Nudity

Mary1959 - posted on 04/21/2011

i think you are doing great job raising them

Krista - posted on 04/04/2010

Your husband needs to get the stick out of his bum. Your child is only 9 months old, he's not going to remember anything about it. And even if he does, like Wanda said, would you rather his first glimpse of a naked woman be some unrealistic, airbrushed image in a Playboy that his friend stole from his dad? It's not like you're sitting there with your legs wide open, airing out your muff in front of him. It's not sexual -- it's just nudity.



Take the kid's cue. When he starts acting more modestly and starts indicating that he doesn't want to see you nude, then you respond accordingly.



Tell your husband that you don't want your son to grow up to have the same warped attitude as him: that the nude body is something prurient and to be hidden away.

Emma - posted on 04/04/2010

My Daughter is 3 and my Son is 2,

When they where small they would come in the bath with me. as they have with my hubby only he would wear a pair of jocks in the bath with them. as he was fearful of being garbed in that area. we don't bath together any more as the bath is getting far to small for 3 lol

My kids wonder in on me when im in the shower at this age and it dose not bother me.

My hubby will turn his back if our daughter comes in when he is showering she is 3, he take our son with to pee as we are trying to teach him how to do it standing up.

Im not sure at what age i would feel its inappropriate for my son to see me in the shower ect im going to play it by ear on that.

As i will with my kids bathing together and sharing a room

Shannon - posted on 03/31/2010

I thinks it's totally fine. When he is 5 or 6 is when it should become inappropriate.

Jane - posted on 03/30/2010

Only in the United States do we think the naked body is dirty...well maybe some fundamentalist countries that's probably the case too but in a civilized country such as the US, why do we think the naked body is bad?

My kids are 20 and 16...girl and boy respectively. I was naked in front of them and honestly, they grew up not thinking one darn thing about it. Their dad, my ex-husband worked for Amtrak so he was gone weeks at a time and when it was time for me to shower for work, if they were up, they took showers with me so I could keep an eye on them instead of leaving them in a playpen or crib. My daughter still walks in on me if I'm in the shower to ask me something. My son? Not anymore because well, he's a teen boy (LOL) but I'm thinking he was still bursting in the bathroom at 12.

I think it's all about what your comfortable with. I don't see nudity as dirty or something to be ashamed of. However, this coutry produces a bunch of shameful people when it comes to the human body!

Brittany - posted on 03/30/2010

my two boys are 2 and 9 months. i am a stay at home mommy...and i would never make it throughout my day if i could not be naked around my kids!!! i still shower on occasion with them. my husband and i sleep nude, and always have. my oldest boy knows that i have boobies...and quite often thinks its funny to put on my bras. lol. he has also taken an interest in the fact that daddys wee wee looks like his...only bigger...and he thinks it is cool. lol. he likes to "help" daddy go pee (he walks in the bathroom and holds onto his leg while he goes) lol. we dont make nudity a big deal in our house, and i will stop being naked in front of my kids when they let me know that it bothers them.

Yolande - posted on 03/30/2010

I have actually heard of very few people who have a problem with this. I also feel that as soon as they are uncomfortable you stop. But they will never leave you alone when u go to the toilet shower get dressed or whatever. My two and a half year old knows the difference between girls and boys - she says daddy/brother has a willy and she/mommy has a koekie. It is sometimes weird when she walks up to a family member and points out that they have one of the abovementioned parts but i just laugh. She knows and will know eventually so whats the problem?

Charlie - posted on 03/29/2010

I shower with my son who is 16 months no worries he also showers with his daddy , no worries i would ask your husband why he is uncomfortable about this .

Erin - posted on 03/29/2010

My husband & I still shower w/our almost 4 yr old. He asks questions or points out my breasts or something, but its nothing I make an issue & therefore neither does he. I pump & he comes in & different points in the process sometimes seeing me attach or remove the pump shields.

Minnie - posted on 03/29/2010

I think your husband needs to grow some big boy pants, lol. As if he alone owns your body, it seems, he thinks! I take daily showers with my nearly four year old and my 18 month old. I clearly remember taking baths with my mother when I was five years old. My 18 month old regularly nurses at my breast -gasp!- at least twice an hour.



Family nudity only becomes an issue when someone makes it that.

Kylie - posted on 03/29/2010

We live in a one bedroom apartment. Its unavoidable. My son sees me naked often. He is eleven months old. The only thing I take exception to is that when I take my top off, he laughs. Hysterically! I couldn't nurse as he was 13 weeks premature and I was ill and on a lot of medication that affected my milk.

I think being nude around each other is fine. I see my baby nude all the time, deal with his nappies etc, why shouldn't he see us naked?

