Ashley - posted on 11/24/2011 ( 9 moms have responded )
I was recently catching up on my Parenthood episodes and one particular one stood out to me. The little girl is 7 in the show I believe and the parents always let her win. So when her father finally had her lose she threw a fit. The father I believe handled the situation right and that to me was not what made me wonder. It was that at that age shouldn't she have already been taught about being a good loser? I know in many childrens sports and such that points/goals are not counted to give children a chance to all participate and letting it be about fun, but when we take away wins and losses do we not take away the kids learning about being a good winner and good losers?
I let my son win at games till about 4ish, at first I let him win to give him a sense of accomplishment and I knew it made him feel good, then I WON for the first time and he freaked but from that I was able ot teach him to say good game mommy... though that was over many losses. I still let him win on occasion but mostly we play fairly, and he has learned not to show his cards or how not ot tell me what his next move is ect. but that is because now he knows he likes to win and has figured out how to do it.
Does anyone here think that we should let our kids grow up without losing? Does anyone here keep score of a "scoreless" game? Isn't it human nature to want to win? and shouldn't we be teaching our kids to be gracious winners and gracious losers?