop in the store for a second, but I am a city dweller and you never know who the crazies are. The farthest I ever got to leaving him was getting out and dropping movies in the takein box but I could touch my truck the whole time. lol



I know some people who do it all the time, and while I am sure they feel ok with it, to me it is a horrible practice that could lead to any sorts of mishaps or worse.

Sally - posted on 04/07/2010

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Never never never. As someone who has had a car backed into in the parking lot, I cannot imagine anyone doing this. I was not even to the door of the store when I heard the hit. Out of the car less then 30 seconds. Imagine the fear that would go through a child in that circumstance. Or worse, it takes a good car thief mere seconds to break in a car. Also, in my state, it is considered child neglect. Bad bad idea.

C. - posted on 04/07/2010

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It is not acceptable. Anything can happen to that baby/child while you run into the store for 5 minutes. I have seen it happen (I used to work in a grocery store and people ALWAYS left their kids out there, especially infants, and we are in SC so it gets REALLY hot out here in the summer).



Myself and a coworker of mine have called the police on people before for leaving their children in the car. This one particular time, the guy had been in the store for a little more than 10 minutes, both kids in the car who couldn't have been over the age of 1, sitting in direct sunlight with the windows barely open and it was a very hot day. AND he was parked far away from the store. I'm sorry.. But if you ABSOLUTELY HAVE TO leave your kid in the car, park as close to the store as you can!



My MIL takes my son once in a while and one time when she was dropping him off, she said that he fell asleep in the car and she ran into the store while he was still sleeping.. I about slapped her! Anything could have happened to my son! I definitely did not appreciate that one bit.

Carolee - posted on 03/18/2010

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Honestly, people are so nosy and into every body else's business that I'm afraid to leave my son in the car to pay for gas! I've heard people that have the opinion that leaving a child in the car for less than two minutes to pay for gas or something is "neglect" and said that they would automatically call the cops just to teach the parents a lesson! If people (in general) weren't so hell-bent on ruining everybody else's lives, I would leave my kid(s) in the car for something extremely quick like that... but people scare me. You never know what they'll do just because they're having a bad day.

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Nellynunes148 - posted on 07/17/2016

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I have never left my children in the car, I will take all 4 in with me at all times

Ashley - posted on 07/12/2016

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Thank you Carolee York ,exactly ,these nosey people are going to ruin these kids lives and cause huge problems ,bigger problems then a mother leaving their kid for a short time in the vehicle in AC .

Ashley - posted on 07/12/2016

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I know right ,same thing happened to me,toddler in car,sleeping ,just 10 feet away only a couple minutes my AC was on and my dog who will chew someone's face off if they go near my chold(she would never hurt the baby though ,she is just very protective of our family especially the baby though.but I don't think anyone was going to try to steel my van,but if they tried ,they. Wouldn't get far or wouldn't be able even get in the van ,but I got the cops called on me,officer said what if the van ran out of freon ,really???!!!!Well since I was coming back out with a couple minutes I don't think the van would heat up that fast in 2 minutes and I would have seen that and just left or taken the baby out as I was waiting for Lowes employees to load something up so I had to sign a receipt and I waited at the window so I could see my van while every 5 min or so checking to see if the baby /toddle woke up .in between check some nosey Bi&@; called as o was walking out to check and pick her up as she had woken up ,lady had no reason to call,as I was just picking something up ,I was in sight of the van and I frequently checked the van .but she just judged me with out checking the facts,the cop though saw on video the truth,the last obviously embellished or lied.

