Other people's sick kids

Lady - posted on 02/15/2010 ( 13 moms have responded )

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I look after 2 other children a couple of times a week as well as my own 4. One of them goes to nursery with my 4 year old and they are great friends also it's a good way for me to make a little money. Last week their mum phoned me in the morning to say the older boy had cough and she didn't want him going to school with it so could I have them all day. My children had coughs too so I thought this would be fine. However the next day my 11month old started throwing up and having terrible nappies. The only people he'd had contact with were the family and these other two children. Then two days later my 4 year old started with the same simptoms. It's rather obvious that it wasn't a cough the child has but rather a sickness bug he has now past on.
My 11 month old has been quite ill as has my 4 year old my husband and now my 9 year old - I'm very cross that she lied to me about the illness because she knew if she told me the truth there's no way I would have put my family at risk. But obviously to her going to work was more important than the health of my children.
I don't know what to do - should I confront her - tell her I won't look after her kids any more - or just forget it as kids do pick up bugs anyway?
What would you do in this situation? The extra money does come in handy each week.

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Sara - posted on 02/15/2010

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I think you need to make it clear that it is unacceptable to have a child that sick come to your home. I think you can do it without being accusatory about it. Mention the illnesses your children have had and ask her if her son had those same symptoms. If she denies it, you can just say that you don't mind watching her child, but in the future if he ever has an illness like that you cannot watch him. I think when you watch other people's kids in your home you have to walk a fine line between being more assertive and still maintaining a good relationship with the parents.

Lady - posted on 04/10/2010

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I'm hoping the next two will be at least at school age before they get chicken pox - it's so much worse when they're in nappies because there just no way of avoiding the rubbing against the spots. I know a lot of people feel the same way to just get them out the way but before my son got pnuemonia I never even realised it was a complication - or if it was it would only be for children who were at risk because of other illnesses, I never would have expected my son to have got it - he is the strongest out of the whole family - he hardly ever gets ill or if he does it'd for like a day then he's better. It was a bit of a shock. Thankfully he's 11 now and never had anything else as bad and is still really healthy!

Heather - posted on 02/16/2010

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Yes, kids will get sick, but I wouldnt want to expose them to colds/flu if at all possible. My mom ran a daycare from her home, and she had a rule that if a child had a flu (stomach or respiratory) They could not come to daycare for 5 days from the time the symptoms started. No daycare if the child had a fever or signs of infection...they could come back after seeing a Dr. and they had to have a note. The same went for anything communicable such as chicken pox or impetigo etc...you have the right to refuse to care for them if they are going to get your family sick...if it happens again, I would call her as soon as you realize that the children are sicker than she made you believe, I would tell her she has to pick them up and take them home or to a Dr.

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Kids pick stuff up everywhere so you cant be certain it came from that child. I can understand how cross you are though i have family who think nothing of bringing their children over even though their little one was vomiting the day before etc. She even brought her oldest child over with head lice i was fuming!

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I keep another child as well and I refuse to keep her if she or my daughter are sick. Its not worth putting the other child at risk. The parents have to take a day off, but so what? They would have to do that if they had their child in daycare. It's never been a problem with the family.

I would tell her that you can't keep her children if they show any signs of sickness. If she doesn't like that then she can find a daycare. If you need the money, I'm sure there are other families that would love for you to watch their children. Personally, I get calls from families that heard through the grapevine that I keep kids about once every 2 months. And that is with no advertising!

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Emma - posted on 04/10/2010

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No that was not a blast im very sure. Im glad he's ok.
We have always tried to get those ones out the way early as a family as they are much worse to have as an adult
non of my sisters who have done it had any problems but i can understand why you would avoid my suggestion.

Lady - posted on 04/10/2010

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My first son developed pneumonia after getting chicken pox, he was 5 at the time and a very healthy little boy, we deffinatley did not have a blast the 3 days we spent in hospital. Especially as just as we came home his 2 year old sister came down with it. The other two haven't had it yet but we avoid everyone who has it like the plague.

Emma - posted on 04/10/2010

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As a family we very really get ill but my kids have picked up things even when they have not been near other's hubby brings the germs home even though he will not get sick.
It is quite possible this came from another source as unless the boy was throwing up and had the runs when you looked after him you can not be sure of the source.

Ive told all my friends with kids if there kids catch chicken pox or measles ect to bring them to me as i want to get them out the way and if you have a couple of sick kids they play and forget to scratch it works i promise my sister had her 3 and 4 friends kids all with the chicken pox at the same time and all got through it while having a blast.

Lady - posted on 02/17/2010

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Unbelieveably the mother just phoned me to ask if I could have the children tomorrow. While on the phone she started to complain about how her youngest had caught conjuctivitis off a child at nursery and was still suffering but she expected me to still look after her !!! - Unsurprisingly I said no, I'm not really sure she is all there - does she think my children are somehow immune to the diseases from her children?

Lady - posted on 02/15/2010

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Yep think I will deffinatley be more careful in future - when I was a registered child minder I could not take sick children as it voided my insurance. I was trying to do someone a favour and didn't think it would be a problem - just a little cough. But just goes to show that some people value work more than their own or other peoples kids!

Amy - posted on 02/15/2010

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I would take it as a cue, if her kids are not well enough to go to school you shouldn't be watching them. Many day-cares and stuff have policies about sick kids, and the majority of work places allow you to take sick days to watch over your children.

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I agree w/ Sara and Cathy. Plus, even though your baby started w/ the symptoms... it is possible that your older child (or someone else in the family) could have brought it home from school or something.



I hope they're all better soon!!

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Different viruses can affect people in different ways. Personally I find it a little suspicious that she wouldn't send a child to school if it was"just a cough", but you never know. In future just say that your 11 month old seems more sensitive to mild coughs and colds than your others and you want to limit his exposure to other sick kids as much as possible... If it was just a cough then you won't be lying!

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