Slackers!

Isobel - posted on 01/27/2010

a little slow on the uptake here but...this is my nephew's T shirt ( I LOVE it)

http://www.facebook.com/album.php?aid=10...

I thought we had made a deal earlier that whoever made dinner didn't have to clean the kitchen...as it turns out, my boyfriend heard "load the dishwasher" so I am still stuck doing all the pots and pans as well as cleaning all the counters and the sink...slacker

JL - posted on 01/16/2010

Flush it and say good riddens!

Kelley - posted on 01/16/2010

Joy you say your mom was anal retentive about the cleaning....My mom's mom was too (abusively so), I think that's why she just rebelled and I wasn't made to do any particular cleaning routine. (some discipline in that area sure would've been appreciated, I just didn't know it then)

I have no regrests in the $'s department of what my parents did or did not have, they were good at loving me. So they couldn't have given me a better gift to face this world even if they had a million.

I hope to give my kids that kind of priceless gift.

I think I'm goin to flush this guilt crap right down the toilet where it belongs.

JL - posted on 01/16/2010

My hubby and I saved up and paid for most of our wedding and it was a very small but beautiful wedding. I really did not see the need in wasting money on some huge overpriced event.



My parents did not pay for me to go to college. They helped as much as they could with my expenses, but my college was paid for through scholarship and loans I took out that I just recently paid off. I also worked fulltime to pay for my books and other expenses. My parents helped out by letting me live with them while I was in college and letting me borrow one of their cars since I could not afford a vehicle. THey never bought a car for me so I never owned a car until I got out of college moved out on my own, went to work, and bought my own car at age 20.



As soon as I was legally able to get a job I went to work in junior high. The only rule my parents had was that my working could never get in the way of my education and if it did they would insist I cut my hours back and they would help me out with what I needed to buy, not what I wanted to buy like overpriced jeans and such but needed things like school supplies. I did chores around the house to earn spending money. My mom is anal retentive about cleaning so we were not allowed to leave any rooms messy and we all had chores we were responsible for.

Shannon Cassidy- - posted on 01/15/2010

I had responsabilites growing up as with my older brother and 2 younger sisters although you wouldn't have known it with them LOL. . My husband and I had to pay for our own Wedding as well. My Aunt was angry with my parents for making us pay for our Wedding but it was the best thing my Parents did for us . Now we could get out of anything that happens it maybe hard but we do find a way. Children need responsabilities .If they don't have any what will happen to them Parents won't be around forever.

Kelley - posted on 01/15/2010

Older girls pulled their $'s for their weddings (sorry that wasn't so clear on the last post).

Kelley - posted on 01/15/2010

quote: Mary,
Food, shelter, and parental compassion are "owed"...the rest is gravy

Me:
My sentiments exactly!

The two oldest got a small budget, and then pulled their own $ together.
I never had to do any house work growing up and as the result I spent alot of time 'sobing' in chaotic messes the first 5 yrs of my marriage (my husbands mother did everything, and a he assumed that's just what women did (HA!) he was one of 3 brothers) So needless the kids have responsibilities, but wow, sometimes I reather do it myself then bump heads in the battle of wills : )

ME - posted on 01/15/2010

Food, shelter, and parental compassion are "owed"...the rest is gravy



...There were five kids in my family, and I was the second oldest. I never had an auto bought for me, and I took out loans to go to college (for 12 years)...My youngest sister is spoiled rotten, and I won't be making the same mistakes with my kids that my parents made with her, whether hubby and I can afford it or not. She recently had a baby and got engaged...but my parents still feed her 4-5 nights a week, and pay for her car insurance...they also co-signed on a car loan for her, and paid for her college education (all but the last year and a half...I owe over 100,000$)...Now...don't get me wrong, I love her to pieces, it's hard not to, but she CANNOT do much of anything for herself. She simply doesn't know how, and can't be creative about problem solving in her own life because she's never had to be before. She lived at home during college, and then moved in with her fiance...she's never paid bills, been responsible for laundry, shopping, rent, you name it...she can't do it! My parents paid for my wedding, and I am VERY grateful to them for that...it was a wonderful party, and a great gift...but I didn't ask for it, and I certainly didn't expect it. They wanted to do it, because two of my other sisters had gotten married in small civil services with 15 or less people present. Now they are also paying for my youngest sister's wedding....but hers will have over 100 more guests at it then mine did, and it will be at a country club where you are required to spend at least 35,000$!!!!!!!!!!!!! She demanded that it be there, and they caved in and agreed...



DON"T feel bad about demanding that your adult children take some responsibility for what they want in life...you certainly don't want to wind up with a spoiled 25 year old who still expects to be taken care of!!!