Tara - posted on 06/11/2012 ( 5 moms have responded )
My son's biological father and I are not together, we haven't been since a few weeks after I found out I was pregnant. I am with someone new now, we live together and he just loves my son. We plan on getting married in a few years and someday he wants to be able to adopt my son. The biological father and I got along while I was pregnant until someone new came in the picture. My ex told me while I was three and a half month pregnant that he didn't have any reason for a job. Which, for an emotional pregnant girl working 40+ hours a week, on her feet, until the day before I had my baby, was very hurtful to hear. He hasn't had a steady job his whole life. He's 20. He would get random jobs, like Pizza Hut, Taco Bell, and Sonic. But he would work for a couple months and then just quit, no notice or anything. He relies on his mother for money and a car. He was in school, but missed a lot of classes. Every doctor appointment my son has had, I have told him about. And given him the option of going. He never has. He always uses the excuse that he has class, which I could understand. I don't feel the need to change when the appointments are since my ex can miss class to play disc golf at the park but not for his son's appointment. He recently quit another job, and I was told by one of our mutual friends he spends all his time playing disc golf and smoking pot. Which I know is true, he smoked while I was pregnant. When I had our son I gave him my ex's last name. Now I really regret it! Since i've been with my new guy, he has helped me stand up for myself and shown me I need to do what is right for my son and myself. I have my son's social security card but haven't ordered his birth certificate yet. My question is weither I can put my last name when I order his birth certificate even though my ex's name is on the social security card? I don't receive any support or anything from my ex, and I don't want to. I grew up and he didn't, I just want to know what I can do? Sorry this was so long, I would appreciate any feedback! Thanks!