Ashley - posted on 07/12/2016

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How is it child abuse?no one is hurting the child ,the child is safe ,the child is happy .calling the police in a good mom could get DCF involved and she could end up with a record all because some dimwit can't use their brain effectively ,the AC is on the mother can see the child in the vehicle and is only going to be 5 minutes.My parents did it wow looks like I'm traumatized ,I remember Aliens coming down in those 5 minutes abducting me and replacing me back in my seat before my mom came back out of the store .Bad things can happen all the time ,the store could get held up with the child in the mothers arm,and get shot ,that is just as likely to happen then Something bad happening while a 1year old is strapped in a car seat in the AC with the mother maybe 10-15 ft away .I got the cops called on me,im a good mom who home schools and takes very good care of her kids ,we do projects and lots of outside fun ,not like a parent who sits their kid in front of an iPad or tv all day or most of the day .I had to pick up something for my parents at lowes ,baby 1 1/2 year old,sleeping. I left AC in with my dog who will bite someone if they go near my kid or attempt to get in the van ,and no she would never harm the baby ,ever .ive seen the baby sit on Eviee,take her food (I didn't mean to let it happen but it did .and Eviee just walks away,she looks at her more like her own kid.anyways dog is in the van protecting the baby ,I went in the front glass door where service desk is and I ask for the item my parents needed me to pick up that they got fixed took 3 minutes or so,she said she had to call so I stepped back out to check on baby and Eviee ,still peacefully asleep so I went back in and ask if it was ready ,stood there at the window where I could see my van and make sure no one tried to steal it ,oh and if they did I had the clicker to lock the doors or unlock them or press the panic button.so I stood there for about 5-7 minutes maybe 10 At the very most ,my motherly intuition told me the baby probably woke up and it's been more then 5 minutes so I stepped back out ,this time I was just going to grab my daughter and bring her in since Lowes obviously was having issues getting my parents pressure washer.as I'm walking out a lowes employee is looking in my can ,I stopped him and said I was right there watching and that I'm coming out to get her because it's taking too long in there,next thing I know some nosey lady who didn't even see me watching my van tells me she's calling the cops because I left my Infant alone with an animal in the van ,.see she didn't have the facts not did she know what was really going on,she lied to the police.My daughter is a toddler ,she was sleeping ,I had been checking on her,the van was parked up front ,I could see my vehicle clear as day and wasn't far from it if something were to happen I could have easily locked it with a push of a button on my clicker .The dummy just assumed I left my baby in the van probably didn't even check to see if it was on and check to see if the AC is on ,obviously my DOg did her Job and kept the nosey bi$&@ away from my property and daughter ,I wish that dumb lady would have opened the door ,for being nosey she would have gotten bit ,and I would have seen it all happen because I was responsible and had my eyes on my van the whole time .So before you call the cops,make sure mom isn't right there and make sure the kid isn't safe ,because a child that is safe and happy is not typically being abused ,look up child abuse,it's more abusive to wake a sleeping child then it is to leave the child with in feet away in an Air conditioned vehicle vigilantly waiting .Check the facts first because of the lies that lady told ,I could have been arrested in front my 4 year old son and daughter and the dogs probably would have been put in the pound all because of a nosey bitch who didn't want to walk her lazy ass into the store and find out more about the situation ,that the mother was just feet away and just waiting for the cashier to hand over the item.so I could sign off,thank his for cameras at Loews ,the cop saw that I was indeed standing vigilant and that it wasn't that long and he also probably saw that the dumb lady was just making assumptions after 2 minutes of being in the parking lot.

Ashley - posted on 07/12/2016

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That's why if your able to bring the clicker and la e the keys to keep car cool

Ashley - posted on 07/12/2016

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Well if the AC was on he should have been fine,what could happen?A meteor could hit the car I guess but what's the dofference between an adult in the car in the AC and if the adult stepped out ,with a sleeping child that can't get out and put the car in gear or hurt themselves ,and if the mom can see the vehicle from the inside ?whats the difference?if someone approached the car ,mom would see and run out or a good idea is taking the key clicker but leaving the keys so you can lick the doors with car running.How is that not safe?what difference does it make?

