is there any pentecostal/apostolic mothers i can relate to?

Callie - posted on 05/19/2011 ( 20 moms have responded )

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I'm pentecostal, so is my husband and i want my child to grow up in our church and not grow up wishing his parents weren't so close to God and church. Im also the only pentecostal in my family, besides my husband, and everyone judges me and think im wrong.

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Susan - posted on 02/07/2013

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My only issue with women not wearing pants is the fact that in Biblical times, everyone wore robes - men and women. Pants is a later thing. The difference was, when men needed to, say, ride a camel, they would hitch the robe up and it looked a little like pants. But other than that, men's clothing, at the time Deuteronomy was written, was very, very similar to what we would call a "dress" today.

Megan - posted on 03/23/2012

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Hi Amanda!

I completely understand your point of view because it is what you believe and I respect that. I myself have completed many bible courses that are very exact according to Theologists. I know that verse and am very famaliar with it but God wasn't trying to be so " Literal" as it says just like most of the rest of the Bible. You can't just open any book in the Bible and read and then interperate what the whole chapter was about by just one or two verses. My study Bible explains that God was warning the people that whomever he made Man, or woman that it was to stay that way. No one was allowed to reverse their sexual roles that God gave them. Today many people have " role rejections" or sex changes like we call it and THATS what God was talking about...you were not allowed to changes clothes back and forth as a way to change your sex God gave you. It wasn't the clothing that offended God but the purpose behind wearing it....because they were trying to be the opposite sex. I am also not trying to be mean because I love all my fellow brothers and sisters in the Lord! But I just feel prompted by the Holy Spirit to explain this......thanks...:o)

Megan - posted on 03/20/2012

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I attend a Pentecostal church in Canada. I do wear skirts to church, not because I have to to please God, but because I like them. Those types of rules about how a woman is not to be dressed in a man's attire and vice versa was in the old testement under The Law. Jesus set us free from all the so called "rules" of following God, and made it clear that it's what is in your heart that God sees. I am sooooo in love with Jesus and I study his word and pray everyday. I didn't grow up in a christian home and being that way I know that it is those types of rules that mean nothing that turn people off from God. They think he is this Mean thing with a whip ready to crack you when you mess up! God Loves us no matter what we wear, and no matter how many mistakes we make....you just have to ask him to forgive you!! I am focusing on raising my kids with the bottom line being " God is Love"....he is always there for us, he deserves for us to give our whole selves to him, and for us to try our best. I am not telling them about a list of rules with no biblical support. God bless you and you are in my prayers!! Raising little ones is definitly not easy!! :o)

Faith - posted on 12/24/2011

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stand strong!!! they will see the light u shine an respect u for it! my family hated it when i got saved. an they would make comments like u dont have to wear skirts, an u can wear make up, u dont got to be like those church ppl but i knew it was in the bible an God wanted me to do it. an thats all that matters. but now after so many years they see i m not going back to what i use to be! it gets easier year by year!!

Tammy - posted on 05/20/2011

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Hi Callie, I coverted years ago, and am the only skirt wearer in my side of the family. My sister makes attempts to promote My 9 yr old daughter to " its ok, your mom is not here" and thinks it ok to wear pants to church, even when I was not pentecostal, I NEVER wore pants to church.. if I am offending anyone, my apologies, but my husband was raised in a apostolic pentecostal church since he was 10 and is commited to our beliefs more than my family. I am too judged, but isn't that to be expected as followers of Christ? hold your ground and know that you are the one who stands before God, he only is who you answer too, aside from your husband, and a boss at work..lol.. anyhoo, my church is old fashioned Pentecostal where the women are skirt wearers and holy rollers as others call us.

God Bless and be strong in the Spirit!

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Krimlen - posted on 02/18/2014

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hi
well sometimes we hav to sacrifice a bit .like the above post .not wearing pants..giving up jewels...u may not get that respect but god reapects us.there is a verse which saya in old test. God had respect on them (children of isael)
so here we become gods children...stay strong...raise godly children..god will bring many siuls thru us..we might not know..when people see us they shud see Jesus....god bless...

