"Pet" Names any of them bother you to hear?

Jennifer - posted on 07/21/2011 ( 72 moms have responded )

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You know how parents give thier children "pet" names. Some of them are ok, but then there are others that just bug the crap out of me. I feel so bad for the child the biggest one that I hear all the time is "Chunky Monkey" how is that cute or nice? Your telling your child he/she is a fat lest then human animal... Another one is Sisy come on the sister has a name and if the sibling cannot say it that sibling will come up with something that it can say. Like my youngest used to call her big sister Kee kee her name is Cherokee. I hear a lot of parents put thier children down with thier pet names, one actualy called her daughter iggit (slang of ignorant, for those that have never herd it). But its done in love so its ok? And what gives even grandparents the right to say a infant/toddler has thunder thighs? We want our children not to call people mean names but so many of them grow up being called these types of things.

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Mary Renee - posted on 08/09/2011

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This is a cultural thing. In the latin culture, particularly parts of South America, people are given nick names as terms of endearment based on how they look in what apparently YOU would consider "mean." In actuality, it's only mean because you perceive it that way.



For example, when I was an exchange student in Peru, my host sister, who was 14, was often called Panchita by her grandparents and aunts, which meant "belly" The "ita" on the end of it makes in affectionate, basically they are saying she has a little bit of a "belly" and they love her and her belly. In America, a 14 year old would have a fit and go anorexic over this. They also had a two year old grandchild they called "Negrito" meaning, "little blackie" because his skin was darker than the rest of his cousins. Again, it was a term of endearment between family members showing their love, comfort and affection towards each other.



Babies are chubby/chunky/have thunder thighs. It's not a mean thing to say that, unless you are overly sensitive. I love chubby babies. I call my baby chubbers all the time, because she had the cutest chubby cheeks I've ever seen in my life and I love it. She's not going to be chubby her whole life so I might as well enjoy it and love it while I can. I think you're being overly sensitive. Your baby isn't going to be offended by being called thunder thighs unless YOU make a big deal out of it. My husband and I look back at our daughters photos when she was at her height of her baby chubness and talk about how much we miss it now that she's a toddler, thinning out and looking more grown up.



I also call my daughter monkey all the time, because she's a climber, she's been able to climb and swing on playground equipment since she was 8 months old! She also is able to cling on to me with her feet if I try to put her down. Additionally, a lot of the reflexes baby's have (particularly the startle reflex) are left overs of evolution from when we WERE monkeys, and infant monkeys would reach out suddenly and grab Mama Monkey's hair/fur to stop from falling out of a tree. Wow, why would "monkey" be offensive unless you're really in denial about the fact that we are/were monkeys?



I ALSO have a "sissy" in my life who isn't even my sister, but my cousin's HALF sister. When we were little, my cousin called her "sissy" In our family, it was an extremely affectionate and later on, a symbolic term of endearment representing our connection with her. It was honestly a way of saying "Even though we have different mothers, you are my sister and you are in my family." I still to this day call her "Sissy" sometimes before I call her her real name.



What's the big deal? If a name is said out of love, what could possibly be so bad? Get over it. Didn't your parents ever teach you that saying "Sticks and stones may break my bones but names will never hurt me?" Words only have the power that you give them.

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Candi I use pet names all the time and do not baby talk to my kids, I make a point of using correct words with them.

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We call my aunt sissy and my family calls me sissy and baby. I call my son little monkey. My aunt called me taz for the longest. My mom was called beaner (sorry if that offends anyone). My brothers where peanut, bugs and eeyore. I love pet names. I think if you don't like it, than don't use them. problem solved.

Caitlin - posted on 08/12/2011

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Lol.. I think if you're saying it to a baby, they don't care one way or another.. My girls get called monkeys when they are climbing on everything, monsters when they are being monsters, beasties some of the time, because it's funny and they seem to think so too, and my younger (16 months) is still pudge-master Zo (her name is Zoe) but she's still got the baby fat of a 9 month old in the face, and its SOOO cute.. In a few months that one will drift off I'm sure as she leans out since she only started walking a short time ago, her legs have already lost lots of fat and toned up, and i'm sad my little pudge master is growing up..

