Woman has abortion to stop morning sickness

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Cynthia - posted on 04/27/2011

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I had Hyperemesis with my 3rd pregnancy...EVERYTHING she described I had..I felt..after my 6th hospital visit I was admitted..was there one week 2 figure out what 2 do..wat 2 give me..nothing was working..Finally they gave me an old drug called Anzamet???dont kno if im spellin it right....but it worked..so they had 2 put a pick line in my arm..that led 2 my heart so the medicine would be pumping 24/7...I had 2 carry this bag everywhere..even in the shower..it was literally attached 2 me....But it worked...Dramatic...but not worth getting an abortion...I stopped reading the story I dont feel sorry for her..AT ALL...I went thru it n yes it was awful...but now I look at my beautiful..silly babygirl and I like 2 believe that I suffered so she wouldnt have 2 going thru life...thats what a MOTHER does..she makes sacrifices..loves her children no matter what...I would go thru it again...

Jenn - posted on 04/26/2011

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Britanny- It is not normal morning sickness like you seem to be thinking, it is an actual lifethreatening condition. I don't blame her for aborting but if she desperately wants a child i think she should consider adoption or a surrogate. It seems silly to take that chance again when she clearly knows the consequences. Personally i wouldn't do it again.
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Holly - posted on 04/18/2012

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i am 9 weeks and cant keep a sip of water down let alone much food i puke like 20 times a day with a hardend stomach and esophugus because of it now that is cracked causeing me to puke straight blood but my baby is fine i feel horrible 24/7 but nothing (in my mind )is a bad a stopping that little heart in my belly just i am not puking nooooo way i love my baby too much i would go through my whole pregnancy like this as long as my baby is okay i wont evn take meds i dont believe in it but thats just me

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After reading this article, it makes me feel so lucky and grateful that I never had any morning sickness when I was pregnant. I think the woman in the article should ask her twin sister to be a surrogate for her, if she can't get her hands on the proper medication that can help her through the pregnancy herself. Her egg, hubby's sperm, sister's uterus. I mean, if the twin is willing to spend 9 months caring so intensely for her sister, then she may as well just be the one pregnant and spend that entire time with each other, sharing the pregnancy. Hope that wasn't just a great big run-on sentence. I'm tired and too damned lazy to scroll back up this tiny box to check lol

Mary Renee - posted on 04/27/2011

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I understand the first abortion. The second abortion? It seems weird that if she was about to get through not ONE but TWO previous pregnancies with the support of her family.

I hate to make this comparison especially since this is a very serious situation, but do you remember being sick in school? Like so sick that you had to go home? Well, I had a single mom so having her pick me up from school was a big deal because it meant she had to leave work. And you better believe that if I was too sick to be in school, I was too sick to play around at home. You know what I mean?

If you're sick, you're sick. Stop playing around with this illness if it's really that bad, and if it's NOT really that bad, then you shouldn't be having abortions. I'm pro-choice and of the understanding that everyone's first abortion is forgivable... but subsequent abortions (unless the pregnancy is the result of rape)... eh, not quite as forgivable.

I get this man wants children of his own, did they talk about this before their marriage? Did she explain her illness to him? They should look into surrogacy.

Amy - posted on 04/27/2011

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I understand the desire of a woman to have her own child, but if her condition is threatening her life, I'd look into other ways of having a baby. Especially since she already has two children. If she still wants another, maybe find a surrogate and then nurse herself or something. Obviously if it's happened twice and she made it through with two children, she may be thinking that just one more time she'd be able to make it. ??? I don't know. I feel bad for her, but at the same time she already has two happy healthy children. Some things just aren't meant to be, but hard to convince your mind/heart of that.

Charlie - posted on 04/27/2011

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I know but even putting it in the same degree as say severe morning sickness doesnt come close to HG in fact it shouldnt be called morning sickness at all it only trivializes it .

yes she is crazy to keep trying but she has every reason to abort , I just hope that people can stop putting it in the same category .

Charlie - posted on 04/27/2011

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I know but even putting it in the same degree as say severe morning sickness doesnt come close to HG in fact it shouldnt be called morning sickness at all it only trivializes it .

yes she is crazy to keep trying but she has every reason to abort , I just hope that people can stop putting it in the same category .

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I think she is incredibly selfish, she knows she has a very high likelihood she will suffer HG again in this pregnancy and she knows it makes her so ill she can't do anything including looking after her existing children. Also if her HG makes her so desperate for an abortion not once but twice I cannot understand why she thinks it would be any different this time as often the symptoms of HG get worse with each subsequent pregnancy not better.

Also just to point out there is no reason she can't get medication to help ease her symptoms, if her doctor is being an arse she simply has to request to see another doctor as is her right. I have friends who were given anti sickness meds due to severe morning sickness and I myself was given anti-sickness injections in hospital to help with the sickness my pre-e caused - and as HG is so much worse than bad morning sickness any half decent doctor would medicate her as it would be severely affecting her health and that of the babies for her not to be!

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Poor lady but if she's continuing to try to have a new baby (she has two children already), then there's something seriously wrong with her mentally & emotionally.

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That is the stupidest reason ever. I lost weight during my pregnancy with my daughter 25 lbs in fact. I was extremely sick the entire time. I was lucky to get in a single meal and keep it down.

Charlotte - posted on 04/26/2011

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I agree with her aborting the baby, but I also think her husband needs to look into other ways of having a child and not put his wife through all that pain. She needs to stop getting pregnant.

Christina - posted on 04/26/2011

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I can understand her aborting. That could actually have killed her. However, I think she is stupid as hell to try for another child. I can understand her thinking with a different father, it might be different and conceiving the second time. But after the second termination, she should have gotten her tubes tied. Abortion is not suppose to be used because parents are being stupid. Abortion is suppose to be used to "right" a situation when there are no other options. Using abortion because your life is in jeopardy, like this woman's was, then purposely putting yourself back in the situation makes me sick.

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Yes, I understand that it's a severe condition, Loureen. That's why I think she should stop trying to get pregnant.

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Why keep getting pregnant if she knows she cant carry the child because she gets too sick. Seems to me the woman isnt very sensible.

Charlie - posted on 04/25/2011

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It's not morning sickness lets clear that right up , it IS a life threatening condition .......

Amber - posted on 04/25/2011

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This debate is going on in DMs. She has HG, which is a pregnancy complication and life threatening to the mother and the child. It is not just morning sickness.



Mom's in the other thread that have had it say that there is medication that her country isn't prescribing for her. I think her doctors need to step up and give her the care and support that she needs so that she is not gravely ill and in a position where she feels it is her only option.



And I hope that her new husband is now educated enough to not panic and leave the decision on her because he's scared.



I had to be medicated for morning sickness, and it was miserable. I can't imagine having it at a more severe level for an entire pregnancy. Vomiting up to 40 times a day for 9 months has got to be overwhelming.



I think she should have changes in place before getting pregnant again. But if she has a strong support system (both personal and professional) then I understand her urge to have a child with her new husband.



She did get through 2 pregnancies successfully with this disease by having a proper support system in place.

Candi - posted on 04/25/2011

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with her condition and all the new technology out there, it seems like the doctors could do something for this woman. Maybe she should spend the first few months in a birthing center/home/hospital type place so she can be monitored and taken care of sos he will stay hydrated. I don't know. Its severe and so sad for her family. I hope she is able to go through with it.

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