The long or short of it

Emma - posted on 04/26/2010 ( 139 moms have responded )

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Lots of people keep saying that nowadays people rush in to marriage ,
so lets see if its true how long from:

When you met to started dating
From dating to moving in together
from moving in to engaged
from engaged to married
And how long have you been married

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Cara - posted on 05/07/2010

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Got divorced in July of 92... met my next husband that same month, but wouldn't talk to him (he dressed WEIRD, lol - he was into that whole 'Seattle grunge music... ick)
Moved into a new apartment with a few roommates in August and he showed up one day... we let him move in (told him he could have the couch)
He got a haircut and put on some 'normal' clothes and I thought he might be sort of cute, around September.
Went out with him in a group in Sept for his 21st birthday. He took me on our first date in October and we decided to get married that night.
We got married in December at a chapel, then January 1, 93 by our pastor.
Our pastor said we didn't have a 'snowball's chance in hell' because we were rushing it. 17 years ago.

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Tracie - posted on 12/13/2012

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Starting dating as soon as we met, 9 months later moved in together, 2 years later got married, been married 15 years. *;-)

Danielle - posted on 12/03/2012

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We met in August 2001. First date was September 2001. We basically moved in together a month after our first date. We bought a house together in January of 2002. He proposed in April of 2002. We got married in September 21st, 2002, which was exactly a year and a day after our first date. We celebrated 10 years of marriage this past September.

Julie - posted on 07/02/2012

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Met and started dating: 1 year
Dating to moving (once engaged): 2 years
Engaged to Married: 10 months
Married: 13 years-Happily :)

My theory is if things are not progressing by the two year mark, you need to reevaluate yourself.

Corinne - posted on 06/30/2012

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We met in August 2004
Started dating December 2004
Moved in together March 2005
Baby #1 arrived June 2006
Engaged December 2006
Baby #2 arrived August 2008
Married March 2010
Been married for 2yrs 3 months

We got a lot of stick from Mike's family for having kids before getting hitched. As far as we were concerned, we'd made our promises to each other long before the kids came along and didn't see the need for the whole pomp and ceremony. Our wedding was very low key, more a celebration of our little family than anything else.

Michelle - posted on 06/29/2012

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We met 2 weeks before we started dating, September 2008,
Moved in together first week of January 2009,
We had our daughter in 2010 (she was a surprise)
There's no engagement or marriage in the near future
Still together, although it has been rough, lot of ups and downs, been through alot together, and have had a few separations the longest being about a week. He says he would have proposed by now but he wants to get me a gorgeous ring. Im not too rushed to get married, although would like it in the next few years.

Lisa - posted on 06/27/2012

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Met Summer 2003.

Went on first date the following weekend. First kiss on 2nd date.

Moved in July 2005.

Engaged New Year's Day 2006. 12:05 AM

Married March 2007.

First baby November 2008.

2nd baby February 2011.

Kim - posted on 06/26/2012

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We were friends for a year before dating. Moved in together around 6 months. Got engaged 4 years later and married a year after that. We've been married for 8 years now, but have been together 13 years.

Alexis - posted on 06/25/2012

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met started dating in August 2001
moved in together August 2002
moved out January 2005
engaged September 2006
Married September 2007
will be married for 5 years this September

User - posted on 06/24/2012

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Met in 2007-2008 school year, went on dates from summer of 08' until we made it official.
Started officially dating August 17,2009
Moved in together December 23, 2009 ( After I was kicked out of my parent's house )
Got engaged November 25, 2010
Got married April 23, 2011
Been married a year and two months so far, and counting.

Mandian - posted on 06/21/2012

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We rushed at first. So we met and 2 months later started dating. I moved in about a month later. We became engaged about a year and a half later. Then married 8 months after. We have been married 10 months now.

