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Kelina - posted on 02/11/2012
Good for him! I'd assume it was pretty recent, he said he was an it tech, so somehow I don't think he'd punish her for something she wrote before she got her computer taken away the first time(he mentioned she'd just had her computer taken away for 3 months) Also, if he was able to see it on her facebook, then that means her friends were too which is totally disrespectful. If it were her private diary or something that would be different as that's a good way to vent even if most of what you say is totally untrue and exaggerated, but she made this public for her friends to see. While i feel kind of bad that he spent all that money and probably could have gotten his point across just as well by selling it, I say all the power to him. Maybe next time she'll think twice before publicly disrespecting her parents. Sometimes a good old fashioned paper diary is the way to go.
Keli - posted on 02/10/2012
Lol yeah i believe he was posting the video to her facebook wall so she will get the message,but i would assume she would have to use someone elses computer to view it. i started working when i was 13 i enjoyed making my own money,and i always had a job until i went On maternity leave nad became a stay at home mom. I got a kick out of the video though,did anyone ever see him smoke his smoke at all lol? As for the chores, i feel it teaches you structure, our parents buy us things,food,shelter,bills get paid ect, so doing chores around the house should be a contribution in every home, my son is 14 months old,and im already showing him how to clean up toys at the end of the night, he doesnt quite understand but he picks up on it ive seen him put a few toys back in the toy bin.
Deborah - posted on 02/10/2012
Granted I think shooting a laptop you just put $130 into is a COMPLETE waste of money (thus undermining his attempt to teach her the value of her expensive possessions), but if he bought it, and put his money into it, I guess that's his prerogative. Making her give it to someone else, or making her sell it on craigslist or something would have been other options for him.
When I first heard the daughter's letter, I actually felt a sort of kinship with her from my kid-hood days (I was always forced to do my chores, whereas my brother was not...I ended up doing his chores. He would get out of the 'fetch and carry' responsibility by saying "I"m playing (Insert game name) and I can't pause it.")
But when he addressed the laundry and bed-making issues, informing us that she was only responsible for her OWN bed and her OWN laundry, I lost all respect for his daughter's complaints. Two floors, double-checking the kitchen for being tidy, and dishes with a DISHWASHER? she has NO ROOM to complain!
I wonder how old the 'letter' was though. Recent or not? I think a little more should have been revealed about that -- I often vented on online diaries or privated blogs about my parents and my 'Cinderella Syndrome' (as I called it), but deep down I didn't mean everything I said, it was just a way to vent my frustrations without getting in 'trouble'. Kids are allowed to be frustrated, but it's up to the parents to teach them how to handle feeling that way towards others.
I also think it would have been more effective if he would have shot the laptop in front of her. (Having her mother present to make sure she didn't try and 'rescue' it)
Medic - posted on 02/10/2012
I say more power to him. I think that kids these days have an astronomical sense of intitlement. I also think that if she wants to post things like that on a public forum then he what he did was just teaching her a lesson.