Carla - posted on 10/27/2013

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Hi Tripp--it is sad that men who claim to have a relationship with Jesus don't. They suck poor unsuspecting women in, and once you're married, it's too late. Happened with my first husband. I pray you are healing, and getting the children back in the swing of things, God-wise. It is difficult for children to watch their parents fight, abuse and demean each other, then say 'let's go to church!' I know you're hurting because your daughter is acting out, but pray for them and don't harp or preach. They have a bad taste in their mouth, thinking that God is responsible for the sorrows you all are going through. It takes a long time, and maturity to understand GOD didn't do this, but He allows it, because we have free will. Your stance for Him will show the children that there is good in God, and that if they live truly for Him that they won't end up fighting and in divorce/separation. Just love on them, this has been traumatic for them as well. Let them see you pray, reading your Bible, and applying the Word for the spiritual healing you need. Nothing witnesses better to people than the life led, not the words spoken.

I want to leave you with the story of my grama and grampa:

Grama got saved before Grampa did. He was an alcoholic. He, too, forbade Grama to take the children OR herself to church. She talked with her pastor and decided she had to disobey Grampa on this one, and attended evening church. Grampa had told her that if she went again, he'd come in and drag her out by her hair. Sure enough, about 1/2 hour into the service, she heard the back door creak open. She didn't dare even look up. About halfway down the center aisle the Spirit of God hit Grampa and he went sprawling down. Grama said he was down a good 15 minutes or so, but when he got up, he was sober and saved! He went on to become a beloved pastor, husband and father.

So have faith--God is never done with us until we die. He loves us so much more than we can imagine!

God bless, honey

Tripplanningmom - posted on 09/30/2013

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I'm an Apostolic mom. I am separated because of severe emotional, psychological, and verbal abuse. My husband was in the church when we first married but then slowly walked away. In the midst of that process, he forbade me and the kids from going to church. He was raised in the church and his mom is a prayer warrior so I know that he knows what the right thing to do is. Back then I had a lot of fear for my children's and my well-being if I disobeyed him. Any sense of self-worth I had had been stolen from me so I was not able to stand up for my desire to be in the house of the Lord with my church family. Eventually, I HAD TO separate myself from him and returned to church. Because of the time away from church, my older children (boys) refused to even go into the church and walked home while my youngest (daughter) went and continued to do so. Recently, however, she stopped going to church and has begun to make changes such as in how she dresses. The only things left that is recognizable as the daughter I have always known is her hair b/c she has not cut it. I have not had the privilege of homeschooling my children, so they have always been in public school. My daughter is being influenced by one girl especially who stands right in front of me and whispers to her things to tell her mom (me). The most recent was the "I don't go to church anymore. You can't make me do something I don't believe in.". That was NOT my daughter saying that. She repeated what the one girl whispered for her to say (she whispered loud enough for me to hear). Ever since then I have had issues with my daughter and with each change has come a higher level of rebellion and change in her composure. She is no longer the humble and innocent little girl she was up until that point. It is breaking my heart because this is not the life my daughter has known. The one girl is using her as a "mannequin" to change her into the image she wants for my daughter. I have cautioned my daughter and let her know that it is those kind of people who portray themselves as a friend and then will turn around and leave you as soon as they successfully change who you are. I dedicated my children's lives to the Lord a long time ago. I have put my foot down with satan and reminded him that my children are NOT his and that he can't have them. He seems to be fighting harder and harder, but I have faith that the Lord will have victory in my children's lives.

Candace - posted on 08/29/2013

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I just came to the apostolic faith by what I read in ny bible and a lot of research. It's frustrating because there is not an apostolic Pentecostal church within 2hrs drive of me.

Susan - posted on 02/07/2013

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My family is the same way. But after a few years, they are starting to come around.

Callie - posted on 04/19/2012

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Thank you Lisa, thats what ive learned to do. Everyone has learned to accept it because im not gonna change for anyone but God. It is great meeting other apostolics, because its hard to find them these days that are true.