Lisa - posted on 06/21/2012

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Met hubby on Dec 27, 1991, he asked me to marry him Jan 16, 1992, moved in April 1992, got Married May 1992 and have been married for 20 years this May. We have beautiful kids 18 and 17 and have had a rocky marriage but have withstood everything that life and Satan has thrown at us and we love each other more today than we did the day we got married. :)



By the way: the way we met was unusual too.....he was standing on the side of the road (main street drag for those of you old enough to remember that...lol) and my friend and I pulled up and told him and his friend to hope in and go for a ride....he asked me out for a date that night and told his best friend the next day he had met the woman he was going to marry on main street....lol)

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we started in june of 2007 moved in together april 2008 no real engagement but then married july 2008 and we will be married 4 years now. and have a 1 year old son

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Met: September 1992 (when were in the 6th grade)

Began dating: May 18, 1999

Engaged: June 1999

Married: September 16, 2000

Been married for 11yrs 9 months and 2 days

Sally - posted on 06/17/2012

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Meeting to friendship about 2 months.
Friendship to sleeping together about 1 year.
Sleeping together to "dating" about 6 months.
"Dating" to moving in about 6 months.
Moved in to married about 1 1/2 years.
He wanted the commitment much sooner than I did.
My mother tried to tell me I was too young to get married (I was 22 and he was 31). I pointed out she was pregnant with her second kid by that age and she shut up. We've been married 16 1/2 years with more good times than bad and we have two great kids so it worked out.

Fran - posted on 06/17/2012

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Met at the start of 2001, started dating December 2001

Moved in together May 2002

Engaged June 2005

Married September 2006

So coming up to our 6th wedding anniversary, but have been together for 10 1/2 years

Still happy and raising 2 beautiful children

Brenna - posted on 06/16/2012

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I wouldn't say we rushed it but we knew from the start it was forever.
started talking online dec 2009
dating feb 8th 2010
he moved in april 9th 2010
(mutually decided we were engaged at somepoint)
married may 4th 2011
Happily together with a 2 year old boy and 9 month old girl

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Met to dating: 1 1/2 yrs

Dating to Engaged: 6 months

Engaged to Married: 4 months

Married 4 1/2 yrs

However this is my second marriage, with 4 children in tow. Husbands first, but we are 46 and 50 so maybe this is a little different. Also, the Met to dating time is after I had left my first husband, I could've really skewed your numbers here. It was over 20 years from the meeting till the dating.

Rebekah - posted on 06/12/2012

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Met: Dec. 2000
Dated: March 2001
Engaged: August 2002
Married: May 2003
** Never moved in together until we were married**

Married 9 years!

Jaci - posted on 06/09/2012

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Met to dating time was about 3-4 months. Dating anniversary is May 1, 2006.
Then we got engaged 7 months later. (Dec 13, 2006)
Then he went on a deployment to Iraq 5 months after that. (he left May 18 2007)
A year later he came home (May 11, 2008) and we moved in together about 3 weeks later when we found a place. Meanwhile we stayed at my parents place, so technically May 11th we "moved in" together lol.
We are still not married. We have (as of today) been together for 6 years, 1 month and 9 days.
Our first child was born June 17, 2010 and our second child was born March 20, 2012. We are done having kids. lol.
Our wedding date is set for October 13, 2012.

:)

Kristie - posted on 06/08/2012

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We met april 01 engaged april 02 married june 02.On the 24th we will be married for 10 years and been together for 11 years. 3 kids 2 dogs and 2 cats later we are still together. Very sweet we both were in army stationed in Germany. We have 3 kids 2 dog and 2 cats. We didnt move in with each other until we were married. Of course spending weekends together but we both had roommates and had toshare barracks room.

Kitty - posted on 10/02/2011

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ME 18 YRS SAME man my highschool sweety!!! :)
life is busy with 2 kids let me tell you!

Donna - posted on 10/01/2011

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lol i know i went fast. we met aug of 03, started dating oct of 03, moved in nov 03, got engaged april 03, married oct 04. found out we were pregnant dec 04 and have been married 7 yrs oct 16th

Janeta - posted on 09/29/2011

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My husband and I met in december of 07 we started dating in june 08 we got engaged in may of 09 I got pregnant in october 09 we moved in together in May 10 we got married feb of 11 we have been married for six months!

Tiffany - posted on 09/27/2011

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OCT 2005 met, Oct 23rd 2008 moved in engged April, 2006, Maried May 14th 2011 4 months

Tiffany - posted on 09/27/2011

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OCT 2005 met, Oct 23rd 2008 moved in engged April, 2006, Maried May 14th 2011 4 months

Tawnya - posted on 09/25/2011

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We met March 2009
Started dating October 17th, 2010
Moved in together October 22nd, 2010
Engaged November 22nd, 2010
Married February 5th, 2011
Married 7 1/2 months.