Ashley - posted on 07/12/2016

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I parked my vehicle in the front parking spot,literally 10 ft from the door where I was standing on the inside looking out the window at my van ,I had to pick a pressure washer up at Lowes for my parents as they went out of town .My 1 yr old was sleeping so I left the AC on took my clicker to lock doors if need be or unlock as I also left my dog to guard the van if someone was to come near .As I'm waiting I tell the cashier I will be checking on my van,I walk out to ensure everything is good and baby is ok ,still peacefully asleep ,I have my 4 year old with me because he could potentially put the vehicle in drive and well he was awake so I'm not going to make him sit in the van.I walk back in ask the lady how it was going and waited about 5-10 min at the most while staring out the window the whole time ,and I realize it's been about 5 minutes or maybe a little more and Adelina has probably awoken ,I start walking out the door after I had turned to tell the cashier is be back ,as I see someone stop and then her get an employee who walks up to my van I then walk out as I figure the baby woke up and Now crying .i say it's fine I've been watching the whole time not to mention physically walking out to look at her ,she yelled at me and then called the cops saying " you left your infant with an animal alone ,in a vehicle"My dog is the sweetest and would have harmed that nosey woman over the baby ,she's extremely protective of all my kids but esspcially Adelina because she was there through out my pregnancy and infancy .People say well the dog could always bite....No ,the baby has pulled her tail (I don't let her ,she just does it sometimes ) and Eviee my dog would just get up and lick her face ,never ever hurt a child .but she does growl at anyone who dares touch or go near my kids ,she think they are hers too.
Anyways ,the lady failed to realize that I was coming outside to get the baby ,she also failed to notice the van was on and AC blasting ,she called the cops,instead she could have stopped and asked me where I was and I would have told her I had checked on the baby and was staring at the van the whole time .and if I saw someone step bear it I was ready to press panic button on the clicker and I was also going to obviously stop them as I did with the employee.but no she got on her phone after I was at my van and called the cops.Whay did that solve?I could have been arrested in front my boy the dogs word have been taken and my baby who was just fine could have ended up in foster care and have DCF involved for child neglect .Instead she could have waited to see if I was coming out in a minute which I was or had come in and asked for the mother to come to the front which she wouldn't have to look far because I was right there,I the window.She could have asked if I was watching my child ,she could have asked if I was going to be there for very long ,or she could have at least said I was going to call the cops but I see you are doing the right thing and not leaving your vehicle unattended .or just asked the employee if the mother was watching her van and walking back to her van to check on the toddler and dog .but nooooooo she had to give a good mother a panic attack ,I have serious anxiety,I could t even talk to to the cop because I started hyperventilating ,way to go nosey ass bitch !!!!!👌
I don't see a problem with a mother or father who is watching their vehicle ,with the AC or heat on depending on weather; from the store front window NOT SHOPPING ,who can see the vehicle and has checked on the sleeping baby ,parents know that you never wake a sleeping baby if you are able to prevent it...toddler not baby ,,if it had been an infant I would have brought her in as infants can spit up and choke.or just stop breathing ,but my toddler was just fine.happy as can be .comfotable in the AC and protected by Eviee. Point is people need to get the facts straight before calling the cops and causing a child a burden,could prevent mom from a job with a record and hen DCF can cause more problems then they do help sometimes .Call the cops if you know the mom or dad left the child in s hot car and you know the parent was shopping around for a long time but not on a parent who was watching their child from the store front window waiting for associates to bring a pressure washer to the front. Maybe instead ask for the facts first ,find out if the child is safe,if the child is safe ,leave it alone .Also I'm a mother who stays home with her kids while running my own business ,hard working loving mom who teaches Nd does art projects with her kids.Im not some neglectful pos. so don't judge someone based on what you initially see,maybe don't be lazy,maybe dig deeper ,find out the actual situation .Instead of ruining someone's life .This all happened to me yesterday .cop saw video ,saw I was telling the truth and infant watching ,but said i could have been charged with child neglect probably if he wasn't able to see the video ,she had just pulled up and didn't even bother to go inside first to see if I was right there.So maybe in the future people who love to call the cops,don't before you gather all the info,and don't judge with out all the facts and talk to the mom first .if you see her shopping or can't find her then you can get on to your cell take pictures as this woman so kindly did and call cops ,but if the mother has been watching her vehicle and checking in on her baby and is simply waiting at the window ,maybe simply walk away and tell her you were just concerned but you see that the baby has a good mom that doesn't wake her baby up but keeps an eye on her👌😉🍼😌

Serene - posted on 04/07/2010

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I do if I am running into the store to pay for gas if the pump credit card machine does not work. I'll lock the doors, crack the window and take my keys with me. I'll run in and run out with my eyes glued to my car. My son hardly ever notice that i am gone. I've ran into my house for something and left him in the car but, never over 3 mins.

But, when he was under18 months old i would take him in to the store with me even if i was in there for a minute. Other then that he goes into th stoer with me all of the time.

Terri - posted on 04/07/2010

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I would never ever leave a child alone in the car, not even for a minute! My eldest is 8 years old and I wouldnt leave him alone in the car let alone my baby!

We recently had an incident in australia where a mum left her 2 year old in the car to go shopping. It was a hot day and the poor boy was sweltering in there. Nobody knew where the mum was so a passerby just smashed the car window and pulled him out.

If he had been in there another 5 minutes it might not of ended happily. Luckily he was ok. But I would rather sacrifice a little extra time for the safety of my children and put up with the inconvenience of having to take them with me knowing they are safe.

