Is this forum for mom's of PO or wives of PO's?

Laura - posted on 11/20/2008 ( 12 moms have responded )

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My husband is a Police Officer and we have a son. Does that count for this forum?

Thanks!

Laura

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Rebecca - posted on 12/04/2008

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It is nice to read these and be able to talk to other wives of police officers. My husband decided to give up his law practice and become a police officer at 32. We had a son a year later. I am glad that he has been able to fulfill his dream but often feel like a single parent. His department is changing the schedule in January so that they will have 12 hour shifts. I think this might be better because he will have more days off but on the days he works he will not see our son at all.

Laura - posted on 11/26/2008

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So I really like that all of you get the Copatude. Everyone is a scum bag, trust no one and don't let your child out of your sight. Emotions only get in the way and throw an investigation off track. WOW! We really ARE good women. It's nice to know that you are not alone.

Nikki - posted on 11/24/2008

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Oh I am completely "used to being the one with the kids" since I was a USMC wife we could never make plans or if I did have plans I had to have a back up since the marine corp never gave much notice I just do get frustrated and need to vent every now or then Im just glad my hunny is going to do what he has always wanted too!! From the moment I met him I knew he would always wear some sort of uniform his instructor said he would never be able to do undercover for the simple fact he looks like a cop:) I think its the military High and Tight hair cut:) well ladies enough for now gonna do the daily cleaning while the kiddo's are at school.....Love chatting by the way where are you guys from? Im in North Carolina just outside Charlotte take care

Dundee - posted on 11/23/2008

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Thanks Coral. Copitude is definately my husband. I just need to sit back & relax & stop worrying. I really like the circle of moms. Talking helps alot. Especially when your husband doesn't understand, or has selective hearing:) Got to love a cops wife. We all must be angels to do this daily:)

Coral - posted on 11/23/2008

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I totally know what you mean Dundee.. I kinda force it out of my husband... It makes him mad sometimes but he has to let it out. In the beginning he would bring his copitude home at times... I just had to remind him to leave it in the squad car. I think our son has helped him a lot though. Just having something force him to be himself when he is home. That swing shift stuff must be hard! They rotate days every 4 months but only change the shift if they put in for it here. My husband has worked evenings the entire 7 years he has been an officer and just in the past 3 or 4 has gotten used to it.

Dundee - posted on 11/23/2008

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I am a wife of a police officer. He works swing shift. One month of each shift. It is very difficult to keep a child quiet on all these different shifts. Being a police officer's wife is very trying, but rewarding. My only concern is that my husband NEVER shows any emotions. I always say I can never tell if you are mad, sad, or glad. Is this typical. Police life takes getting used to.

Coral - posted on 11/23/2008

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Well my husband has been an officer for 7 years now... his only career too. He dabled a bit in special investigations which here is basically undercover narcotics, a very scarey time for me... thank god he is out of that :) but now he is back on the road and in line for corporal :: fingers crossed:: He works in Gainesville,FL about 110,000 population and we live just outside of the city to "get away" from his workplace. His famliy lives nearby so it is nice there is some family close by. Mine is more then a 6 hour drive south so it can be hard at times for me being away from them. I almost wish we were away from all of our family just to make it equal.. and give me a little sanity ;) I stay home with our son now. I worked until he was 8 months old but he STILL is not sleeping through the night so I had a tough time getting up with him all night then going to work all day. My husband works nights so for a while there we really didn't see eachother and neither one of us got any kind of a break. It was nice because we were able to keep our son out of daycare, but for out relationship and our lack of sleep it was difficult. So we finally decided to take the pay cut and see each other more and get a little bit more sleep.... atleast now my husband does.. I still am up all night with our boy and bright and early in the morning. He is one active little man. Just over the last few days he's been taking steps on his own and standing up without holding on to anything. I know we are doomed once he really gets going. He's already into everything on his hands and knees!



Nikki... Atleast him being away this weekend is getting him a little bit closer to the finish line :) Just wait though, even when he starts work he is still going to need break from it all. It can be very stressfull for them, expecially when they are just starting out. Don't be suprised if you are "stuck" with the kids a little more often like this weekend. They always have continued training classes and over time assignments that most times are mandatory. Like I said before, life as a cops' wife can be hard at times... but great at others ;)

Laura - posted on 11/22/2008

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Nikki - do you have other mom's in the area that you can trade babysitting duties with? Or maybe other wives of the Dept where he's commissioned? I know that helped me a lot when my hubby was working homicide. I NEVER saw him. It will get better once he's done with training :-) Hang in there!



Hi Coral - love the pic!! It's been his only career so about 23 years. He's in his mid-forties and is chief in a village of about 6,000 on the outskirts of Cincinnati. We moved away from all of our family and friends to take this little venture. We will probably be here until my 12 year old graduates then he wants to move to a bigger department. We'll see.



What's your story?

I really like this circle. I'm usually on my mobile phone and I can't pull up groups on it for some reason though.

Have a great night ladies!

Nikki - posted on 11/22/2008

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Thank you so much I will def be using this Im sure like this weekend Kinda bummed he had class all week plus Friday night and today from 9:00am untill probably 11pm so another weekend Im stuck with the kids AAAWWWWHHH oh well

Coral - posted on 11/21/2008

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Hope so, I am a wife of a Police Officer too. We have a 10 month old little boy. Life as a "cops" wife can definitly have it's challenges.. but also it's advantages. Best of luck to your husband with the Police Academy :) Laura how long has your husband been an officer?

Laura - posted on 11/21/2008

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Wow! I'm not on here a lot, but I will listen cause that's a crazy schedule. And life change. Being a military wife is hard enough, but a cop's wife is crazy too. I think this is a great place to share common things as police officers go through so much stuff that isn't normal. Like a military guy, only different . . . both extremely stressful but different. Use this and me as a resource!

Nikki - posted on 11/20/2008

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I would say its for anyone who has a police officer in the family:) Im new and Im sure Im gonna need some to chat with Im 29 almost shhhhh 30 and my hubby is 27 we have been together for alittle over 6 years I have been the military wife and now soon to be the police officer wife My husband has always talked about how much he would love to become an officer well life happens and dreams get put on hold (boy 6 and girl4) once out of the marine corp we went back home to Mich just to realize the economy sucked then we packed once again and moved to NC here my husband became a plumber which was great money then about 5 mths ago he decided to go for his dream and was given the opportunity to be sponsered thru BLET school he doesnt graduate untill May and I really dont think it has set in yet since it happened so fast sometimes I have a hard time dealing with him being gone to work all day and school at night so thats the long version as to why Im here sometimes I just need someone to talk to or complain to :)

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