Weirdest controversial subject

Amanda - posted on 04/09/2010 ( 70 moms have responded )

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When reading this, I have noticed that some topics that I never imagined would become heated, do in fact get heated. What is the weirdest or most un-expected subject you have noticed get heated?



On other forums I have been on, there have always been the obvious heated subjects, Religion, circumsition, sexual orientation ect ect. But I think it's funny one parenting sites especially because the most unexpected subjects get touchy.



So far the most unexpected subject to get heated for me is pacifiers. Hmm... who knew?

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I guess the main reason I don't get why people get so heated is this... When my girls were 2, I used to have quite heated debates w/ a friend of mine about her co-sleeping and nursing her 2 year old son. I flat out thought it was wrong and had no problem telling her so. Well... I REALLY wish I could find her now and apologize profusely cuz guess what? I AM that mom this time around. ;)



And potty training debates? Last I knew I didn't have the power to control another person's bodily functions. ;)

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I honestly don't get why any parenting debate gets heated (unless someone was advocating literally whipping their kids or something). I get why things like religion get heated, but parenting? Every kid, family, and situation are different. I have strong feelings on certain subjects for MY family and will share my feelings, but my philosophy for others is 'your kid, your business'. I only get defensive because a lot of people don't share that philosophy. ;)

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The pole dancing depabe was... interesting... and very hostile... very offputting honestly... and a little sad to realize that some people really can't understand the concept of the word "debate" and insist upon attacking others no matter what... I never put in my 2 cents because I didn't feel like putting myself in the middle of all the hostility. Oiy...

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I used to be surprised when any of them got heated (call me naive), especially in this community. It's Parenting Debates and Hot Topics for crying out loud! You don't have to get angry or upset or resort to name-calling to have a debate. That is the whole point of debates: they have two sides, you argue without emotion either for or against and respect that other people don't agree. Now I'm surprised whenever a topic doesn't get heated, no matter what the subject. Apparently it is difficult for a few people to intelligently debate an issue without bringing up their own ridiculous notions that are based in fear or hate or other emotions rather than being based in fact. It also seems to me that mothers just love to tear shreds off each other for the pettiest things.

Brandi - posted on 04/09/2010

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I don't understand why extended breastfeeding discussions get heated. I actually don't even understand why it's a debate in our country. Like co-sleeping, it is a parent's choice.

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Lady - posted on 04/26/2010

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That's one way of looking at it I suppose lol! We are going to have to settle down soon though, my oldest is 12 this year and he's already been to 6 different schools, plus a bit ofhome schooling while in america, if we move to oz, that's got to be it!!

Lady - posted on 04/26/2010

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We lived in America twice, the first time was for about three months, the second time two years later for about the same. we were going to stay there for longer both times but the first time I had to come home to have a baby and the second time we ran out of money. My husband was training to be an airline pilot and it was cheaper to do it in America than the uk, plus the weather in Florida is better too. We moved from scotland to england when we were first married for work, then we moved three years later to a different part of england, then america, scotland, america, different part of scotland and back down now in england near to where we first started - and my husband is back in science, babies and the economy mean that the pilot thing has gone out the window although he still loves to fly and hopes one day to be an instuctor which is one of the reasons were looking into australia, he'd get payed alot more for his work and again flying is cheaper and the weathers better. So there's my life story, bet your sorry you asked now. lol!!!

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Crazy! Gillian, this is kinda off topic and feel free to ignore me, but, I'm curious........when, why and how long did you live in the US for? You guys move a lot?

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I agree Gillian! I grew up in South Shields so I have a Geordie accent, yet my husband who lives just down the road in Sunderland has a Mackem accent. My dad's lives in Wolverhampton with his fiance and even though it's so close to Birmingham the accents are so different!

Lady - posted on 04/26/2010

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It is bizarre that for such a small island like britain that we have so many different accents and yes you can almost tell what street people live on by their accent or at least what part of town they are from - very strange!