I don't think it's harmful to call a kid something as long as it's not derogatory and as long as they don't mind it.. After all, my kids wont remember most of their "pet" names since most will be phased out by the time they are old enough to remember.. that's why I write them down in the baby journal! I have to remember those names for when they bring home boyfrieds/girlfrieds in the future!

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For the most part, I think they are harmless, but there are some that cause me to pause.

We call one of my nieces Maddie Moo (her name is Madaline). It was cute when she was a baby, I never connected it to a cow, it just had a good ring to it. But now she has grown into a rather large little girl--not fat, just tall and broad shouldered, maybe a little plump, but she stands a full head taller than most of her classmates. Now I equate the Moo to a cow and try to stop myself when i say it, but it's hard because we've called her that for so long.

We called J Monstrosity for long time. That came from a phase where he would walk up to EVERYONE and distort his face into a .... well there's just no way to describe it, and it was different every time .... Then make growling noises. Once the phase ended, the moniker fell away as well--we didn't have to make a conscious effort, but in retrospect, probably not a great nickname.

Currently, I find myself calling him Little. He IS little, so I would like to stop, lest it mess with his self esteem, but it's so ingrained now even John, who hated it, calls him that. It started because he is so much like John, he was a little John, or John's little double, but it got shortened to just Little.

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Sally - posted on 04/18/2012

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I use so many nicknames with my daughter, that even my husband doesn't know all of them. But I never talked baby talk to her ever. My daughter has taken a disliking to one of the nicknames my husband uses and asked him to stop, we don't know why. So we did drop that one. None of ours are negitive, except maybe when I call her Bossy Mcbutter Pants. But she is bossy so I don't know if that is negitive or just a fact. I call her mostly sweet names or Rosie as rose is her middle name. Her name is Savannah so often she is Vanna Bean, I don't even know when or why that one started. Or she is my Savannah bug. I like pet names, I think it gives a feeling of specialness, a name no one but Mom uses. :)

Julie - posted on 04/16/2012

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My kids have tons of nicknames, I don't mind any of them as they're 3 and under and understand by the tone that they are loved.



The youngest gets called Spud Nugget a lot, or Spud. Her older sister gets called Spider Monkey by her nan a lot, and Nicholas (with an aussie accent, sounds like knickerless; she's in her nudie phase). When they grizzle we call either of them Grumplestiltskin, when the younger one needs a nappy change she becomes Stinkerbell.



I dunno, people outside the family may find it all cloying but the kids laugh and I think it keeps us sane sometimes... We'll probably find other nicknames for them when they're older that fits the age group but at the moment I don't see any harm, they are all terms of endearment.

Minna - posted on 02/18/2012

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Best nick name for a 3 year old girl...The Ayatollah. Coined by family members who served in the middle east. She's all grown up but still is ordering around the men in her life, Minna

Candi - posted on 01/19/2012

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Never used Nicknames or shortened versions of my kids' real names. I think nicknames come from the same people who baby talk to their kids. Maybe b/c it sounds "cutesy" to them. Who knows? Sometimes my 11 year old will call my 6 yr old "chunky monkey". I asked her why she did that. Her reply was "B/C she's sooo skinny!" I guess its her way of poking fun at her thin sister. She does it out of fun though and doesn't do it in public. As long as the kids doesn't go to school thinking their name is "Sissy" "Bubba" or "monkey", it should be OK

Erin - posted on 01/11/2012

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My mom had an Aunt Ducky, Uncle Ducky, Aunt Sis, and and Aunt Toots. My dad has an Aunt Booty (and it does fit her, but I don't know how she got the nickname).



We call our son Monkey, because since he could walk he has been climbing things. My husband calls our 6month son "half pint". I call both of them Bud because they are both my buddies(at least til they decide that they are too cool to be my buddies) My husband and I did give them names that you can shorten into nicknames Daniel and Steven. Danny and Stevie.

My FIL is the worst when it comes to this. He calls Danny: Dano, Pockets (FIL liked the little jeans), weebles and naked boy. All of them have fit Danny at one point. He has called both of my boys peanut (they were on the smaller side). He calls my SIL kids roly (her babies are on the big side)or Curly(they all have curly hair). But because I know him I don't think he is being mean just stating the obvious in the names he calls our kids.