Emma - posted on 04/07/2010

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Just to add, if i see small kids alone in a car i will often wait in mine and make sure they are ok, if the parents come back within five mins i will just go my own way, but i have told someone off before for doing this i sat waiting in my car for like 35 mins and finally the parents showed up i gave them an ear full as the kid could of only been 2 or 3 years old and we live in a city in SA and it was summer v hot they had left the windows open but that is good and bad. thing considering where we live. I was just getting ready to go into the shop's and get them to make a call over the PA with there car Reg asking them to come to the desk as i really needed to go.

Emma - posted on 04/07/2010

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Well i would never leave my kid's in the Car hear in SA , but that's hear if i still lived in the UK yes i would to pay for petrol.
I think it depends on where you live, can you still see your kids, is it just an in and out.

Alandria - posted on 03/31/2010

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I think a one year old, by themself is a terrible idea! We can always believe that something is only going to take a few minutes, but then the person infront of you takes a little longer...you forget that there was something else you needed to pick up. Then your 1 year old reaches over and locks the doors. Now you really have a problem....I say, take the extra min. to unstrap them, take them in and have enjoy a little peace of mind.

Tina - posted on 03/31/2010

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NO NOT OK! I LIVE IN A SMALL TOWN OF LIKE 100 PEOPLE AND I DONT EVEN LEAVE HER IN THE CAR AT HOME!

Becky - posted on 03/31/2010

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I do it if I'm just walking in to pay for gas. But I also open the window a smidge and lock the door so no one's getting in or out.

Jane - posted on 03/31/2010

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Just heard a news story this morning on CNN about a car that was stolen when the parents ran into the convenience store "just for a second" and the car was stolen with the kids in it. Thankfully, 1/2 an hour later, the car and children were found...children unharmed.

Karen - posted on 03/30/2010

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I don't ever leave my kids in the car while I go into a store. Babies get snatched up so fast, I don't want mine to be one of them.
However I do leave them in the car for a second while I run in the house but that's only because I am the last house on a wooded dead end. I run in the bags, then grab the kids if they are sleeping. Or run in to grab something I forgot. This would not happen if I lived elsewhere though.
If I had an older child like maybe 12 or older and young ones, I think it would be different.

Lyndsay - posted on 03/26/2010

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My son is 2 and if I'm going to run in to pay for gas I will leave him in the car. I lock the door and keep my eye glued to the car the entire time. That is the only time. If I'm going into the store to buy something, I know that I have a wandering eye and I could be there all day, so I always bring him with me.

Kaylyn - posted on 03/25/2010

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I don't think its right in any situation and no matter if ur from a small town or not..anything can happen in the blink of an eye and im not willing to take the chance with my child.

Jessica - posted on 03/24/2010

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I could never do this. My son is four and he goes everywhere with me. If I run into the gas station for something, he goes.

I once seen a mother at Sheetz, run into the store, leaving her car running with a toddler in the backseat. She didn't go in and grab something really quick, she took her time deciding what she wanted, then got a soda, snack and a pack of smokes. I was so suprised. What was even more suprising was she was very pregnant! I couldn't believe she'd leave her car running with a toddler in the back seat and then take her time getting what she wanted!

Marcia - posted on 03/23/2010

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I'm a mom of three and in some circumstances, I will leave them in the vehicle for a few minutes. However, I don't have real small children. My oldest is going to be 12, my middle is 10 and my youngest is 7. If the weather is very cold or very hot, I don't think twice to have them go in with me. No matter how long I'll be in there. It helps that my kids are old enough to walk everywhere too without getting tired quickly. ie) 1yr olds to 3yr olds.

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I never used to leave my kids in the car. Now I do to grab milk, for example, and only if it is a temperature that I don't need either heat or air conditioning, and also if my dog is with them (black lab). Also my kids are almost 7 and 9. When they were younger, they wouldn't have wanted to be left alone. If they fell asleep and woke up not knowing where I was, my youngest would have been terrified, though my oldest probably would have taken it in stride.

Jackie - posted on 03/22/2010

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THat's exactly whats happening to me. Glad its not just me at least. I've started copying all my posts in case they get lost since I never remember exactly what I wrote the first time (hence the two different, but similar posts above, lol)

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Yeah, Jackie. Everytime I post the page turns blank. I have to hit the back button on my browser in order to get back to see the page. Annoying!