Except for my kids who have a mixture because we have moved about a lot. our scottish relatives think they sounfd english and our english friends think they sound scottish and when we lived in america my first daughter picked up a bit of an american twang which just made everbody laugh

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My uncle, aunty and cousins moved to New Zealand for a while and when they came home they had picked up the accent and it sounds very different from an Australian accent. I get more confused between Australian and South African accents!

Isobel - posted on 04/25/2010

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my personal favorite was the madness about letting kids put beer bottles in the fridge...

and on accents...it's my understanding that in England people can almost tell which street you live on based on your accent ;) and I can't tell the difference between Aussies and Kiwis either...sorry

Charlie - posted on 04/25/2010

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HOW DARE YOU CONFUSE US WITH NEW ZEALANDERS !!!

Hahaha Just kidding Holly :D

Although i dont think we sound alike at all save for a few words that are similar , its like when i watch an American show with American actors doing an "Aussie " accent and it sounds British , i find that hilarious !!

We also have different dialects in Australia , when i moved to the city people were constantly asking me what country i was from I would say " Australia !! " people from small towns generally have a stronger thicker Aussie accent than the city people .

Nicole - posted on 04/24/2010

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So true Holly! Yeah, I trolled the posts because, honestly, the debate was even more interesting than a video of a bunch of half naked acrobats sexily doing gymnastics on a vertical pole, to say the least!!! I, too, decided to leave my opinion to myself. I just know that if I had put in what I have to say, I surely would have been attacked. It was an entertaining read anyway. LOL

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You know, when I went to visit New Zealand 8 years ago I was told by the people I was staying with that under NO circumstance was I to say ANYTHING about how the New Zealand accent and the Australian accent are similar OR ask people which island (NZ or Australia) they were from because some people find it HIGHLY disresepctful to not just know. I was also told that they don't think the accents are even similar at all and only "ignorant Americans" think they are! :P Ever since that trip, I can pretty much tell if an accent is from NZ, Australia, or England, but I can't pinpoint the exact place (like for NZ the North Island and the South Island have slightlydifferent accents and the different parts of Australia do too, and so on).

Anyway, sorry to digress from the main topic, but I think accents are just so interesting! :D

Rosie - posted on 04/23/2010

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yes indeed it does gillian!! my husband talks to girl from england on facebook and they got into the whole accent thing a while back. she can't tell the difference between a southern american accent or any of the other american accents (new york, boston, midwestern etc), and she informed us that theres different accents over in england as well. no way i'd be able to tell the difference!!!

Lady - posted on 04/23/2010

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The gecko has a london accent, like from the soap eastenders. Hope that helps!

Rosie - posted on 04/23/2010

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yeah. it really bugs me to belinda, cause i'm one of those who cant tell the difference between a british and australian accent. heck, they both even say "mate" alot!! lol!! i really want to know where's the gecko is from now!! lol!!
yeah, that pole dancing thread was getting a little crazy.

Belinda - posted on 04/23/2010

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Oh dear...now I'M picturing him dancing....lol. I'm also terrible with accents....has anyone seen the commercial about where the Geico Gecko is "from"?

Krista - posted on 04/23/2010

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Now I'm picturing Ewan McGregor pole dancing.

...not that that's a BAD thing.

Lady - posted on 04/23/2010

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LMAO!!! Very weird I'm Scottish, but don't really have much of an accent, just mild like Euan Mcgeror or the last doctor who, don't know if you get that over there - But it was David Tenant.

Belinda - posted on 04/23/2010

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Don't you mean "pole athletics"...lol. Is it weird that I read all your posts (gillian) in a bad British accent?

Lady - posted on 04/23/2010

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Well I certainly didn't expect the pole dancing one to get so heated!!!

Sunny - posted on 04/21/2010

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OMFG! I just read one that i cant get my head around on the welcome page! A women saying NO MORE '-AYDEN' NAMES! She hates any child with the word ayden in the name. One lady replied that it was her first time one COM and wont be back because she was so offended!

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Belinda - I think it depends where you live. I know where I live in England people would think you're on something or mental if you painted your baby's nails lol!

Belinda - posted on 04/20/2010

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I'm going to paint my sons toenails black today....just for fun. Think I'll get any odd looks?

