Why "debate" co-sleeping

OhJessie - posted on 06/06/2011

Personally, I would jump in to a discussion like that only because co-sleeping has never been the norm before, and in fact when my children were little it was seen as genuinely abusive for the most part. Crib companies and others *still* keep touting incorrect stories about co-sleeping deaths, which always turn out to have nothing to do with co-sleeping. So my purpose in any such discussion would only be to reassure mothers who DO want to do it that there's nothing wrong with it and they shouldn't be bullied out of it. Those who don't want to do so, that's their choice; so long as they don't try to bully the ones who do, no biggie. But as I say, the issue matters to me since I was basically denied the pleasure for the first couple years because of wrong-headed norms and parenting magazines that lied about it continually.

Cynthia - posted on 06/06/2011

Because there is always a crop of new parents coming up who are having to exam for themselves all those questions my generation did in the 80's. For many first time parents its the first time they have realised there are many ways to parent, so are good some are bad and some really don't matter such as co sleeping.

Jen - posted on 06/05/2011

Why ? My personal opinion is that some people just love to get in other people's affairs. Now this can be ok when we talk about the lives SAVED BY VACCINATIONS but when dealing with a non-lethal topic like cosleeping, some people (on both sides) just enjoy feeling superior.

Minnie - posted on 06/02/2011

Like the circumcision thread that reached over 1000 posts. We got over and over "this is soooo pointless!" But people got educated, quite a few changed their stance, others admitted they had a lot to rethink.

Jaime - posted on 06/01/2011

You cannot gain knowledge or invoke progress without questioning what is familiar to you. Believe it or not, you WILL learn something from every debate you participate in. Repeating the debate over and over is indicative of the fact that not enough has been learned about it and therefore more discussion is necessary. Debating is healthy...you should never take something at face value.

Good Day! - posted on 05/31/2011

Discussions can be very beneficial, but this is not a discussion community. It's a debating community. No one minds discussing or offering advice if that's what the OP wants. But most people are here to debate. If you'd like to discuss co-sleeping methods, that would be better suited for an AP community.

*Fluffy Bunnies - posted on 05/31/2011

Well, if you want to debate more in depth aspects of co-sleeping then start a new thread :) I haven't seen a co-sleeping thread in this community for a while.

Cynthia - posted on 05/31/2011

because we all love the drama and most of us dont want to think too hard on a topic. we do this for fun not work.

Melissa - posted on 05/31/2011

No, I wonder why discuss the same for or against? There are more than a dozen posts of the same topic on here. Why not discuss some aspect of the co-sleeping. Like, which safety measure works the best, or what product for co-sleeping offers you the greatest amount of shut-eye?

Or in the against category, which monitor allows you greater piece of mind, or which night light seems to work the best.

Good Day! - posted on 05/31/2011

Why debate anything then?

Because sometimes it changes people's minds. I was told that under no condition was I to have an infant in the bed. Therefore, I didn't with my oldest....until the first time I fell asleep while breastfeeding. But I was still concerned that it was 'wrong.' Now I know that it's just a parenting style that is actually beneficial.