Safe Baby Drop-off?

[deleted account] ( 12 moms have responded )

On the news last night, I saw that a newborn was dumped in the trash by his mother. She had apparently no idea she was pregnant. She is undergoing psychological evaluations at the moment... On the news, they talked about the fact that there is no safe place for any parent to drop off a child without any repercussion in Alberta (and most of canada). parents who want to drop-off an unwanted baby can face chareges of child neglect, child abandonment, etc. British-Columbia has started a project for "Safe Baby drop -off" locations. Basically, parents can anonymously drop-off their baby without any charges being laid. it was said that it can save some baby's lives and get them away from potentially harmful situations such as parents who abuse drugs, criminal life, etc. those children are taken care of by the hospital and then put up for adoption. On the other hand, it was pointed out that giving this alternative to parents can prevent them from getting help through social services for their addiction problems, mental health issues, etc.

I think that it should be available and that the parents who drop off their babies do it because they see it as the only alternative at that moment. I think it would prevent some babies being shaken, dumped in garbage bins, etc. I think a lot of parents who abandon their children are worried about repercussions and criminal charges and this is (in part) what is pushing them to dump the kids wherever they can.

What do you think? Should this be available to parents? Should social services reach out to more families? Would you like this system implemented in your area?

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

12 Comments

View replies by

Kelina - posted on 10/25/2010

2,018

9

233

I think if they do do the safe havens, they need to make them more known about. Apparently they have one over in vancouver but i don't think too many people know about it. I think they're a great idea and could save a lot of babies, but only if women know about them and if we're told about them from a young age. Then I think we'd start seeing the really positive effects of this in 10-15 years.

Melisa - posted on 10/24/2010

26

28

1

I think a safe place for moms is a good idea. some moms have dealt with social services in past and it may have not been positive..so I believe they would go elswhere for help and not to feel that they are bad...the services are do wide spread that not all people are able to get the help they seek..they fall throgh the cracks...you hear about more babies been abandoned like this then charging the moms....so there is a need for a safe haven and also for follow up for moms

[deleted account]

I don't think there's anything like this in the UK...well not that I've heard of. I think it's a good idea but I think if it was implemented people would think of it as an easy way out.

[deleted account]

I think safe drops should be available everywhere. These safe drops should be well publicized and parents should also be aware that counseling services (or assistance in finding counseling services) are available at the drop off sites.

Dawn - posted on 10/24/2010

832

13

163

Here in FL I believe a parent can drop off an infant up to a certain age at any hospital or fire station...unfortunately too many mothers are not doing this and still choosing other options :( I really don't know what the solution should be, but it is so sad that it continues to happen over and over.

[deleted account]

The US has "Safe Haven" laws just about everywhere. I think the specifics of the law changes from state to state but the idea is the same. Hospitals, fire departments and police stations are the 3 main places I can think of off the top of my head. Here's the simplest, most to the point article I could find on it :
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Safe_haven_...

I think it's a great thing. Much better than a woman who may not be in her right mind feeling like her only option is a dumpster. At least at the Safe Haven locations the baby has a chance. In some states, there is even a chance of the mother getting help later and reuniting with her child.

Carolyn - posted on 10/21/2010

208

25

11

I do think there should be options to parents whom are not prepared in any manor to be parents. Someone has to take care of the child. Let it be someone whom wants & is physically, mentally, financially capable of doing so. We in LA already have a safe haven law. I just wish more parents whom aren't ready would use it instead of throwing the baby in a river alive. How horrible to have to live with that on your mind. It's also hard to reach those parents, when they are saying they did not even know they were pregnant. You can't fix everyone we are going to loose some. I hate the hard cold truth as harsh as it is. We can not force these people to do the right thing. After they have clearly done something they were not prepared for the aftermath of their own decision. We save whom we can reach & pray for the rest.

Alison - posted on 10/21/2010

2,753

20

466

I am all for it!

The parents getting help with their issues needs to be treated separately. It is not reasonable to expect a junkie to look after a newborn while going through withdrawal. And I would argue that someone fresh out of rehab may not be ready to be a parent.

If we already have organizations taking care of abandoned animals, it this not much more important? I think that a parent who is willing to recognize their own inability to care for a child should not be penalized. I would rather see an unwanted child in the hands of a social worker than dumped on some random family member's doorstep.

Caitlin - posted on 10/21/2010

1,915

5

171

I'd love it if they implemented this. I think it would save quite a few babies from potential harm. I like that firestations someplaces will take a baby no questions asked. I think that there is no good reason not to do it. It's not like addicts are going to seek out social services on their own anyways just because they got pregnant.

If you see this, leave this form field blank.
Powered by RESPECT not THUMPS

Join Circle of Moms

Sign up for Circle of Moms and be a part of this community! Membership is just one click away.

Join Circle of Moms