Jackie - posted on 03/22/2010

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Sorry about the duplicate post...the first time I wrote it there was nothing showing up! My site is acting up right now...oops =)

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Well, I did state that I leave my one year old in the car alone for a minute... not for the store, but to pay for gas or get the mail or unload my groceries in my apartment. I just don't leave him longer than that unless his sisters are w/ him.



I don't know statistics and I don't know how to Google it, but car thefts are extremely rare here and almost all of them are teenagers out for a joy ride since stealing a car is extremely stupid when you have no where to take it. Kidnappings are also extremely rare and almost all of those are domestic. Not making excuses. If you don't agree w/ me, you don't agree w/ me and that's fine, but I do know where I live and it doesn't compare to most places.



And it isn't illegal HERE to leave a one year old in a vehicle for a minute. It's illegal to leave them for more than five minutes w/out someone older than 8... and that doesn't happen cuz my girls ARE 8. :)



And just to clarify. If I use caps I'm not yelling. It's just how I place emphasis on certain words. ;)

Jackie - posted on 03/22/2010

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Alot of your posts are not referring to the original question of leaving a 1 year old in the car, ALONE. Sorry, but I have to agree with Amanda, never a good idea. And where it is a law that a child cannot be left alone, no I don't think its ridiculous for the police to arrest a woman just b/c she was "only gone for a minute". She broke the law - end of story.

And "seeing" your car isn't good enough....if you can't be right next to your car, there is ntohign to stop something from happening. And I don't personally think leaving your "older" kids to watch the baby is ok either...see above comment. I still won't even leave my daughter in the car with her 14 y/o step brother...I promise you that if some crazy guy gets in the car and tries to take off....theres not a damn thing he will be able to do to protect my daughter. Does he stay in the car himself, yes, and I stayed in the car myself at that age (and younger). And I am sure my daughter will be in the car alone by that age (though I feel like the law is 10 or 12 anyways)...but I won't do it until its legal.

Yes the chances of something ACTUALLY happening are almost nonexistent, but I am not about to bear that risk - however small it may be - just for my convenience. Just think how you would feel "if" that something actually happened b/c you were "only gone for a second", or "could still see the car".

Jackie - posted on 03/22/2010

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I see lots of posts of people talking about older kids etc....this debate started wtih the question of leaving a 1 year old, in the car....alone. I have to agree with Amanda and the others...there is NOTHING safe about that. The chances that something ridiculous will happen are almost nonexistent sure...but are you really willing to submit your 1 y/o to that risk at all just for your convenience??? I just look at it as how would I feel IF that ridiculous scenario played out....just b/c its a small town doesn't mean some crazy person isn't passing through. Just being able to "see" the car isn't good enough, if you can't be literally right at your door...you can't do any good if something starts to happen. If you need to go beyond that the kids should go with you.

And I personally won't leave my daughter in the car with her older step sibling either...sorry, but some little 14 y/o boy isn't going to do jack s&*t against some crazy guy trying to steal my car. I just don't see that as being any safer.

Amanda - posted on 03/20/2010

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Paying for gas may only take a minute, but stealing your car also only takes a minute. You hear on the news all the time about young children and babies taken while a car was being stolen because a parent left the car running. Hyperthermia death is not a fate you want for your child, because your 1 minute trip into the bank has now become 20 minutes because the person ahead of you inline has 20 transactions to do. Cars are like ovens, and will cook your child fast. That is why in many states, and provances there are laws that state children under the age of 10-9 can not be left alone in a car no matter the amount of time. Leaving a 1 year old in a car is irresponsible no matter what the population of your city/town is, and if I saw any young child left in a car in my area I would call 911 instantly, and wait for the police to show up.

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I don't think leaving a child unattended in a car can be compared to driving.
Plus, we NEED drive our kids around, we don't really have much choice, but we don't NEED leave them in the car while we run in the store. There are lots of reasons we might WANT to leave them in the car, but ultimately, there is no reason we NEED to.
It's really a matter of convenience. (those caps are not meant to be yelling, I just don't know how to make italics for emphasis on here :))
Besides that, Statistically, if the car seat is installed properly and being used, the likely hood of the child being killed in a fatal crash is not much less than the car being stolen at a gas station. Did you know that more than 50% of stolen cars are stolen at Gas Stations & ATMs! I find that amazing--If your car is going to get stolen, it would probably be stolen at a gas station or atm, and that is where most people leave their little ones in the car!

