Amy - posted on 02/25/2010 ( 17 moms have responded )
Okay, I may be off the mark here, but I hear so many mothers say they won't/don't discipline their kids in any way because it may ruin their "Self-esteem" or break their spirits. Because nothing is being done to them, they do whatever they will, disrespecting others, but having a high opinion of themselves. So they have great self esteem, but no esteem for anyone else. Is it not still important to teach our children that their actions affect others and that they need to think of others before themselves? And that when they do wrong, there will be negative consequences?
Think of simple movies - the good guy always goes hungry to feed a child, the child gives up a seat to an elderly woman, the man holds the door for other people, etc. ISn't that the type of person we hope to raise? Now....not saying we need to teach our kids to be doormats, but not to tiptoe around the fear of "ruining" them by not disciplining. It scares me to think of all the kids I see who are selfish in so many ways. But where is the line? How do you keep within the safe distance of teaching right from wrong or breaking a spirit? And can you really break a spirit with proper, loving discipline?