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To be honest I think the wierdest contoversial subject for me was painting babies toenails - to me just the fact that some people do it was wierd enough for me nevermind people getting heated about it.

Belinda - posted on 04/19/2010

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Well of course it does Tania...if you bf till age 5, you are gross. And if you ff...you are giving your child poison. Lol...

Tania - posted on 04/19/2010

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Potty training? Really....well like my mother always says is anyone really going to be able to tell when they start kindergarden.
Almost every parenting debate...although intersting at times....baffles me. I mean does it make a diiference in my life if you breastfeed your kid untill they ate 5. Does it make a difference in your life if I give my baby formula?

Belinda - posted on 04/19/2010

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Tampons? Really?!?! Wow...didn't see that one coming. And for carseats, they'd have flipped on me...my dd was turned at 11 months and my sone at 9 months. Doc said they were good to go, so they went!

Tah - posted on 04/19/2010

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everything..i never knew people had such views until the day i joined COM..and it should be named Circle of lions.....with a disclaimer(will bite)......but i always try to see other peoples point of view...but yes..painting toenails, and co-sleeping....wth

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Holy Camoly... I just read this very heated topic on whether or not to let a 13 year-old girl use tampons! There are a bunch of women going on and on about how tampons will kill you and/or make your reproduction system not work! Where the heck to these people get their info??? Oiy...

Melissa - posted on 04/13/2010

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I think people take things too serously on here. I was in a conversation about car seats that got heated. A girl asked for advice on car seats, then next i knew girls were criticizing for putting there children in forward facing too soon. It was sooo stupid. I feel just answer the original question and move on there really isn't a need to direct comments personally to another person. My opinion. I've actually started to think that people purposly start crap just to get a rise out of others.

Mary - posted on 04/13/2010

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Well, I've been away for a few days, but I was a bit shocked to find the topic of charitable contributions was such an inflammatory thing. Perhaps it was some of the more outrageous responses to the thread than the actual posts themselves.



I have to agree with Holly, the FUNNIEST thread ever on here (to me) was the toddler/beer in the fridge thread. I had to print that bad boy out and share it with the nurses at work (cause without tangible proof, they would have sworn I was making it up!).

Emma - posted on 04/11/2010

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@ Fiona
I agree with "mothers just love to tear shreds off each other for the pettiest things" its so true its like for us to be doing a good job all other ways of doing it must be wrong.
When we all know that's not the case at all , i have noticed that the mom's with the most kids seem to be more open to other ways of doing things, i think its because they see with there own kids that some things just don't work with all kids.

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I forgot about the one where the mom was going to tell her friend off for letting the toddler help put beer in the fridge (and help put other groceries away, but that fact didn't come out until later in the debate if I remember correctly). So many people were trying to say that letting a toddler put beer away was going to make them an alcoholic... Oiy...



I also thought the debates over putting rice cereal in bottles were quite ridiculous...

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Painting baby's toenails was a very heated debate (not in here though, on the Welcome board), and quite pointless in my opinion... Before that I never even thought twice about it (I do paint ALL my daughters' toenails as well as my own - we make parties out of it!).

LaCi - posted on 04/10/2010

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You guys really aren't missing anything on the young moms thread. total snooze fest. ;) I'm about to delete it.

Krista - posted on 04/10/2010

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I remember that debate, Charlene! It was bizarre!

And yeah, the kid-leash controversy baffles the hell out of me. Even if you don't want to use one, what the heck do you care of someone does?

Charlene - posted on 04/10/2010

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Not in this group, but on the Welcom to CoM's page there was a very heated debate about letting a toddler/child help to put beer in the fridge. I really didn't think that would be such a hot button issue.



I'm too young for Young Moms community. I'll be 20 next month, do you think they will let me join early????? ;P

Emma - posted on 04/09/2010

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Baby Rains got ott with all the comparisons to dog leads think i better stop saying potty training too as its like house training a puppy ....lol

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Breastfeeding in public, extended breastfeeding, painting toenails - I thought that was a real non-issue and was stunned at the heated debate!

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Children on leashes, pacifiers, juice in bottles at bedtime, co-sleeping..

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