I do use the names like stinker when they have a dirty diaper or crankpot when they are tired.

Proud - posted on 01/10/2012

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I'm 30 and my brother is 26 and I still call him Buddy and he calls me Sis.

We very rarely ever use each others names.

Meghan - posted on 01/10/2012

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I cringe any time some calls my son Joshy. I have a ton of nicknames for him..but mainly I call him Joshua or J.

Julianne - posted on 01/06/2012

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1st daughter-'face' or 'lollypop'
2nd daughter-'princess' or 'ladybug'
3rd son- 'scruffy' or 'bud'

Amanda - posted on 01/06/2012

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I used to get called Mandy moo or manda panda bear. Now I get called Mandy, Manda , or Bear

Jessie - posted on 10/11/2011

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I am guilty as charged for pet names with my daughter. Growing up my parents had names for me (grasshopper being the one I was most fond of, but also lil monster, crabby apple when I was being rotten, etc). Even the names that were what some people might think were 'cruel' I always knew they were in fun, because I always knew my parents loved me. I suppose that would be essential.

Charlie - posted on 10/08/2011

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Mummy and Daddy being used as mummy and Daddy is fine I meant when it is used as a sexual term I mean there are women who call their partners Daddy and they dont even have kids !

Merry - posted on 10/08/2011

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Loureen sometimes I call matt daddy and he calls me mama cuz if we use our real names Eric starts calling us matt and Laura and when we tried using honey or babe or sweetie Eric started calling other kids by those names! Sort of cute at the park him calling this cute little girl sweetie but, not really a good long term thing :)

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I definitely don't like nick names that have negative connotations. It may seem cute at first but I think it sets up children to have self-esteem issues later in life.

My little brother calls me Sissy or Sis and I am okay with that. His mom (my ex step mom) is from the South and it is used as a term of endearment for sisters or close female relatives/friends that are like a sister. I don't like it when boys are called sissies because it does have a negative meaning. It is one of those words that sadly has a double meaning.

Angela - posted on 10/08/2011

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We had a neighbor boy about age 8 or 9 years,that introduced himself to me as Turtle. Everyone called him turtle...So I asked Samantha why do they call him turtle and then snicker and laugh. Samantha said I don't know.
The little boy was somewhat neglected and I would have him over often because he was out side all day.
I decided I would go meet with his parents and see what was going on. She was rather polite and I said you know your son is out a lot for long periods don't you worry , her reply no...
So i then asked where did he get the name Turtle and was she aware the kids tease him of it. READY for her reply.
Oh she replied I call him that because he is so slow.
The boy was mildly mentaly impared. How cruels I thought. What was worse is she felt he liked the name and introduced himself as Turtle.
I came flat out and told her I thought it was cruel, she stated rather matter of factly well he is too slow to know really.
No that is not a nice pet name! It is all how the word is spoken not the word itself. I will never forget that little boy and how mean his mother was to him.

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Oh, and Clever Cloggs. I am really trying to come up with something I'd find offensive. Anyone?!

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I don't see the problem, if it's endearing and within reason. I call my daughter Schnecke (german for snail, don't ask, it just sounds nice) or Ninchen (Nina). Missy or Missy Maggoo (spelling?) are also popular here.
And then we have all those fitting for the situation:
Bossy-Boots
Cheaky Monkey
Stinker
Smarty Pants/Crafty Pants
Rogue
Messer
Sleepy Head
Booby Monster
And on occasion we have called her Damien...

Charlie - posted on 10/07/2011

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I call Jamie babe but he totally is a babe haha and not the babe the pig typeLOL

Stifler's - posted on 10/07/2011

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We still call each other babe. Actually I only just started calling him that.

Charlie - posted on 10/07/2011

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Ok it isnt a kids pet name but it totally creeps me out when I hear people call their lovers/boyfriends/ husbands "Daddy"

Amanda - posted on 10/05/2011

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I've got no problems with pet names, my sister and I were either Boof or scunge (no idea why!!) we are now 29 and 32 and still get it!!!

