Jamie - posted on 01/05/2011 ( 2 moms have responded )
My husband had a vasectomy after our youngest was born July of 2007. We both agreed we didn't want to try again, because he didn't want any more kids, and neither did I because I was a middle child and hated it... plus I have had some health issues following both my pregnancies, nothing severe, just enough to make me worry that I couldn't handle another one! Before my last I also miscarried, so that was another concern, could I go through that again? So we did it, and I've been fine with it for a while, but for the last year, with my family and friends having more babies, I'm wondering if we should've waited! I love my girls very much, but I've always wanted a boy! Now my brother and his wife have twin boys, first twins in our family, and first boys, and I can't help but wonder if my next one would've been a boy???? I can't help this feeling that I still want my boy, and now I can't have it... we both agreed that if we still wanted a boy, we would adopt later, but with the economy the way it is, and our finances, it seems absolutely impossible to even dream about it, let alone actually consider it! We can't afford it, and by the time we could, am I even going to want more kids? I can't stop these thoughts and feelings, and when I try to talk to my husband he thinks I'm kidding, but I'm not! How do I get over these feelings, or make him understand that I'm serious, so that I have someone to talk to about it?