I'm not sure at what age I'll stop being naked in front of him, I am sure there will come a point where privacy and respect come into play, and I am sure I'll know when that time comes.

Mary - posted on 03/29/2010

Ummm, how can get anything done, like showering or changing, if you are never going to be naked around your child? It's how we were made, and nothing to be ashamed of. There is a huge difference between parading around the house vacuuming and answering the door in the buff, and being naked in your own bed upon awakening in the morning.



I realize that all of us have differing comfort levels with nudity, and I'm not slamming your husband, but small children learn about the human body not only from themselves, but from observing their parents. If the two of you are going to continue to sleep in the nude, than he's going to have to get used to your son seeing you (and him) naked. He's only nine months now...but when he's 3, and runs into your room in the middle of the night for whatever reason, or wakes up at 6 am and comes in asking for breakfast, and you're still fast asleep - what then?



My daughter is 16 months old, and while I would classify myself as a fairly modest person, there are moments in the day where, unless I want to remain in my pj's, never shower or pee, she IS going to see me in various states of undress. I work 2 nights a week, so my huband is on his own with her for 2 mornings as well...so, while he wasn't initally thrilled with it, he either performs his am ablutions with her around, or spends the day an unwashed bum. The only time it's been an issue is when he was peeing...she was so used to coming in with me, that when she burst in on him, and he was standing to pee, she shouted "Daddy - NO!", and slammed the lid shut on him mid stream! (I guess we have closed that lid on her so many times to prevent her from playing in the toilet, and he was peeing "wrong", so she shut in on him, lol!).

Amy - posted on 03/29/2010

I'd have asked him why and really gone into it since I don't think it's a big deal, I'd want to know my hubby's reasoning behind it. Maybe his reasons are different or something that could change my mind. Or maybe if he explained it, I'd be better able to reassure him it's not an issue.

I nurse. Of course my son knows I have boobs! :) Nature gave me boobs to feed them - and since i live at home -costs nothing. I had to shower with my daughter all the time until she was about 2 because daddy worked LATE and she needed to bathe before bed. We had fun, she never asked questions and it wasn't a big deal. Obviously like i said, my son nurses. He'll be a year old next week.I'm nude around him a lot. My husband used to shower with my daughter until she was about 2 just because HE started to worry that one day she'd notice. Now, my daughter is a very curious toddler, but i guess she just didn't care about that stuff. Even now at a bit over 3, she watched me change her little brother. She doesn't even ask what that "thing" is like i expected her to. I just showered with her about a week ago. Will probably stop this summer though. After a year of nursing, she just realized that I have boobs. Although she thinks the only reason girls have boobs is to feed babies. "I don't have a baby, so i don't got no boobies". cracks me up. I don't know if htere is an "appropriate" age. I think when either party starts to feel uncomfy or child asks too many questions, it's time to stop. But I don't think my husband could tell me not to because I feel I still need to nurse to slowly wean for the next couple months. It'd be hell on my body to just stop because HE was uncomfy, or jealous that another male was by me boobs.

I remember my mom running around naked all the time growing up. we were all girls. no biggie. dad's at work. we all pretty much went naked from bathroom to bedroom to get dressed. it's just a body. We both sleep in the nude still. My husband just keeps boxers on the nightstand in case he has to get out of bed to get her or she comes in at morning time or something. I still don't cover up because son isn't old enough - and he sees my boobs all the time anyway. I just have a robe to keep warm for the trips to baby's crib at nite when i have to put him back to bed.

Susanne - posted on 03/29/2010

My sons are 11, 9 and 3 and ive never covered up in front of them. If im in the bath and they come in im not going to shout at them to get out. I tend not to walk round the house naked a lot but if im changing i dont close the door and if they want to talk to me they still come in sometimes. Mind i have to say my two oldest do tell me off if i walk into their room when their changing lol. I also breastfed my three year old as a baby in front of them. I dont think the human body is something to be ashamed of and if my kids didnt like it they'd tell me.

Lady - posted on 03/29/2010

I think it is fine being nude around children until the age of about 5-7 for the opposite sex and no limit on the same sex as long as the child is comfortable. I think when they get to that age then they are old enough to start learning things like resect for peoples privacy and knocking before going into someones room. If my son walked in on me changing around those ages I wouldn't scream or shout at him I would just gently remind him I was getting changed and he should knock. Any younger than 5 and they have no concept of nudity and privacy, they run about naked with no embarresment at all so have no problem with anybody elses nudity either.