My sons name is Noah Thomax, as a new born my sister called him Noah Nee, Noah Noo, so from that he gets Nee or NeeNee. We often call him Monster, Menace, Boof, monkey ect. It's not we're calling him "little shit" or anything like that!

I was talking to my sister after I wrote this and she reminded me that our Dad used to (and actually still does) call us Stench!! My Sisters last name is now Butler and she will often call her kids But-head, they think it's hilarious!!!

We also call our son Master and The boss!!

Jessica - posted on 09/19/2011

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I think children tend to grow out of most nicknames. I can't see myself calling my son Bubba or Monkey toes on his sixteenth birthday, or even on his tenth. But for now, his ridiculously long toes and the fact that everyone still thinks he's a girl necessitate the nicknames.

Angela - posted on 09/19/2011

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I have heard all these pets names mentioned and some I have used. I find them harmless but as someone stated I would not call my teenager thunder thighs! So of course use some sense but i think most people have enough sense to not do something harmful.

Now in defense of Sissy! My Claire calls my daughter Samantha Sissy, she calls all her other siblings by their names. Samantha lives very close to us , she is 22 and is very much a part of our daily family lives(almost daily) she has her own room in a student house.

Claire can say Samantha but when Claire was young she said Sissy when I refer to Samantha as her Sissy and it stuck. I think it is cute and sweet. It is almost always used with an older Sister and also a sign of respect to a sister and as stated a term of endearment like Auntie.

To this day my family calls me by my nick name Digi... the short version of my nick name Digi Doo Doo now if they said the doo doo part I would not like it! When I hear it I know it as a connection to something i shared with my family.

At the moment Claire's number one nickname is Bear...it was Claire Bear and shorten it to Bear, it suits her temperament and it stuck. Many refer to her as Bear, little Bear, Bear Bear... Samantha calls her cookie, she is the only one who does so special between them to have nicknames Sissy and Cookie! I also call Claire Tiny a lot.

Messy Jessy is my oldest and she is still called Mess (Jessica) Marcus is always Marcus now but as a teen we called him legs yep we did he would be posing with his legs in front a mirror or camera and has really nice long muscular legs it suited him and he liked it. It was a fun love tease.

All had no harm and i really don't care if someone does not like it. Frankly I think it is none of their business what i call myself or my kids. Unless I used shit head or something awful to their psyche fine give me some advice!

Janice - posted on 09/18/2011

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I guess I can see both sides of this. My daughter (23 mo) has had many nicknames since birth including "boog" short for booger - because she was so strong willed from the start. And "chunker choo" because she was sooo chunky but I love chunky babies so I don't think calling an infant chunky is bad. Weight related nicknames shouldn't be used with older kids though. And "Pink" which started after a saw a nick toon with a character pinky dinky doo. But mostly she is KD now short for Kadence. When I was calling her pinky or pink a lot I would say out loud in a store and think OMG people probably think that's really her name. Lol. She will be a big sister soon and "sissy" is a very common term of indearment in my family. So I'm sure we will be talking to her brother and calling her sissy sometimes, although I do agree it does sound awful. I hear the name bubby for brother which always seems strange to me because Bubbie is yiddish for grandma and that's what i called my maternal grandmother and now my mom goes by that for my children.

Merry - posted on 09/18/2011

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I guess saying it it was funny, I even laughed at the time. But she wrote it on her scrap of fabric I had everyone write on to make hum a blanket with and seeing it in writing made me feel bad for him. I don't want him thinking everyone was laughing over his butt crack when he saw his blanket as a kid. So I just folded the fabric to eliminate that bit.
But as for nick names I have plenty for both kids!
It seems bug is a popular one, Eric has been bug a boo for a long time and usually I just say bug or buggy
I call him sweetie alot.
Fierna has some odd ones so far, I call her squeaky McGee when she gets all high pitched squeaky! (she's 4 months)
I call her baby pterodactyl when she's screeching at the top of her lungs!
Chunky monkey IMO is harmless, my fil called Eric this for a while and it was fine by me.
When Fierna is crying for no apparent reason her nick name is 'oh good GOD!' lol she's quite loud :)

Merry - posted on 09/18/2011

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My aunt called my son 'Plummer butt' afterapicture of his crack showing and I felt it was awful to say,
I like to respect my kids dignity even if they don't know they want it respected yet. That's my job, to protect them!

