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This is why I don't believe in spanking.
Holden says that virtually all recorded cases of spanking were “highly inappropriate.” These weren’t kids misbehaving in a big way. These were kids being normal kids.
He gives examples, like the case of a mother reading a story to her little son. She hit him for trying to turn the page of a book before she’d finished reading it.
The kids in this study were in daycare, and the audio recordings were made at the end of the day, after the parents got off work. Evenings can be very stressful for parents with young children. For many of us, this is the time when we are most likely to get cross or lose our patience. It’s the time when we are least likely to reflect on the child’s perspective. Is he deliberately misbehaving? Or he just being a kid?
That’s when the parent makes a bad judgement.
And if she happens to endorse spanking as a routine mode of discipline? Her mistakes might involve smacking her kids.