Erin - posted on 05/20/2010 ( 14 moms have responded )
Ok so I was just reading the thread about an abortion agreement...saw the vasectomy post and it reminded me of an issue I am having.
My neighbor has been suffering from cysts (or something) and could benefit from the removal of her ovaries (maybe a hysterectomy?) Sorry I'm not real sure here, but regardless it would leave her barren. This woman has had multiple painful! episodes where these have burst and landed her in a hospital to get cauterized or something? She is uninsured, has had 2 kids, is 29 and on unemployment...She would be able to go on the spend down through the state with her medical bills being horribly expensive, but just the same...going into the hospital overnight twice in 6mos. isn't cheap either!
Sooo....her doctors do not want to cut it out because she is at the age where women are wanting babies? SHE HAS TWO! The first when she was 17, who was given up for adoption, and her youngest is going to be 8. She does not want more kids, is not in a relationship, and has no prospects for one...Who really would be having kids after 30 when she's already had 2??? IDK...
So then I have another friend whose boyfriend got a vasectomy before he ever had kids because he didn't want any.
Why is it that a WOMAN of "ideal?" birthing age is refused a procedure that could save her money and lots of pain even though she has expressed that she is DONE having kids, but a MAN can choose to get a vasectomy before ever having ONE? It's not like my friend has zero kids, she's had two...would the doctors be against the procedure if she was married and had a husband's support? Why the hell can HE choose to keep himself from having children, but she not? Her decision is for her health, his is for his personal well being? or pocket book? He didn't want to be "tricked" into having kids he didn't want. WHY??? I don't get it...