Brandy - posted on 09/08/2010 ( 11 moms have responded )
My fiance seems to think that my son (8 mths) needs to be treated differently from how we treated our daughter when she was younger. He thinks it is fine that as a baby, we responded to her every cry and didn't use CIO but he thinks that with our son, we shouldn't go to him right away because he's a boy and needs to "toughen up". Of course, I don't listen to that nonsense. Babies cry because they have needs and that is the only way to communicate them to us at that age and by meeting their needs, we are teaching them how to effectively communicate their problems and emotions with us. That is what I believe but no matter how I try to say this to him, he still leans towards being a little harsher with our little boy. I don't think he understands the impact that this unequal treatment will have on our son later in life if it continues. The other day, we were watching a show where people were dancing and we do plan on putting our daughter into dance because she loves it and when our son started getting excited about the dancing, he said "don't you even think about that, YOU can play hockey or football or do martial arts" which I thought was funny because he didn't even play sports in high school. I think it may have something to do with his fears about the way the world is and all the bullying in schools these days but he needs to lighten up.