Alone again...

Nikki - posted on 05/06/2010 ( 2 moms have responded )

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Honestly,
I truly support my future husband and father of our son.. but honestly these hours are brutal. When hes gone I do everything, when hes home he tries to stay up so that he can see us. I know he needs to sleep and we do take our nap times together.. when our son naps, we get to snuggle for a few hours and that helps but.. were getting married in July this year and I feel so... disconnected. When hes home its wonderful everythings great. But when hes gone it sucks honestly. My best friend is putting his life on the line for crappy pay and no benefits. It just doesnt make sense to me. How can the ghetto cities not pay these guys. They work so hard, and such long hours. Half the time these men have 2nd jobs, ( which mine does) and our calender is just filled with shifts. I just want my fiance to feel good about him self. He feels like hes working his tail end off and not getting anywhere in life. I re-assure him everything is perfect because in reality, we are all healthy and we have each other and were taken care of- but he still stresses. I know im rambiling but- really.. 11:45 at night ive been alone since 4:00 with a toddler. Theres only so many childrens books you can read, cars you can race, meals you can cook, clothes to put away, sweeper to run, taking the dog out.. before theres just nothing left to do. . I usually do take this time for ME. which us moms know we never have, but after being ALONE for soo many days in a row.. your me time is over and your lonely.. I hope and pray that my fiance gets to the place where we both would like him to be. Until then.. we keep up our prayers.

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Danielle - posted on 05/24/2010

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The shifts suck, the pay sucks, and most of the time their job is thankless. But they love it and we love them. I have been with my fiance for four years now, we have 5 kids between us and three of the five are in sports. I can't even begin to count the number of times a week I am on the phone calling my mom or my sister asking them to help out with the kids cause we are both working or cause he got an SRT call out and two of the kids have games at different fields. Really the only thing I can tell you is try taking up a hobby or maybe a job you can do from home. Selling things on ebay, gardening, painting, reading, maybe a dog sitting business. All of those things help. I don't have much me time with 5kids and a full time job working 12hr shifts but I love to garden when I do get a little time and the best part is it is something my kids and I can enjoy together.

Rachel - posted on 05/08/2010

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I know how you feel. My boyfriend has been a reserve officer for a while now. They can't afford to pay him so he works when he can. He hasn't gotten another full time job because it wouldn't work around his schedule at the department so he has a part time job. We aren't engaged cause I don't think he'll ask without a ring which we can't afford. I'm sooo proud of him for wanting to be an officer but it's so hard. We live with his mom cause I wont let him give up on his dream and throw it away to do something else with his life that he's not happy with. All I want more than anything is to be his wife and have a place together for our family, but I can't let him give up his dream for me and the baby. I want him to be happy too.