Ashley - posted on 09/14/2011

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omg my kids have soo many pet names. I call them stinky, stinker, smelly. My oldest was Baby J (his name is Jackson) for the longest time. Baby cakes was another i used for a long time. My youngest has numerous pet names. His name is Preston. I've called him P noodle, P diddley, P (he gets P all the time by family members and friends) Jackson couldnt pronounce his name so he started calling him Pee Pee haha and still does. He gets that a lot and now if you ask him his name he says Pee Pee (i have to laugh). I've called them doodle, buggy, chunkers. The list could probably go on. My mom always had pet names for us too. My brother and i are redheads so pumpkin was one we got all the time. My middle name is Patricia so she used to call me Peppermint Patty. I've had also been called ashes. It never bothered me. I think pet names are cute

Donna - posted on 09/08/2011

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i used to call my daughters nini bug and maddy bum. but they r older now and that just kinda went to nini and maddy.

Tyrae - posted on 09/06/2011

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I called my daughter for the first month of her life a chunky monkey, but she came out over 8lbs and had ears that stuck out like a monkeys, she was adorable and I loved it. I no longer call her that anymore :)

The one nickname I hate right now that everyone calls my daughter, her name is Brooke, my mother calls her Boo Boo. I don't know why but I hate that nickname.

Katherine - posted on 08/31/2011

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I grew up being called pumpkin by my mom, and I still get it!!!

My son Cannan (Kay nan) is always having his name said wrong and me correcting others.

I gave him pet names, but only myself or my hubby use them and they are used out of love!!!

We use:
bubs
bubby
bubba
chunk
chunky monkey
booger butt
boo

My soon is the chubbiest baby ever (5 months old, 24lbs) and healthy as a horse...we love him to death and the names we give him are because we love him so much

Kayla - posted on 08/25/2011

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I call my daughter who is 17 months old my little stinker, or I will say to her "Good morning stinky". I don't know why I do because she isn't actually stinky lol I do think I should stop soon because I don't think it's any little girls dream to be called stinky! I have no problem with nicknames or pet names, I think they are cute and another way to bond with your family. I am 21 and my mom and sister still call me chief cause I was so bossy when I was little. I don't take offense to it, as we laugh all the time about it.

Starfish - posted on 08/23/2011

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My kid's nickname is Monster.

In my defense, it started when she went through a phase where she refused to speak, and just growled instead, lol. It's always said with the utmost affection though.

She's got several other names I call her, like Monkey Toes, Small Lady, Lady-Cake, Bratface, Bratticus, Boo, whatever. She's taken a fancy to giving affectionate names back to me, too. I suppose maybe it's different with some people, but it's a sign of how much we love each other, not to be taken literally.

Amanda - posted on 08/21/2011

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Yall would hate me I call my son Piglet, Chunky Monkey, and even heathen sometimes My brother calls him noodle and boogie and my stepsister calls him hamster..... and yup I call my brother bubba

Jasmine - posted on 08/17/2011

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My husband calls our daughter "babydoll" I think it's cute now that she's only 21 months old, but it might seem weird to me if he's still calling her babydoll when she's like 10

Sherri - posted on 08/17/2011

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I have called all my kids piglet at some point and when they are being difficult in a day I do call them boogers. It isn't mean at all. Guess you have to know the intent. Heck my kids are older now 14, 12 & 5 and I still call them these things on occasion.

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"but I think these people who call their kids ridiculous pet names should really think again!"

Some people may think smoodgie is a ridiculous pet name, if you use pet names you use pet names just because you think a name is cruel or silly doesn't mean the parent or child do.

