Meghan - posted on 07/08/2010 ( 15 moms have responded )
If your toddler- 1, 2, or 3 years old was consistently resisting separating from mom, what do you do?
For the purposes of this discussion, Im talking particulalry about elective separations - situations where you could care for your child but have made other arrangements - either they are going to a play group, or preschool, or you were planning "me" time to leave the child with the father or another family member. I'd like to leave the daycare situation out of this since many don't have a choice about being wohm (although I suppose it could apply to those who "chose" to work when they are not required to for financial reasons.)
for the sake of debate, say there is no concern that the child is being mistreated with the alternate care giver. Also the separation angst is fairly generlized to different settings.
the question then is - in situations of elective separation from your toddler, if your toddler is consistently resisting them, does that mean that you should step up the amount of separations so they get used to them, or would it be better to back of the time away from your toddler since they apperently don't like it and seek to need you?