Nikki - posted on 03/20/2010

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I would never do it, you cant trust anyone, and it only takes a second for something to go wrong, I don't feel that it is worth the risk.

Rosie - posted on 03/20/2010

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i have no problem leaving my kids in the car if i'm at a place where i am able to see the car and it is very closeby-like a gas station. i lock the car, and walk in the 2 minutes it takes to get my pop then go back. i agree with krista that the chances of something happening to them is so minute, and the chance that something will happen to them while driving them around is greater. obviously i know that it can always happen, but i always know that i can get into an accident to, and that doesn't prevent me from putting them in the car in the first place. i weigh my decisions and leaving them for the 2 min. is a much better option for me.

Cindy - posted on 03/20/2010

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I don't drive so I find people's responses to this question very interesting. However I do take a bus that takes us to our destination and I have to say i'm uncomfortable leaving my girls strapped in the bus for even a min even though I know all the drivers and know they'd only want what was best for my kids. However my family lives in a very small town and I know both my sister did leave their kids in the car when they would do different things and although that choice is not an option I personaly would do, I don't falt anyone for doing it. I have twins so I know what a hastel it can be to take them both in and out of the car for only a min.

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Teresa I'd also like to say that I was commenting in the case of leaving a 1 year old by themselves in a car. Your cirumstances are totally different - leaving a child this age with older children is fine.

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I'll leave my daughter in the car for three reasons:
1. Dropping or picking something up from a friend's house and the car is parked in her driveway
2. Getting a movie out the Red Box (outside Red Box at a gas station, I can pull right up to it) j
3. Church parking lot for a minute or two

Otherwise, it's really not that much trouble to get her out of the car.

I saw a Dr. Phil episode where a mom was actually arrested and booked for leaving her child in the car. The situation: Her two older children saved their spare change and wanted to bring it to the Salvation Army can at Wal-Mart. It was sleeting and her two year old was asleep in her carseat. She pulled to the curb and left the younger child in the car 30 feet away for less than a minute so she could help her two older children make the donation. They arrested this woman in front of her children. THAT is way too extreme IMO. Where was the common sense of the officer? Obviously he didn't have children or he wouldn't have made this bad judgment of the mother.

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ive done it once but i live on a military base and it was to check the mail at the end of the street and to drop off library books in the open return outside.. other than that if hes asleep and he has a graco my ride 65 i take the whole damn thing out and bring it inside lol no need to wake him.. or i sit in the care with him and wait... id hate that my laziness or need to rush to complete an errand would and could leave me without a child....

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I remember saying that I would never do it before I had my son. This winter however I did it on a few occasions. My husband is deployed and there were a few mornings in the winter that I ran into the gas station around the corner to get milk for his sippie cup at day care. It was freezing and he was asleep. I can see the car the entire time and there is no one else out at that time but other soldiers going to PT.

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I leave my kids in the car when I run into the post office to check the mail. It literally takes me 40 seconds. I would never leave my child in a car alone for more than 2 minutes. We live in a very small MT town & I'm really not worried too much, but I still wouldn't leave them for long.
I think if a mother did leave their children for more than a few minutes, then yes, that is a bad judgment call.

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For me, it would depending on where I was and what I needed to do. I would leave my kids in the car while I paid for gas, in our small town where we know everyone, but if we went to the city, hell no I wouldn't leave them!

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I guess I am a little paranoid, but I couldn't ever leave my baby in the car by himself...luckily our gas pumps take debit, but I just don't trust anyone anymore.
My mom and I tried to call the cops on someone who left their little baby in a van with the windows rolled up at Walgreens. It was probably 80 degrees out and there was no shade. We didn't have a cell so my mom ran into the store to tell the manager to call the police while I stayed to watch the baby. The scum of a dad ran out (having heard my mom) and raced that van out of there. Grrrrr...wish we would have had his license plate.
The town I live in is small, but there are a lot of meth addicts around...and troublemakers (I sound so old) who don't mind rummaging through vehicles.
So no thanks, I'll spend the extra minute getting my son out of his seat. :)

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ok, ok...for those of you who feel I was rude in saying you (in general) were an idiot, I apologize that you took it personally. I do see a pattern here though that those of you from smaller twns dont see it as that big of an issue. I happen to live in the 4th largest city i the United States, capital of kidnapping and within a short trip to the Mexico boarder. Common sense HAS to be yur friend here.....so with that being said....you may feel safe in your town and by all means I hope you are...but the illusion that bad things dont happen there is a sure way to get caught slippin and put your kids at risk. As parents we have a responsibility to protectour kids 24/7 and not when we "just need to run in for a minute"...thats the thought process that may ruin your whole life. As this forum is about peoples opinions, I think to judge what I say as mine as mean or un called for is not excepting the fact that some people dont feel the same as you.

