Claudia - posted on 07/17/2009 ( 1 mom has responded )
With all the good and the bad that life brings on the daily basis, I realized that I lost myself in the routine of life, not even focusing on one particular day at a time, even when I became a new Mom. It was all just new concerns/worries about doing the right thing by listening to some and not listening to others as I tried to figure out what would work best in my life. Fast forward almost 11 years later and I just figured it out, last summer!
I needed to figure out who I was and who I wanted to become as an individual, if I am to expect my kids to do the same, and have a better life than what I had.
As my son has entered the "tween" years, it's been a wake up call. I don't want to lose myself so much in concern for his decisions as I learn to loosen the ties, and then having him think that my whole life as his mother was one filled with worry and overprotection. I want my kids (I have 2 now) to grow up and lead their own lives knowing that their mom is going to manage just fine on her own, regardless of any circumstances and so learn to create the same for their lives.
Back to the "tween" years and my son; I recently read that this period (between 9 and 13 years, I believe) is a time of tremendous metabolic changes in a child's development, almost as big as the toddler years. My son has gone through and is still going through a lot of 'things' socially as well as physically, and figured that I better get my wits about myself as a role model for him before he becomes an original teenager (doesn't leave a big window of time).
So I'm curious as to how other Moms are doing if they are already in this place, or thinking about how they will handle things when they get to this place. As well, what you're doing for yourself as a woman and role model...