Sally - posted on 04/02/2012 ( 31 moms have responded )
Ok, this is a rant. A tirade. A huge pet peeve. I detest when I am out at a park, playground, anywhere there are children, over hearing the constant stream of "be carefuls" from parents. Why don't people let kids be kids? Why is everything so cautious? I watch parents hovering over kids on slides, monkey bars, low curbs. "oh Susie, you are to high up" Oh Johnie, don't swing so high" "oh you are too little for that." Stay away from the mud, be careful running. I want to scream at these people. SHUT UP. How can a kid learn to do anything, if you are constantly telling them to be careful? And what exactly are you telling them with "be careful"? Does it give them any information? Does it help them figure out how to do something? All it does is impart fear & apprehension.. Seriously, I don't get it. Instead of these constant chatterings of be careful why not give useful information, if you have to say something.. How about, "the grass is slippery from yesterdays rain." Or "There is a sharp rock next to you on that curb" or "this slide is taller than the one at home." You get my point, info rather than nonsense words that have no value. Being told to "be careful" tells the child not to trust their own instincts. It sends the message that the parent has no faith in the childs abilities. Have some faith, let them be kids. The brain cannot learn what it never has a chance to try.