Oh and a smoodgie is a kids backpack just so you know

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Emma - posted on 08/12/2011

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My kids nick names are Googly bear( my daughter) She love to cuddle like a teddy bear and little Dude (my son) as he is just so laid back.
The kids have given us nick names to mine is Moo me instead of mommy because i collect cow things, and my hubby is Daddy bear.
We only use them among ourselves its our little thing we also have a secret finger wiggle that means i love you.
I never introduce my kids by there nick names and they always introduce them self's by there real names.
If they are not inappropriate (and by that i mean calling a baby girl sexy) and are said with love i don't see a problem.

Mirie - posted on 08/11/2011

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I agree with you. I hate nicknames and pet names. My MIL uses a lot of pet names that I dislike. Rather call my son by his name, that's why we gave him a name.

Tasha - posted on 08/08/2011

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I call my son many "pet" names, i dont think theres anything wrong with it, if its done out of love then whats the problem? I may hear a parent say something to their child i wouldnt say to mine but that doesnt make it wrong. Every family is different, and thats ok. If you are calling your child a name to hurt them then there are more issues then that im sure. And we have to teach our children to be happy and confident no matter what others say. I dont believe most who call their child chunky monkey are using it as a literal translation, i call my son stinky, he laughs, he is stinky but i love him.

Rachelle - posted on 08/07/2011

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I knew some one who called there kid poo poo who would name there kid after crap.In our house I have a boy and a girl and we call our boy ,baby boy even though he 8 and our daughter we call her sweet pea.

Ashley - posted on 08/04/2011

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I call my son chunky monkey :P He was 10lbs 2oz at birth and it kinda fit. I have no problem with pet names if they aren't meant to hurt the babies feelings, which I am sure most parents are not trying to do. HOwever yes there is a time when you must lay off the names if the child reacts to them or asks you to stop. My oldest hates being called Munkster now a name I called him till very recently. Munkster is a combo of monter and monkey. and the little guy we called chunky monkey is now smiley face. b/c he is always smiling.

Jurnee - posted on 08/03/2011

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wow, Cherokee is totally phonetic,lol. I guess people can mispronounce anything.

Medic - posted on 08/03/2011

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I use pet names for my kids and quite frankly I don't care what others think. My son is redheaded and I either call him punkin head or bubba.....and my daughter we call thunder thighs....but she got them from me so how is it mean. We also call her tornado.

Jennifer - posted on 08/03/2011

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Laura I like that and she chose it herself so its different to me. I actually have a couple names I call my kids mostly I use their names but I will also use Girly, Picolla, Little Bird (our oldest) Cuddle Bunny (youngest) but on average we use their names. My oldest had aproblem with people misspronouncing her name. They keep saying it with and sh sound so it sounds like sherokee instead of Cherokee with the ch as is chair. It bothers her and she has yet to find something she really likes to replace it but then she loves her name.

Jurnee - posted on 08/03/2011

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I dont mind nicknames in general, but I really dont like sissy. My nephew calls my niece sissy and it just seems weird,I mean she has a name. Hes 8 and shes 12, it just seems silly to me. Now her other cousins are starting to call her that too! I never really used pet names for my own kids, but my duaghter Liane(lee ann) had so much trouble with people mispronouncing her name that at about age 15, she just started using Lion. It fits her, she loves it cause shes also a Leo and she chose it herself.

Amy - posted on 08/03/2011

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My FIL calls my daughter 'bucky'. Has ever since she was a year old and only had two teeth forever. My MIL hates it when he does that. Says it's mean. Georgiana however thinks it's awesome she and grandpa have a little inside pet name. BUT, she gets pissed if anyone but grandpa calls her that. She has a great uncle who tries to be cool and call her that. She corrected him right away "only pa pa calls me that. You can call me Georgie.".

My husband calls my son his little buddy. So his sister says, come on, bud. I don't care for it. a bud is a start of a flower or a beer. lol.

Some cultures though, it's normal and cute to call their kiddos things that seem odd to us.

The name I hear people use that bothers me is "Bubs." What the hell is THAT? Like, a little devil? Is that from the old bub - beelzebub? I don't mind a kid being called chunky monkey as much as a little demon.

Amy - posted on 08/01/2011

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I originally called my son bug-a-boo. I would say bug-a-boo, I love you. I have no idea why, but now I call him bug. I call him a booger when he's being ornery. I don't think there is anything wrong with it as long as it's not derogatory.

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