Rosie - posted on 03/28/2010

i have no issues with being naked around my kids until they get to an age when they start thinking it's weird. it's different for each kid so far. my ten year old i stopped changing around i think when he was 7-8, but my 5 year old i've stopped recently with him as he started feeling weird (i could just tell). i have an almost 3 year old and have no problem with him seeing me naked. at 9 months there's no way your kid is sitting there thinking man, she's got some knockers on her. alot of kids are still breastfeeding at that time. this once again comes down to another discussion on here about how men feel weird around their kids.

Wanda - posted on 03/28/2010

My 2 yr has seen both his dad and I in the nude. I don't think it's a big deal. We're not running around the house starkers or anything like that but we rarely shut the bathroom door and my son will come running into the bathroom while we're showering.

I'd rather my little guy learn now what a real person looks like than grow up thinking those airbrushed, photoshopped media images are the norm.

We'll probably continue this way until he (son) becomes uncomfortable with it.

Keisha - posted on 03/28/2010

I had felt comfortable up to this point showing and/or dressing in front of my daughter because she didnt seem to notice the difference but now she seems to stare at me more intently and it kind of makes me uncomfortable so I try to be more private.

Sunny - posted on 03/28/2010

I shower with my about to be 3 year old son and so does my partner. I dont see a problem with it. He knows all the body parts, he thinks its quite funny that mummy has big boobies lol. If everyone is comfortable than i dont see why there would be an issue. Plus trying to avoid being naked in front of a 9 month old seems like a lot of hassle.

April - posted on 03/28/2010

i shower (nude) with my 15 month old...he isn't interested in nakedness. he loves the water and pays attention to that!

Carolee - posted on 03/28/2010

I shower (nude) with my 2 1/2 year old. He knows what "boobies" are and that only mommy has them. He has not asked about other "bodily features", but I have no problem telling him what they are (on both him and me). I personally don't want my kids to ever think that I'm ashamed of my own body in any way. I don't walk around naked, but I do sleep in the nude and I also change my clothes in front of my son when needed. My husband does the same thing. Plus, I have not been able to go to the bathroom by myself in about 2 years! At first, he would just crawl to the door and cry until I let him in, but now he just opens the door and walks in.

Rose - posted on 03/28/2010

I think a good age is when your child starts getting curious being boy vs girl. For same sex i think they should learn about what is going to happen and seeing it helps them to understand. With my son i will probably stop when he starts getting curious which could be at any age. I have a three year old very curious nephew and if he see you naked he will just sit there and stair with a grin on his face.

SarahJane - posted on 03/28/2010

I shower with my 8 month old... I don't see a problem. There are some people who are nudist.. we are not but I don't think I will start "hiding" from my son until he is around 4 or five.

Teresa - posted on 03/28/2010

I shower w/ my 2 year old son almost every day, so.... nudity is not a big deal in our house. The girls (8) occasionally want a little privacy while they shower, but walk around the house completely naked after. My ex quit showering w/ the girls when they were about 2 because they got a little too curious for his comfort. He wasn't intentionally naked around them, but we also never locked (or even rarely ever shut) the bathroom door.



I don't know if/when I will start 'hiding' around my son yet.....

LaCi - posted on 03/28/2010

It doesn't bother me. I'm not going to make my son leave the room when I change clothes, he's about to be two. Our shower has glass walls and I'll take a shower when he's playing in the bathtub. I really just don't think it matters. But I don't see anything wrong with nudity in general.

Sarah - posted on 03/28/2010

Lots of kids are breastfed until they reach an age of memory retention, not to mention having their younger brothers and sisters nursed in front of them.

Lots of families are naturists/nudists and never wear clothes.

My husband and I sleep nude or in our underwear most of the time, and half of the time one or both of the kids are in bed with us. They are 4 and almost 2. They do not think it's weird or gross or awkward or bad because we have not taught them to feel ashamed or embarrassed about their bodies.

We don't hang around all day wearing nothing but it's not uncommon for our 4 y/o to wear nothing but her underwear all day long at home or for our 20 month old to wear little more than a diaper and a t-shirt.

More than anything, I think it's just about attitude. I don't think naked, natural bodies are gross or anything to be ashamed of. I also do not have immediate sexual feelings if I see my husband or children naked. But yanno, perverts come in all manner of dress. Pedophiles or sexual deviants wear all sorts of clothes from jeans to suits to priest's frocks.

Jenny - posted on 03/28/2010

My kids are 7 and 2 and we do not hide nudity in natural circumstances but we don't hang out watching movies in the buff either. I will shower with my kids, walk to the bathroom, change etc. with no problems. What's the big deal, it's just a human body? I think being overly sensitive about nudity could have bad consequences for body image down the line.