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I come from a town of 500 that i have grown up in and am either related or know everyone and although i havent done it myself i know people that do and i dont think of it as abuse in that situation.
One day on a 35 degree Australia summer day my mum and i were in town and walked past a car that had a child in it all alone, we looked for the parents tried to get the kid who was 2 out but we couldnt so we called the cops and they got him out and ambos took him away. We waited for the parents who turned up over an hour later! They of cause were charged and lost right to their child. Its disgusting :(
Oh and just to add, here it illegal to leave your car running while it is untended to, my partner was fined for running into the shops to pick up our hot chips while i was in the passenger seat!

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And let me state for the record.....I did not read ANYTHING prior to posting my above comment. It was answered based on the original post question and not to anyone that has responded to this.

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I'm not even going to read what others say prior to my comment. Leaving a 1 year old in the car is child abuse, plain and simple. If I were to see it, I would call the police. There is no excuse to be lazy and not take your child out of the car seat and bring the child in with you when you have to go into a store...even if it's just for a moment.

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And that is totally fine Jennifer. I fully respect your opinion that it is wrong. I just didn't take to kindly to being referred to as an idiot when no one here knows me, my kids, my home, or my life other than what little information I share. If I didn't live where I do I wouldn't do a lot of the things that I do, but here... a lot of things are safe that potentially wouldn't be in other places. Like Krista said, we are in a lot more potential danger just driving on the road than my son will ever be in by me leaving him 'unattended' for a minute or so.

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Kim, that was a little uncalled-for. If you don't ever leave your kid in the car, and think it's a bad idea, that's one thing. But saying that those who do are "unfit idiots"? That's just rude.



I have occasionally left my son in the car if I have to drop a letter in the mailbox or if I have to pay for gas. I live in a very tiny village, and we don't have pay-at-the-pump. I'm never more than 20 feet from the car, which is off and locked, and I can see the car the entire time.



Yes, someone could rob our tiny, rural convenience store and steal my keys, my car and my kid. But you know what? The odds of that are so infinitesimal that it's silly to even worry about it. I'm in more danger just DRIVING down the road with my child in the car. I'm in more danger of being hit by a car when I take my kid for a walk in the stroller. But I don't see anybody here saying, "Oh, I think you're an unfit parent if you drive anywhere with your child," even though statistically, you ARE putting them in greater danger by doing that, than you are by leaving them alone in the car for the 30 seconds it takes you to fling a couple of twenties onto the counter at the gas station.

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Sorry Teresa...it wasn't meant to be directed at anyone in particular I just don't think it's right or safe to leave a child in a car unattended.

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I am not a complete unfit idiot even though I've got 2 women calling me one. You can think it is wrong, that is fine, but the idiot blank statement is a little harsh. September gave her opinion w/out resorting to name calling.

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I would personally never leave my child unattended in a vehicle for any reason.

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I have to add that I don't leave my baby in the car alone. I leave my 11 year old in the car alone sometimes with her sisters. She's gone through the training on what to do if someone tries to steal the car. Her dad has taught her a lot of self defense stuff since he thinks its better to learn young and know what to do in certain situations.

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I would NEVER EVER do it, but then, I'm scarred for life:
When I was a kid, I grew up in a very small, safe little town. My friends's mom stopped for gas after she picked him up from school one day then went inside to pay. The man who came in behind her robbed the store and demanded her keys. She wouldn't give them to him b/c her son was in the car (he was 4 yrs old). He shot her and took them, got in the car and drove off. She died. The boy was found in a corn field a few days later. He was alive when the guy dumped him out of the car, but he freaked out and ran into the corn field where he got lost and couldn't get out. I don't remember whether they said he got too cold, or just starved to death, I can't remember how long it took them to find him, it was a few days though.
If she had just taken him in with her she could have given up her keys and they both would have lived. To this day every time I go in a gas station all I can think about is my little boy being that scared and alone and dieing that way. Fear, worry and dread being his last thoughts and emotions. Freaks me out, I don't go in them often now that they have self pay stations--best invention EVER!!!

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