Lisa - posted on 04/16/2012

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I am an apostolic woman from KY. It is so wonderful to find women of same/similar faith.
Although I was raised in this faith, I have have a renewed belief in long skirts and uncut hair. In school, and occasionally around my atheist sister-in-law, questions arise, "why?" "how come?" my favorite was the one that my parents weren't watching so couldn't I do whatever I wanted? I always tried to smile and explain in the best and easiest way possible what I believed and why I believed it. Finally, through time, they began to realize that this was/is who I am, nothing they said or asked would change my mind.
Just keep a strong and tender heart and pray that one day your answer or your strength will change their hearts and minds.

Megan - posted on 03/26/2012

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Hi,

I hope I didn't come off rude because I most definitely wasn't trying to be! Ok, I think that if your denomination wants to wear skirts, etc. then that is great. You are doing no harm to anyone else or yourself by doing so. My daughter's piano teacher believes the same and is such a lovely woman! But please remember that all of us christian " pants wearer's" are out doing great work for the Lord and have dedicated our lives to serving him as well, and we are not damned to Hell for doing so....remember that the high priests rejected Jesus and didn't believe he was the Messiah because he didn't do a lot things according to custom, he felt that it was whats on the inside that counts. We must be careful not to be too religious and end up like dead mans bones as Jesus referred to the high priests.....we are only worthy of Jesus' love not by what we wear or what we do but by the Grace of God and that alone! God bless you girls! keep on keepin' on for the Lord! :o)

Frances - posted on 03/25/2012

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I agree with Amanda; however I believe that it is also important not to forget the male-female roles God has for us. We should not focus on just the external and forget our attitudes and actions. It is also good that if different versions have different interpretations of a passage, to look it up in the original language. Like Jesus said, we should not be focused on cleaning the outside of a cup or platter and the inside be filthy. However, we don't want a clean inside with the outside dirty either.

Amanda - posted on 03/23/2012

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@ Callie, stay strong Sister! The Lord will honor you for being faithful and keeping his word. My family doesnt understand either and all we can do is pray that God opens up their understanding. If you ever need to talk or someone to pray for you, feel free to email me :) arascon88@yahoo.com

Amanda - posted on 03/23/2012

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@Megan Deuteronomy 22:5 The woman shall not wear that which pertaineth unto a man, neither shall a man put on a woman's garment: for all that do so are abomination unto the LORD thy God. Notice the word ABOMINATION. God is the same today as he was yesterday and will be tomorrow. God never changes, if it is an abomination which is worse than sin I dont think he would just change his mind and say oh I guess its ok now. Not trying to be rude at all in any way just trying to help a fellow sister out :). If you havent already you should check out the book "My hair my glory." Itll help you understand more how our world slowly started changing and how women began wearing pants. Hope this helped

User - posted on 03/22/2012

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I am Apostolic. I am trying to raise my children this way too but my husband is not in church so it is very hard at times. I teach them to live by the holiness standards but it is very hard to control the atmosphere we are in. My mom and her side of the family is not in church and she has fought with me at times about how I teach them. She has even cut my daughters hair without my permission. It has gotten quite frustrating at times!

Callie - posted on 03/22/2012

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@Megan, thank you, it is very hard to grow children the right way. The pressure is alot with my family, because of not wearing pants, makeup, jewelry, and not cutting my hair. My mom has literally turned against me and my family.

Frances - posted on 02/22/2012

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I believe in studying the Word and thinking for yourself. I have read my Bible through 34 times. If your beliefs are grounded in the Word of God, when people change, you will stay the same.

Anna - posted on 02/22/2012

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Hi! I'm pentecostal from Ohio...pleased to meet your acquaintance. - it seems i have found everything but the real oneness/pentecostal people. The bible states there is but one god!! trinity is not anywhere in the word of god. Study the word and not what you heard!!!

Frances - posted on 05/20/2011

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I am not pentecostal, but I am conservative holiness. I wear skirts or dresses only too. My parents and brothers do not go to church or they go to a very liberal church. Stand firm for what you believe.

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