Jasmine - posted on 09/21/2011

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When you met to started dating Sept 2001
From dating to moving in together June 2004 ( we were broken up for a year in between)
from moving in to engaged April 2007
from engaged to married October 2007
And how long have you been married 4 years

Jenny - posted on 09/20/2011

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Met: when we were 11
Started dating: when we were 17
Got engaged at 19
Got married at 20
Been married for 6 years :)

From dating to moving in together
from moving in to engaged
from engaged to married
And how long have you been married

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Met: 1993

Started dating (long-distance): 1994

Moved in: 1997

Engaged: Aug 1998

Married: Dec 1998



Married 12 years. Just had our first baby last year!



Yes, I'm that old.

ME - posted on 09/20/2011

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met: March of '04
started dating: July of '04
got engaged: Nov. of '04
moved in together: May of '05
got married: October of '06
married 5 years this October

Jessica - posted on 09/18/2011

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Met: September '08
Started dating: June 3rd '09
Moved in together: July 18th '09
Engaged: July 25th '09
Married: Dec. 8th, '09
And we've been married almost two years.

Very very quickly to some, but I feel that once you reach a certain age, which for me would be any time beyond the age of 25, most people know enough about other people and dating to not have to "date" someone long necessarily before knowing they want to settle down.

Angela - posted on 09/16/2011

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"Met" online (on a dating site!!) in August 2005.
Met in person 2 weeks later in early September 2005.
Moved in with him in November 2007
Got engaged May 2008
Got married March 2009
Been married now for 2½ years!

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Met in 2004; started dating in 2006.

I technically moved in with him in 2007 although it was more of a room mate situation. Seperate rooms, bills split etc.

Got engaged about 6 months later. Married in 2008. Been married for almost 3 1/2 years.

I didn't want to waste time dating. I wasn't looking for a boyfriend, I was looking for a husband. The only reason we were engaged for a year is because we wanted to make sure we could get everything we wanted without stressing ourselves out.

Katherine - posted on 09/12/2011

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We rushed certain things and waited for others.
We met in Aug 2002
Started dating Sept 2002
Moved in together (unoffically) - sept 2002, Offically June 2003
Bought our first house May 2007
Got engaged November 2009
Pregnant June 2010
Married July 2010
Baby March 2011

Like Rabecca we always new we'd be together forever, we just wanted to make sure, neither one of us believes in divorce and we really enjoyed spending out time together, buying a house, finishing college!!!!

Rabecca - posted on 09/12/2011

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I think we (my husband and I may be way out of the norm this is both of our 1st marraige) but
We started dating 2004
we movesd in together 2005
we got engaged 2010
and married this yr 1-11-11
so yes that was almost 7 yrs from starting to date to getting married eventhough we knew we always would even on our 1st date we were like wow we are getting married arent we and maybe because are or were older when we met I am 35 hes 41 now that there wasnt any rush we knew what we had would last and very deep and hurrying to the altar just wasnt a deep concern I mean yes I could have married a few yrs earlier than having to wait 7 yrs LOL but it was perfect just the same

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We started dating July 1996
We moved in together August 1996
We got engaged September 1997
We got married October 1998
We have been married for 13 years this october

Sarah - posted on 09/11/2011

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My husband & I met on Dec 7, 2001 & started officially dating maybe a week or so later.

We never actually moved in together, because we were so young (teens!) and our parents would have crapped themselves.

We dated from Dec 2001-April 2006 (so, about 4 1/2 years) before we got engaged. We were engaged for 14 months before we got married on June 2, 2007.

We have been happily married for 4 years & together for almost 10 years. :)

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1st husband. Met in a bar. Dated 4 months before getting engaged. Married 18 months later. Only moved in together after the wedding. He left 18 months later when our son was 4 months old. Divorce was final a year later.

2nd husband. Met and dated for 4 months. He moved in with me. We got married 2 years later. I kicked him out (for abuse) after just under 3 years of marriage.

Jennifer - posted on 09/10/2011

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Met April 15, 2003. First date, May 20, 2003. Told a friend the next morning that I met the man I was gonna marry. Moved in July 15, 2003. Were married Jan 21st 2005. Married 6 years, met a month before dating, dated two months before moving in together. Been together 8 years.

Leeann - posted on 09/10/2011

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met when i was sixteen he just turned eighteen, (actually I was crushing on him for two years before actually met lol) the date was november 23,1999 started dating that night.
we got engaged on my birthday march 4 2000 i was about a month pregnant w/ my daughter. ( it was one of the happiest moments of my life)
we got married on October 21, 2000 and have been married for almost 11 yrs. and he still manages to make me smile everyday :)

Christina - posted on 07/28/2011

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Haha, gotta update my orrginal post!
Met Jan 19, 2010
Moved in together Jan 22nd 2010 (he never left)
Divorce from ex-husband finalized Dec 23rd 2010 (took almost 2yrs!)
Married April 28th 2011
We have five children.

Teresa - posted on 07/28/2011

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Met Saturday started dating Sunday
Moved in together 2 weeks later
Engaged a month later
from engaged to married
Married 28 years

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I was 14 and he was 15 when we met and became friends...we then started dating when I was 18 and he was 19 (we were 19 and 20 a month after we started dating)...so that'll be 5 years from meeting to dating.

We got engaged and bought our home when we were 20 and 21...so a year from dating to engaged and a year and a half to moving in together.

Then we got married just over a year later (at 21 and 22) because we wanted an autumn wedding and we got engaged during summer (July 05) so didn't want to rush our wedding plans.

From meeting to marrying it was a grand total of 7 years and from dating to marrying it was 3 years. We had been in each others lives for 10 years when we married.

After getting married it took 3 years to conceive our first child and then a year to conceive our second :-)

We are coming up to our fifth wedding anniversary in October and have 2 brilliant children (21 months and 8 weeks).

Rheba - posted on 07/26/2011

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1 month (Met December 5th 2006, began dating January 11, 2007)
Didn't until our marriage.
Engaged April 2008
Married April 15, 2009
Two years, three months, one week, four days, two hours, 29 minutes.

Jessica - posted on 02/05/2011

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We met in Kindergarden, started dating in 12th grade
We were engaged a year later
we were married a year after that
we have been happily married for eight years
(he joined the marines, so that kinda put a rush on things)

Keisha - posted on 02/03/2011

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-we had known each other 3 months when we started dating
-had been dating 6 months when we moved in together
-had been living together for about 17 months when he proposed
-we are getting married in 2013

Nikki - posted on 02/03/2011

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When you met to started dating- met in 1996 (i was 12 he was 18) started dating January2003 (when I was 17 and he was 22) so- 6 years
From dating to moving in together January 2003-August 2005 so 2.5 years
from moving in to engaged we were actually engaged in December 2004 so already engaged when we moved in together full-time
from engaged to married December 2004-April 2006 So 1.5 years
And how long have you been married Will have been happily married for 5 years this April with ttwo Children ages 2 and 1

Ary - posted on 02/02/2011

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Met August 2004
Dating December 2004
Shacked up February 2005
Had first baby February 2006
Engaged Aprilish 2006
Fell prego with #2 Jan 2008
Married April 2008
2nd child born October 2008
Just found out that I'm prego AGAIN with #3, due in October 2011 :)
Married 3 years in April, together for 6 years last December :)

Allie - posted on 02/02/2011

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When you met to started dating: 6-8 months August 2006 is when we met... February 2007 dating

From dating to moving in together: never moved in officially but I had my drawer in the bathroom ; )

from moving in to engaged: we lived in different cities, so we would go to each others place for weekends at a time...

from engaged to married: 4 months (August 2007-December 2007

And how long have you been married: Just celebrated 3 years December 15th 2010!!!!!





I got married when I was four months pregnant, but we did NOT get married because I was pregnant, God just had other plans for us : ) . Within two weeks of dating I told my mom he was the man I was going to marry... and even though he can get on my last nerve sometimes I love him even more than I ever thought possible!!! He's a wonderful dad and husband and I'm the luckiest girl in the WORLD!

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